True relationship does not mean d true relationship between two lovers it can be of any types, it can be in b/w friends, parents, cousins, mother n child, or any type of relation that you can think of have one true friend of mine and we never hide anything from each other I know each and every aspect of his life and he knows each every aspect of my life. we have differences in our nature n behavior but we accept each other with each other’s pros n cons. It is all depends on person to person and one most imp thing is that in any of the relationship true relationship exists only when both persons want to make that relationship because it’s never b one sided. t is never an easy task to resolve what goes wrong in an unsuccessful relationship. But here I have tried to figure out some factors which have to be looked and considered with utmost care for the smooth running of a relationship. This is entirely my personal view.
Space: Give your spouse the needed space to sustain individuality. Though relationship is a two-way process, it is composed of individuals and one shouldn't forget his/her own individuality and also not try to hamper the same of the other. Too much control in a relationship sometimes lead to suffocation and then u think that u should be come out of the relation. So, try maintaining the relationship in a way so that it keeps on the individuality of the partners along with the smooth control over it.
Understandability: Understandability plays a key role in a relation. you need to know each other quite well so that in situations when one might feel awkward, the other can handle it to overcome. If there are conflicts in between individual perception, then we should respect each other's opinions rather imposing one's views on the other.Trust: The major role is played in a relation is by trust. Relationship means bond of trust and if u don't trust your partner, you are unfit for a good relation. However, one can take advantage of another’s' trust. In that case also, it will help u to understand that people who r not trustworthy r not suitable for relationships and u should try to avoid them.
Ego: Another important thing to look carefully in a relationship is individual ego. Everybody should have ego, but that should not be allowed to outplay the relationship bond. In a relation, ego should have the lower priority. The prime preference should be what is good for the relation. May be in doing so, sometimes it hurts your ego, but the best part of it is that when u show that your relationship is above your ego, then it moves towards a quite sustainable position, where conflicts can hardly cause damage to it. Each and every one of us has people in our lives that can be difficult, and sometimes even hard to be around. It could be a spouse, a friend, or a child, a brother or sister, or even a co-worker.
Relationships are hard at times, and sometimes very complicated and hard to maintain happiness and structure. They have their ups and downs just like anything else, but it is the way you choose to approach the difficult situation that will define its outcome.
It is all about how you choose to react. Every emotion that you throw into the mix is your choice. If you want to be mean and resentful or even hurtful in this sensitive situation, then that is your choice... I am not sure if it is a very good one, but never the less, it is your choice.You can also approach it with kindness and understanding. You do not always have to have cement shoes on and stay steadfast on your position. You may not agree with the other person, but a calm, soft approach is always better than being the aggressor.
If people would just listen more and try to be understanding to the other person's point of view, there would be a whole lot less controversy amongst people, and the world would be at peace.
If we accept that:
1) We cannot love one person forever
2) We cannot be loved by the same person forever
3) We can make the most out of the love/attraction we have at the current moment,
then the world will be a lovely place and no one will ever get hurt from relationship.
Relationships are such a challenge because life pulls us in opposite directions at the same time.Our personality feels the need to be unique and special and so our focus lies on how we are different from others. Differences hold the potential to create conflict.At the same time, our souls live through connection with others.We are challenged to rise above our personal preferences to discover how we and the other are the same.Our overall need lies in balancing these two tendencies.
Life is nothing but your reactions to the different situations you encounter every moment. When you have taken birth, your life starts taking turns, it starts moving, running and even jumping as per your reactions, which come out of your thoughts. A person becomes as he thinks actually. Life is nothing but a phenomena, a process of thinking, reacting and doing!
Relationships are the bonds that develop between individuals. These bonds cannot be seen but can only be felt. In simple words, these are the bonds of attachments. Life starts appearing simple if it is lived with relationships. Moreover, it is said that more the relationships, better the life. Relationships not only increase your social circle but they also show you new paths and ways of the desired life. We all want to be happy; we all want to be satisfied. What actually happens is that you have to put some effort, for your own happiness. You have to perform certain works; certain activities that will help you attain praises, compliments and good wishes, which make you happy, satisfied.
This clearly means that you are dependent upon others for Your happiness. This is MY life, MY happiness, and then why it is with other people, who don’t even share my soul, my body. I was born alone; others had not participated with my birth, and then why my happiness is with them? Why only they can make me satisfied? Why they can change my life?
