Most recently a shocking incident occurred in a major school of capital city of Kerala. In a class room raid conducted in different divisions of 8th standard, teachers got 24 pen drives from pockets and bags of boys. All those pen drives were filled with adult clips. Kids used to exchange such pen drives in classrooms and take them to home to watch it in their PC. When kids were questioned, three of them were found to be guilty in supplying them such video clips. But reply got from one student was really shocking, “I got such clips from my father’s mobile phone”

Teachers agree that such similar incidents are happening in many schools with slight differences. Kids taking photos of teachers and girls of classroom is most common nowadays. In porno sites of you tube, such clippings of school girls and teachers are getting more clicks. Now kids are not hesitated to make a video clip of his kiss with his girl friend and later uploading it in you tube. Such stories of present kids are really shocking.

Now everything is available in finger tips, even in the case of kids – the bad effects of modern science and technology. When kids view such video clippings and photos in an innocent age, it creates a tendency to jump into such experiments. Kids loss their innocence at a younger age and try to behave like grown ups. How many incidents are we hearing school girl going out with her lover and later her clips appearing in internet?

Parents need to take extra care

Parents should think first, “what’s the factor that encourages kids to do such actions?” Now blue tooth technology is available with mobiles and tablets are available with everything. It made everything at hand-reach distance. So, it became difficult for parents to check their mobiles and privacy and teenagers utilize such situations. Internet opens a world full of easy knowledge. But it has some side effects too.

Earlier, main problem was that kids used to view porn sites and consequently they began to show less interest in their studies. That time parents were instructed to reduce computer usage and asked them to place computers in living room easily visible to everyone. Also they were asked to keep an eye on kids to know if they are spending extra time before computers. But when mobiles are available in every kid’s finger tips such advices are not enough.
Latest hand sets contain all ingredients and it’s seen in every kid’s hands nowadays. Within seconds, google and you tube open before them.

Downloading through phones is also quite easy. When a small pen drive or a memory card is able to store all those data it became easy for kids to download such things and show it to his friends. Though such things were invented for acquiring and storing knowledge, they are being used in a wrong way.

Now kids need internet to prepare project works. We can’t deny that fact. But same equipments and technology are providing them the access to adult only sites too. Teenagers are immature group and such knowledge can surely mislead them to many wrong activities. Another wrong side is that they try to do such things in real life too.

Now kids have changed a lot. They love facebook and orkutt than friends and relatives. They find pleasure in virtual relations than real ones. It is a pleasant experience to kids to chat with some unknown person of another world and curiosity to know the real details of such persons. Such activities end in some hidden dangers like video clips or physical/mental torture of a face book friend. But such events make huge waves in the innocent minds of kids and can even stay alive in their minds whole throughout their lives.

Technology is far advanced now and kids need to depend on them for study purposes. Then how can we control them – ask helpless parents.

Video game addicts

Latest villain in kid’s world is video game. Earlier kids used to play games using mobile phones of their parents. Now they are playing online games in computers. Parents say with pride, “My 4 year kid downloaded data from computer. He plays computer games well”. If parents promote him in this manner, they are slowly taking him to another world of computer addicts.

Now kids love high speed games like flying, race etc. when kids see such games repeatedly, brain absorbs things in this manner. If so, kids will be able to understand fast type data only. Brain losses its capability of storing low-speed data. They loss their interest in learning from teacher as she teaches slow. Anything with low speed gives bore to kids. Such kids may later fall under ‘Attention Disorder Syndrome’. In most cases, such addictions start from downloaded games of their parents. So, who is responsible?

How to face such a situation?

You can’t ignore it saying, ‘they are teens, let them enjoy. When they become adults, they will understand its bad effects’. In the immature age, when kids see such images and clips they loss their concentration as well as their grasping power. As a result such kids go backward in their studies. Porno clips stay in brains of an adult for 3 hours while they stay in a kid’s mind for three days – say Psychiatrists. When a kid stays in such a mental condition how can he concentrate on his studies?

Behaviour problems, feeling reluctant to mingle with others and society, self contraction, guilty feelings – these are its consequences. Such kids may develop unhealthy relationship with girls and even ladies. They may never feel respect towards girls and they see girls only through dirty eyes. Teenager’s mind is always filled with curiosity; an age which always asks them to learn new things and have new experiences. When kids see such videos, they will surely be curious to know ‘first sex lessons’ and their searches may end in some hidden traps. When kids find wrong ways to reach such things they may reach a criminal world.

Parents should be able to make them aware of both good and bad things. Give them primary lessons of self control and ask them to respect their own body and mind.

