Very true, most of the responsibility lies with the parents and if mistakes are made one should be able to accept and make amends at the right time before it is too late ..

Flexibility makes a difference. There are still believers who believe, Dandam Dasha Gunam Bhavatey. " Means using the rod is the way to treat a child to induce discipline. This belief is far from truth.

Today's children are much better informed and are capable of taking decisions. They need support and initial guidance from parents. Rest is seen as interference.

Agree with you regarding the point that today's children are more informed. But the fact remains if the parents are unaware of this fact and stick to their habits of yore, will not produce the desired results. The solution is, parents also should grow along with their children. This enables the parents to know the changing habits in the children. On the whole parents should act as a friend, guide and philosopher.

I am not at all sure whether adult children want you as their guide and philosopher because their outlook is different ...Being a friend also has its limitations. As long as you agree that their needs and their lifestyle is different, you could start from there to build a better relationship with your children, that's what is lacking with most parents, they lay down rules that they themselves may not believe in, and expect their grown children to follow it !

Today's children need direction abundantly supplemented with powerful motivation to drive them on their chosen lines & to not get diluted with other works and perform poorly. They are adept with the technological realm of life but there is a great need to imbibe a sense of sticking to one thing & prospering at the same time treating everyone with kindness and equanimity. Parents role today is to grow with their children along the lines of Science & inject their Moral, Spiritual & Motivational aspects to build a firm and secure future.

Having a Role model in the form of parents will help a lot. After  all good habits start from Home. There is no better educational institute than home. There are no better teachers than the parents.

epraneeth77 wrote:

Today's children need direction abundantly supplemented with powerful motivation to drive them on their chosen lines & to not get diluted with other works and perform poorly. They are adept with the technological realm of life but there is a great need to imbibe a sense of sticking to one thing & prospering at the same time treating everyone with kindness and equanimity. Parents role today is to grow with their children along the lines of Science & inject their Moral, Spiritual & Motivational aspects to build a firm and secure future.

What does along the lines of science mean ? please elaborate ...I agree that interaction and communication that yields positive results is helpful and essential for both since there is a chance of misunderstanding arising from both sides .Parents need not think that they are far too wise, at times our children many teach us a few things and we should have the bent of mind to accept that certain things ,they may know better than us.

Taking the things for granted as far as child upbringing by the parents is generally considered as root cause for conflicts. The parents should learn to respect the children's view after a particular stage particularly during the adolescent stage. Involvement with the children does magic. Children often expect a Pat on the shoulder.

There are different kinds of problems that a growing almost adult child faces  - social, disciplinary and educational.If there is misunderstanding between parents and if it is a one parent family then problems can aggravate , also in a joint family where there is too much authority shown by the elders.. similarly poverty too can be factor.