She is in real trouble

One of my friends is in a fix right now, and she is very much confused over the issue. Moreover, she does not know what to do. She has been, diagnosed with a problem that affects and makes mental disorder. I know this is a mental health illness and too disturbing for her to make adjustment with that. Actually, she is married to a man who is addicted to drugs and sleeps most of the time under the influence. He does very little to earn any thing and is kind of burden on my friend, and if she say or insists anything to him, he gets offensive to the full. He is, in fact paid by my friend for all his expenses. He is lousy, really. I hate him and pity my friend for she got such a useless hubby.

She has two kids aged three and eight years old. I feel too bad for them, it is so very unfair for them to stay in such unhealthy conditions of living, but my friend cannot help this. Despite I try my best to make her feel better but I can do things up to an extant only, I have every little help and motivation I could offer to such a nice girl that my friend is. Especially while she does tiding up the relations repeatedly and makes things look brighter, it gets back to same useless shape again and my friend finds herself in tears. Again, I do not want to interfere in their affair because if I say anything he gets offensive to the core.

She was in a rehab cente

rMy friend had even been in a recovery center for her mental illness, which gotten worse, last year going through such a bad situation. Last night I thought I could go to her place to make things right in her house in a situation that asks for my help but when I reached there, it was in an awful state. I was in a sorry state of mind to see her place and walked out of thee doing nothing much. I do not remember much about it, but I do not feel like walking out there again. My friend’s husband was in a state of blackout where as she and her children were in such a shocked state. I only managed to inform her close relatives and came back while they arrived.

She had a go at every thing next day while I visited her place on her call; I was so worried about her fearing she may get another attack of depression. However, I came back walking out, saying that I did not trust her husband any more that he is willing to recover unless she goes to a counceller’s help to make things right for both of them. This is not easy to pass ones life together in such conditions, as he is not that simple a case that could be taken care without some long-term treatments in a rehab centre. He always said that he would take care of his family to forget the whole thing the next day.

When I saw the house on my last visit where I had been so many times before, the condition was too painful. Every thing was scattered and in a bad shape. It makes me feel so bad while I say but this is fact that her kids would be better off in children care home if she is not able to handle them in the absence of her husband who is destined for a rehab center in any case. Maybe it would him do something about that would change his life; he is capable but too hopeless for the time being. I know he has his own problems, but I think that this is his own fault for taking drugs and making his own life and that of my friend’s life a total    mess.

He is desperate

This is his routine since he lost his job, he simply started using those bad drugs and goes back to sleep. I asked him to do different things until he gets a job but he simply keep on making false promises and never does any thing worth. He likes to remain in bed after taking a lot of bad stuff that makes him ineffective. I feel so bad that I feel like suggesting her to come out of the relationship and start allover again. I think her kids would be better off without such a lousy fellow who has no concern for them. If I were her, then I know I would not be able to keep such a person any where near myself for a moment, I would never tolerate such a person for a single day, come what may. However, she cannot go on like this.

I do not know what the answer is. I feel so desperate over the situation and hoping for the best for my friend. I am feeling as if I am myself in a fix and not my friend. I did not know what to do until yesterday but everything is taking a shape right now. I do not want to go back to hospital/center where I have arranged him with the help of his family members. I know this would be hard on him and a costly affair as well because such treatment cost lots of money and consume time as well. The household would be disturbed for a long time, children would suffer at different levels but that is part of the problem.

Now that her husband has been, admitted in a rehabilitation center now, as he has a serious problem, which was so troublesome for both of them? However, he is still not getting the seriousness of the trouble that he is creating for her. I am sure he would be all right in a couple of months and shall be able to come back as a completely new person. I would agree that they probably had their reasons why he is in the care center and not with the family. Probably the nursing staff that is, trained handling such jobs is able to take better care for him in a more professional way.