Lacking in social manners

Let's see our Indians (I'm not talking about exceptions.)how they behave during eating be it in a social feast or a Banquet in a five star hotel.

Making slurping noises and belching loudly in such a way that the entire gathering turns towards the eater who is oblivious of all these incidents around him relishing food. I must say that such eaters are Master "Head Turners and attention Grabbers."

Very true , people make a spectacle of themselves , even n restaurants where I see many people spill food outside their plates...I dont see how this can happen ...I feel that social graces and manners should be taught right from childhood to make an individual a complete person.

True Usha. Good manners should start from home. They won't come and fall in our lap. They have to be injected by the parents.

To some extent our current education system is responsible for this kind of behavior of people. Today most of the schools in our country give more importance to the marks obtained in the mark sheets, and not on the behavior and moral issues. Very few schools pay attention to teach social values to kids. kids learn by watching what their elders are doing and try to copy them. So it is important for the elders to change their behavior and schools to focus on overall development of the kid.

Manoj Kumar Lamba wrote:

To some extent our current education system is responsible for this kind of behavior of people. Today most of the schools in our country give more importance to the marks obtained in the mark sheets, and not on the behavior and moral issues. Very few schools pay attention to teach social values to kids. kids learn by watching what their elders are doing and try to copy them. So it is important for the elders to change their behavior and schools to focus on overall development of the kid.

True Manoj. People now focus only on marks and money and ignore the more important aspects of personality such as manners and civility.

Discipline, behavioral  patterns and other good habits should start from the house. It's not advisable to depend on the schools which stage comes later. So, what I want to drive home is, all good habits should be taught in the home itself. Home should be the first school and parents should be the firstteachers.

Now, I have stopped complaining about lack of discipline and manners.  People will not improve just because of our wishes.  I have stopped using public bus because nobody believes in queue. first you have to struggle for getting in the bus. Then you will have to struggle even for going out.  Not to speak of overcrowding and discourtsy during journey. The old men as well as women feel very embarassed.  

Discipline  should be taught in the house right from the childhood. If a dog trainer can make the dog whatever he wants that the dog should do, why not humans ? If it is learned in the very initial stages of life, discipline is not a hard thing to learn and implement.

It is true that education from both school and home play an important role in moulding the character of children. They grow up by imitating their parents and friends. They follow what their teachers teach. “Yatha Raja Thatha Praja”(As the King, so are the subjects). So the king should prove his worth.

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

Parents teachers,friends, friends parents all make an impact to the child and unless parents are keeping a constant watch and monitoring a child's behavior, correcting him or her as and when it is necessary, it is likely that negative traits will be picked up faster than positive ones from outside home ..Of course if parents themselves are lax and not very careful about their own behavior , one cannot expect any better from their children. Whe parents ill treat their parents or in laws or are rude and abusive, children pick up these traits fast and unless the outside atmosphere is better and balances out , the child is likely to grow up into a negative personality

rambabu wrote:

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

 

I am sorry to say but the fact is most of our womenfolks while teaching good manners to their daughters overlook the mistakes of their male children which makes all the difference. Mothers will have to treat boys and girls on equal terms that will help improve the society. I agree girls/women behave far better in public compared to their male counterparts.  

suni51 wrote:

rambabu wrote:

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

 

I am sorry to say but the fact is most of our womenfolks while teaching good manners to their daughters overlook the mistakes of their male children which makes all the difference. Mothers will have to treat boys and girls on equal terms that will help improve the society. I agree girls/women behave far better in public compared to their male counterparts.  

 

Gender discrimination in child upbringing will lead to several ill effects on the children. There is a possibility of children becoming rebels or juvenile delinquent .

rambabu wrote:

suni51 wrote:

rambabu wrote:

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

 

I am sorry to say but the fact is most of our womenfolks while teaching good manners to their daughters overlook the mistakes of their male children which makes all the difference. Mothers will have to treat boys and girls on equal terms that will help improve the society. I agree girls/women behave far better in public compared to their male counterparts.  

 

Gender discrimination in child upbringing will lead to several ill effects on the children. There is a possibility of children becoming rebels or juvenile delinquent .

 

That is an extreme case but even otherwise we see men taking women for granted in day today dealings because they are made to believe that they are superior to women>instead the message should be that women and men are different yet complementary since one cannot exist without the other..

usha manohar wrote:

rambabu wrote:

suni51 wrote:

rambabu wrote:

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

 

I am sorry to say but the fact is most of our womenfolks while teaching good manners to their daughters overlook the mistakes of their male children which makes all the difference. Mothers will have to treat boys and girls on equal terms that will help improve the society. I agree girls/women behave far better in public compared to their male counterparts.  

 

Gender discrimination in child upbringing will lead to several ill effects on the children. There is a possibility of children becoming rebels or juvenile delinquent .

