We talk on our side so much about what you can do to be successful and to get more of what you wish for. What we write, however rare, is the failure and the failure. It is the failure to even to life.

One might even say:

To be successful, must master the art of making the most of his own failure and to fail with style and dignity.

These here are some tips:

Tip 1: Refuse to be himself, a failure

Do you know what my personal definition of a loser? A loser is not someone who has failed. No, a failure is someone who fails and then the other or the outside world, the blame for his own failures.

For someone who fails, I personally respect. For to fail to have to act first and try it. And that is in my eyes something that deserves recognition.

Unattractive, it is only when someone sinks into self-pity after the failure and declared the sole victims.

Once you have failed, you say so please:

• Yes, I have not do a how I wanted it.
• Yes, I am disappointed and frustrated.
• Yes, I went through my actions, and perhaps even more by my sins of omission contributed to it has come,
• And I'm lucky to grow up. I can handle it. And that's not the end.

And then you make the back straight. Press the Sergeant. Lift the chin to. And you maintain posture and refuse to be a failure in spite of your failure. Because whether you are a loser or not, that you alone decide by how you deal with your failure.

Tip 2: Change your perspective

It is said that astronauts that you have when you return to Earth a different outlook on life. You have seen the world from a great height as a whole. And that changed the view on things. That the details of daily life is in a different perspective.

This changing perspective also helps if you have failed:

• If your wife or your dream you will not dream man.
• When the publisher has rejected your book.
• Or if you did not get the job.
• Everything is not beautiful. Of course not. And it is entirely appropriate then disappointed to be sad and frustrated.

But in this situation can also change the perspective and ask yourself:

• What's the worst that can arise from this failure? And how realistic it is that the worst happens? What is likely to happen? "
• What will probably mean this thing for you in 10 years?
• If you still experience ever again happiness and satisfaction?
• What could be the good heart of this disappointing thing? What could arise from it good? (And the most superficially bad things have actually also has positive aspects, they have to find it.)
• If you have something messed up, then you may be dissatisfied and frustrated. That is human and ok. And while it helps to overcome the matter more quickly if you look from a higher perspective on your failure.

Tip 3: Differentiate failure and feedback

Sometimes we think we are failed. We have only suffered a small loss. We are not a failure. In reality, one thing was on our way simply does not work the way we had imagined.

Anyone who advertises 100 times and only get to this event, who might think at the 100th Cancellation, he would have failed. But he failed, of course only if he gives up and the project "New Job" not pursued. You have failed until you have given up. If you have fallen and remain lying.

The way it is sometimes in life. It's not always smooth. And even the very successful among us rarely create anything for the first time is very rarely talked about the difficulties on the path to success. That is why we sometimes feel that it is like the successful easy to come to where they are. But is it not mostly.

Read the biographies of influential people sometimes. Since it is full of bad decisions and failures. The only thing that successful personalities of us ordinary people this is different: They are once again risen, as they fell.

When you have a goal (to become job, the dream woman conquer, etc.), and then does not work out, then you can of course be interpreted as failure. One could also say that you, the life in the place where a response.

This feedback of life could be:

• I've tried not long enough.
• Or there was one ingredient missing in my recipe for success, to get where I want to go.
• Or maybe my goal is not realistic. If that were true, how could I approach it smaller?
• Or I Will I boycott itself, perhaps unconsciously, not even reach my goal?
• Or is my basic approach is wrong. Maybe I'm somewhere made a mistake. Or I do in my situation, just do what everyone else is doing well, which is not always the best choice. Maybe I have different approach to the matter.
• In such a situation, you can then ask the following question:

What I want to accomplish with my project anyway? What exactly have I promised that? And I can what I have promised it, maybe get a different and even easier?

What is the biggest bottleneck right here? What stands between me and my destination?
How could I change my approach? How other that were successful here? From whom can I learn? Who can help me?
They are 3 tips on how to better and more beautiful failure. Well, "nice" is perhaps exaggerated. Failure of course makes no fun.

But:

• Failure with dignity and refuse to be a failure.
• Change your perspective and see from above to your situation.
• And you can analyze your failure as a response to life and think about what you can learn from your failures.

The failure is just part of life. For each of us. And so it is important to anticipate failure as part of the way and then properly deal with the stumbling blocks of life.