Relationships are your bonds that you have kept in order to attain satisfaction, in order to console yourself that although you have taken birth alone but now when you are surviving in the society, you are not alone. There are many people, as per your thinking, who love you, who care for you and who can do many things for you. But the reality is that they wont do anything. They are just there because they also wish to attain happiness by having relationships, just as you. This clearly means that society is just a circle of greed, wants and lusts. You want something and you play games to win that. You want
You want something and you play games to win that. You want something for your satisfaction, which is with other people! Don’t you think it is quite strange? Our happiness, our satisfaction is with ourselves only. What you require is realizations. You have to realize, you have to feel the things around you. You have to be conscious. You have to be aware; you have to listen the sounds of nature. Because every sound is a signal. Every sound in nature whether it is of birds, trees and sky, all have messages and sounds of love, fear, humor, emotions etc. You only need to listen them. You don’t need other people to guide on your life. This is just your life, so why others should govern it?
The rule is, “Forget others and live with yourself. When I say with yourself, I say so because up till now you all are living with others i.e. your life’s emotions, your life’s reactions are dependent upon them. You become happy and sad on their actions due to your reactions. Now start living with yourself, unbothered about others. Let them call you greedy, mean and selfish. Because in reality, you will not be, rather you will be free from the bonds that you had created earlier for the desire of your satisfaction. Now your happiness is with you only. Life is really beautiful, it only needs to be maintained and clarified. You are the creator of your world, so create it according to you, so that you can consider yourself KING OF THE WORLD, which finally, surely you will become!”
Dating is defined as Courtship (sometimes called dating or going steady) is the process of selecting and attracting a mate for marriage. Dating is also defined as use of chemical analysis to estimate the age of geological specimens .
Indian Girls are tough to date:
"60% of the girls are below average looking" wow, I wonder who does all these surveys. I don't think Indian girls are tough to date. Because if it was so then we wouldn’t have seen so many couples rolling on roads. Nowadays girls are no different than guys. They are very cautious and conservative [most of our girls].their first priority will be finding a husband and most of girls are inspired by saas bahu serials and most of the south Indian girls are inspired by telugu movies which are the saga of tandem occurrence of heart squeezing fantasies. So it is obvious that most of the girls are in search of Mahesh babus, Allu arjuns, hrithik roshans, siddarths and nitins.So if you fail to look like or behave in an eccentric way their stupid heroes do, then you are not their match. The bottom line is, go abroad and marry a Mexican. Girls think carefully before going on a date with a guy they don't like ending up with wrong note. so they r selective. Positive side of girls when they choose correctly that it ends in a good conversation.
if a beautiful girls show attitude then its normal but even nowadays a ugly looking girl is just like that.
In India the 60% of girls are below average looking. Why man why ,Even they are human why they are showing so much nakras and make very tough to date . so common guys let’s put a solution to this topic and make them realize even there are more good looking guys than girls and just be down to earth .
Indian girls have our family values and culture within . Their parents give us enough liberty to do whatever they want but at the same time they do teach their values. it’s not in our culture to date or have living relationship, but times are changing still somewhere in back of our head girls do have our values when girls look at a guy girls just don’t look at their physical appearances (like most of the men do) girls assess boys. Girls think about future girls think is he going to be the person who she would like to get up with every morning is he the person who she would like to spend my her with. In Australia than India, men have more respect for women over here unlike India where dickheads exist..
How to ask an indian gal for a date
The best thing to do is to go to the girl, look her into eyes and politely but confidently ask her out, if you are well mannered, nice looking then she won’t be nasty for sure at least. If her response is negative, then try to convince her in your own style. There is not and there has never been any typical formula for success in this matter but confidence and being straightforward helps a lot especially if the girl is a decent one.
If you really want to ask an Indian girl out, u have to follow her a couple of times and have her route plotted out. Then get a couple of cohorts to wait at a specified point. Them the next day, you jump out of a manhole directly in front of her, and play 'aa aa eeeee oo oo oooo.. mera dil na todo..', you kno, the govinda song with your friends doing rhythmic left to right and right to left gyrations behind you
Why boys are always expected to pay bills on date?
Why boys are always expected to pay Hotel, restaurant, flower bouquet, commutation etc. expenses when they go with girl on date. where is equality and gender discrimination then?.Well, it’s always expected out of gentleman to pay the bill when he’s with a lady. But times have changed. Any good couple (not the man and wife) should share the expenses or at least offer the guy once. May be girl should let the guy pay but next time she should politely ask the guy if she could have the pleasure of paying the bill.If the gentleman asked the lady out, then it is his obligation to pick up all entertainment expenses, including flowers.