 

That is an extreme case but even otherwise we see men taking women for granted in day today dealings because they are made to believe that they are superior to women>instead the message should be that women and men are different yet complementary since one cannot exist without the other..

 

True, but I did not mean that besides I am a strong believer in equal treatment to all including male and female children or adult. I see so many cases of different treatments to male and female children in same families.

suni51 wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

rambabu wrote:

suni51 wrote:

rambabu wrote:

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

 

I am sorry to say but the fact is most of our womenfolks while teaching good manners to their daughters overlook the mistakes of their male children which makes all the difference. Mothers will have to treat boys and girls on equal terms that will help improve the society. I agree girls/women behave far better in public compared to their male counterparts.  

 

Gender discrimination in child upbringing will lead to several ill effects on the children. There is a possibility of children becoming rebels or juvenile delinquent .

 

That is an extreme case but even otherwise we see men taking women for granted in day today dealings because they are made to believe that they are superior to women>instead the message should be that women and men are different yet complementary since one cannot exist without the other..

 

True, but I did not mean that besides I am a strong believer in equal treatment to all including male and female children or adult. I see so many cases of different treatments to male and female children in same families.

 

Yes discrimination is also due to economic reasons since earlier menfolks were the bread earners ..Now with changed times people need to change their  attitudes as well

usha manohar wrote:

suni51 wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

rambabu wrote:

suni51 wrote:

rambabu wrote:

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

 

I am sorry to say but the fact is most of our womenfolks while teaching good manners to their daughters overlook the mistakes of their male children which makes all the difference. Mothers will have to treat boys and girls on equal terms that will help improve the society. I agree girls/women behave far better in public compared to their male counterparts.  

 

Gender discrimination in child upbringing will lead to several ill effects on the children. There is a possibility of children becoming rebels or juvenile delinquent .

 

That is an extreme case but even otherwise we see men taking women for granted in day today dealings because they are made to believe that they are superior to women>instead the message should be that women and men are different yet complementary since one cannot exist without the other..

 

True, but I did not mean that besides I am a strong believer in equal treatment to all including male and female children or adult. I see so many cases of different treatments to male and female children in same families.

 

Yes discrimination is also due to economic reasons since earlier menfolks were the bread earners ..Now with changed times people need to change their  attitudes as well

 

Sorry again but I have seen these things mostly in upper class families. They allow their male children to act as they wish or do what they like. Moms laugh the mistakes if someone points to that or feel bad that an outsider (even if a relative) dared bringing it to their notice. I am not saying all moms are same but I can tell you more than 50% are the same.

suni51 wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

suni51 wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

rambabu wrote:

suni51 wrote:

rambabu wrote:

Our age old saying says MatruDevo  Devo Bhava, PitruDevo  Bhava and Acharya Devo Bhava. It's implied that discipline and good habits should start from the home first. Only then the Teacher's role starts.

 

I am sorry to say but the fact is most of our womenfolks while teaching good manners to their daughters overlook the mistakes of their male children which makes all the difference. Mothers will have to treat boys and girls on equal terms that will help improve the society. I agree girls/women behave far better in public compared to their male counterparts.  

 

Gender discrimination in child upbringing will lead to several ill effects on the children. There is a possibility of children becoming rebels or juvenile delinquent .

 

That is an extreme case but even otherwise we see men taking women for granted in day today dealings because they are made to believe that they are superior to women>instead the message should be that women and men are different yet complementary since one cannot exist without the other..

 

True, but I did not mean that besides I am a strong believer in equal treatment to all including male and female children or adult. I see so many cases of different treatments to male and female children in same families.

 

Yes discrimination is also due to economic reasons since earlier menfolks were the bread earners ..Now with changed times people need to change their  attitudes as well

 

Sorry again but I have seen these things mostly in upper class families. They allow their male children to act as they wish or do what they like. Moms laugh the mistakes if someone points to that or feel bad that an outsider (even if a relative) dared bringing it to their notice. I am not saying all moms are same but I can tell you more than 50% are the same.

Yes that's what I mean, attitudes need to change ..Even now when a man cooks the womenfolk frown on the wife or the sister for making a 'man' cook when it is actually the duty of the woman to do so.. It happens among my relatives too and it is not easy to change their thinking but it has to happen through a slow process and also probably through their own children ..

It happened in my own family. I remember vividly when I wake up early along with my mother to help my mother in her cooking chores, she said, " why do you woke up so early, Wake up your sister. "

This is the attitude of many mothers in our society. This belief that Males are a superior lot, is more dominant in many mothers. This false belief should be driven away.

Yes true.....what I have encountered mostly in kolkata that people are impatient in certain matters. For e.g. road blocks are often caused by private vehicles because nobody is willing to back out or let the other car pass by. Even in residential complexes flat owners are very impatient and they complain over trivial issues. They fail to understand that when you live in flats in a complex you have to adjust.