Parents of teenage girls should be more vigilant

“Lover blackmailed a teenage girl showing her video clips. He sexually exploited her for more than one year threatening with those video clips”, when you read such news in your daily newspaper, never ignore it thinking it won’t happen to your daughter. Instead make her know the matter and its seriousness. How many incidents of blackmailing and suicides are we hearing everyday!

Mothers should tell their girl kids to keep distance from such ‘love’ traps. Innocent age may not be able to see those traps hidden behind the lust of such relationships. Even if she has done a mistake, ask her never to fall in the trap of blackmailing or suicide. Instead support her to face that situation with courage. For that, mothers need to take a friendly approach and support them with their full mind.

You tube is filled with thousands of such videos of school girls and college girls, who had fallen in the trap of such ‘lovers’. Parents will be shocked seeing those visuals. Never hesitate to talk to her if she is +15. They should be aware of such false traps laid in this vast world.

It’s better to give them such lessons before they reach high school, i.e. at the age of 11-13. They should be aware of the wrong uses of mobile phones. When you buy a phone for your girl, think several times, “Is it needed now?” Also keep track of all her friends and calls. Now photoshop can easily alter normal photos to make them ready to upload to porno sites. Your kid should be well aware of such facts.

Give them warning signals

What will you say to your child when you give him a new cricket bat and ball? “Son, take care while batting and bowling. It can cause you injury”. Similarly, when you present him a new mobile, tell him about the boundaries to use. Also inform him that misuse of mobiles can lead to many bad consequences; so take care while handling it. How many parents are giving such messages to kids before giving him a new mobile phone?

We know well, smoking and drinking are harmful to health. They are shown as captions on its outer covers. Same way, tell your kids that if such instruments are handled in wrong way, it has many bad effects too.

Internet is a big door opened towards the vast world and it’s open always. We can step inside at any time as we wish. It can lead to both good rooms and bad rooms. Kids should be well aware of those wrong doors leading them towards wrong rooms. Tell them that as wrong friends make us bad, wrong sites and wrong ways make us bad.

Now computer centres are seen near schools and its agents copy such porno clips to kid’s mobiles or pen drives. If kids see such videos continuously, they may fall into hidden traps. Now teenage is the hot topic of sex market and parents should never forget that their kids are living in such an environment.

Parents should make them know of such hidden dangers. We ask them to keep distance from fire and water. Same way, ask them to keep distance from such dangers. When you hear about such things, discuss them openly with your kids, in a language that suits their age.

Ask them to respect their body and tell them that you should never allow anyone else to play it like a toy or instrument. With love and a little seriousness, parents should teach them such lessons. If so, kids will take precautions of their own for their safety. Such advices will make them to control their minds and never fall in the traps such addictions. Parents should be good friends to their kids from their early childhood. Then only they will be free enough in their teens to openly talk such matters. Kids will also feel free to tell his parents, if he had any such bad experiences. If so, parents will be able to take suitable measures to avoid such possibilities in future thus protecting their child.

A simple phone is enough for a teenager. Before buying a modern cell phone for your kid with everything available, think twice, “Is it needed at this age?” Kids should never exploit parents’ ignorance and less knowledge. Assure yourself.

Special note for fathers

In most cases, fathers are responsible for it, though indirectly. Kid may view such clippings from his father’s mobile. Kids ask his father’s mobile to play games and a kid of 7-8 years know it well how to operate. In curiosity he may open every folder and if he happens to see any adult-only clippings in his father’s mobile folders we can’t predict how a small kid will respond. He may loss good impression about his dad and such video clips may take away his concentration in studies. He may develop unhealthy relationships with girls. So, it’s better not to keep such videos in your mobiles.

Improve social relationships

Modern gadgets have made kids ‘virtual world babies’. Instead of society and friends, they communicate with virtual friends of some other part of the world. A kid using i-pad ear phone always, chatting with some online friend, sms world – modern technology has paved way to such methods of communication. When everything is at finger tips, importance of society and relationships have almost diminished. Though always active in a virtual world, in reality they are living in lonely dark continents. They are not able to adjust well with the society or not able to face even simple problems.
So, it’s the duty of parents to create a relationship between their kids and society. Ask them to mingle openly with friends, relatives and environment. Through such activities kids are learning a lot of lessons and having a lot of experiences. Modern gadget world can provide only wrong data on virtual relationships. Kids should be well aware of such facts. If your kid wants to make friendship with neighbourhood boy, allow him to do it. Let him grow in a real world of fresh air than binding himself to a virtual unknown world full of dangers. So, you are fully responsible for it.