In today’s society and the willingness of women wanting to be treated equal, ladies usually set the ground rules up before the date even happens, including if it's his treat, her treat, or Dutch. If it is even a date or just "hanging' like friends do" type of gathering. If he will even get a peck on the cheek or possibly better. The issue seems to be set that if the guy pays for everything, he expect something in the end for all he's shelled out. That's not the way it used to be, but that's the way it looks to be, so times have changed and with it, the rules of etiquette.
1. If you are with a girl who is more beautiful than you deserve and she knows it. Then you have to pay the bill or she won’t come with u again.
2. If you are with a girl who is more beautiful than yo u deserve and she doesn’t know it then she may also consider paying her share.
3. If you are with a girl who is less beautiful than you deserve and you still pay the bills then you are a fool. She will ask to date you every week.
4. If you are with a girl who is less beautiful than you deserve and you know it then she will always pay the bill.
In olden days girls never used to go for work. So they did not have money and it has continued like that and it was embedded in the DNA of female species. now time and watch have changes we should share responsibly.
Because generally in Indian Society Girls don't go out and earn but guys do. and it’s obviously expected of Guys to take care of the girl he is dating, taking care includes paying the bill, and it would be embarrassing and Insulting for a guy if a girl pays the bill.
Indian girls are spoiling western influence.
What has Ram sena done in Karnataka violence should not be there in democracy. Even I do not support violence. but has not the social fabric being damaged by girls smoking in pubs, dancing with vulgarity, drinking like men it is western influence, financial independence of women ,which policy makers think would bring empowerment to women rather it is spoiling them. It is contrary to Indian culture. There should not be any fashion show other than traditional Fernandina dress.bollywood film should be strictly censored in term of violence sex, vulgarity women can work anywhere but they should be encouraged to take profession like teacher , doctors, Nurses. Girls should not take jobs In bpo, military
We can't blame if a girl goes to pub or lounge.. it’s their choice. It’s their independence. And if it is not then beat all those boys . who molest girls , who watch porn movies, who stare at girls on the streets. Ban all the indian movies and Hollywood too , because they show these all reality. If they broken the laws then do stop them, but if they are making their choice to live their life as they want. we are NOBODY to forbid them.As Vivekananda said “you are the designer of your destiny “perfectly suits everyone in this world.
Spiritual
That’s the spirit; I can say the word spiritual came from the word spirit. Now a day, I am experiencing a spiritual life. Now a day I came to know our Hindu religion. I am a Hindu and I proud to be a Hindu and all should be proud to be Hindu. It is a matter of sorrow that many Hindu citizens don’t know about our Hindu religion. Our Hindu religion is based on the true love- humanity prevails all around. The word humanity means the care that we can do for our neighbor, beggars, helpless people, family-brother, sister, father, mother, wife, grandfather and all human. We should not overlook any one so that be left unloved. Love doesn’t mean to use and left them as a dead. Love is to nourish not to denturist. In our Hindu religion we focus on the happiness within of our mind, body and soul. We don’t want to conserve the material. Our religion is not materialistic, is free from the matter use. Man is becoming weak in today’s life and it should not be overlook that our life should be fruitful; our life should have a ultimate goal free from mortal-immortal, anger, hatred, selfishness. We should have a mind so that love and peace for other. Our bad habits due to our bad friends circle and bad people make us so cheap minded that we don’t think well. So the important thing for us and all round development that we should have a good friend circle who never thinks’ bad for any one, he worships god or not doesn’t matter but he should have a strong and good thoughts about the wellness of the society. A good circle plays a very important life in our life so we must have a good circle of good people. We should be a helping nature. We should humor the name of the god by mouth or in mind so many times in a whole day before taking food, while sleeping and after wake up early in the morning. Whenever there any trouble comes we should remember the name of the god and pray to give me good mind, so that I can get out of the problem. God has sent us to the earth and given the great body with some aim and we should take help of it and to be working for the humanity. We should not be violent and never talk to bad mouth people and never be a bad mouth speaking people this make mind, body and soul dirty. No problem how dirty you became, name the god then he will make you a holy person. And then never do the mistake that you did earlier and by the result you became dirty. Really no any place or thing will give you peace but follow the path of the god, then you will be all around developed and the society will be heaven. After this we will have to worry about the heaven after our death. There is a seat reserved for you.
With love and blessing of god, take care………………………………
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Cloth Washing
Hey! Hi, me not a laundry boy and also not have a laundry but I think there is a need of some special tips to how to make our cloth neat and clean in case when we have not a whirlpool washing machine. Yes I am writing this article only because of a reason because now days I am repeatedly washing my cloths because there is no options. My all dresses are not neat and tidy. In other words or in a very popular word, I can say that all of my cloth is dirty. Answer me who am responsible for this? Obviously me! I used to wear my dresses only once or twice and left it in the wardrobe again without washing them. That’s the big reason to worry, result a huge cloth mountain to wash. Now I will tell you that when I come to know that my all cloths are left dirty. This happened when there was a birthday party of one of my closest friend, Ranbir. He invited me to the birthday party. It was sharp eight in the night. After purchasing a nice gift for him, I bathed to get prepared for the birthday party. And when I opened my wardrobe, I was there is not any washed dress to wear, I became I little bit tense and nervous about the party. Then I have an idea in my mind, I suddenly called another close friend, fortunately he was having a nice dress to wear. I rush to his home and got prepared there. Finally I was in the party home to celebrate. All people were present in the party. We all enjoyed a lot in the party, as per the rule, we used to beat the birthday guy very badly, just for enjoyment so that he can remember us always and every year invites us. After that the main work begins do or die. Wash all the cloth by itself without washing machine because I haven’t a washing machine. It was necessary because after 2nd semester, the third semester classes were to start. Now I will not take your more time and say you how to wash your cloths in steps. These steps as follows:-
Step1. First of all collect all the dirty cloth which you want to wash.
Step2. Choose a good quality detergent powder, recommended washing powder NIrma, because be Indian buy Indian.
Step3. Take half bucket water and adds detergents so that it gives foam.
Step4. Squeezes out the dirt of the cloth by wetting the cloths by plain water.
Step5. Dip the squeeze cloth to the detergent water.
Step6. Sit relax and have a coffee or tea, whatever you want to take and relax for minimum half an hour.
Step7. Wash thoroughly the cloths with water soap and water. Brush is not recommended as it decreases cloth quality and sharpness.
Step8. Minimum two times dipping in water to remove the extra dirt is necessary. Also take care to use water carefully.
Step9. Invert all the cloths, so that in sun extremely high temperature it doesn’t get fade.
Step10. When the cloth is get wet properly, then it is ready to another process – ironing, then wearing.
Have a nice day and take care.
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Waiting for a friend
I am writing this article because today one of my best friends was coming from their college means that Annamalai University. He is studying their electronic and communication engineering (ECE). Now, in 2nd year and is to go in 3rd year. He is a bright student because he studies well his subject. His native place is in Jharkhand state and its dumka, sub-capital of Jharkhand. He informed me that, he is coming to Chennai to meet me and to go back to their native place. He informed me that after a journey of six hour he will reach at 5 pm Chennai, so I reached there sharp at 5 in the evening in the C.M.B.T. (Chennai moffusil bus terminus). This bus stand is the largest bus stand in the Asia. Then I received a call from him that he will reach Chennai after a time interval of 10 minutes and I said him that I am waiting for you, so come soon. But instead of 10 minutes I waited near about 1 hour for him. I was very much excited at first and happy also to meet with my best friend. But due to a prolonged waiting for my friend I became tired because I was waiting for him in the standing position and in the presence of direct sun light. There is suggestion for you all that instead of saying your friend that I will come in time or I am coming in that sharp time, tell him that I am coming and call you when I will reach that place. in this way other person will not feel discomfort while waiting for you. One another way is that be in time tell the exact time and be there in that time. In this you will be respected more and your friend will also be happy. Anyway, finally I met with him he was also very happy to meet with me. Now, he wanted to go to toilet, but he don’t know that where to go for toilet. I was knowing, where the toilet is, and then I told him that way is the toilet. Then after toilet we finally wait for the bus to come. The bus number is 170, which used to go to my home. After waiting 20 minutes bus came with a large crowd inside we were feeling very difficult to get in. by our labour we were in and standing inside. After reaching to my home bus stop travelling a journey of 10 minutes, we were in the home. We chatted a lot about each other matter and both were very happy.
To be continued……………………………………..7
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