In social networking sites i have more friends i also doubt some times who they are or who is. We can't trustly say online friends are friends in my opinion they are friends for just chatting.

In social networking sites i have more friends i also doubt some times who they are or who is. We can't trustly say online friends are friends in my opinion they are friends for just chatting.

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

I know it happens rarely but but it is realy tough to recognise the reality of an online friends.And when we hear such cases our belief on online friends go down. :blink:

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

I know it happens rarely but but it is realy tough to recognise the reality of an online friends.And when we hear such cases our belief on online friends go down. :blink:

NO Sanjeev, you should not let that happen, that is stop believing,. because if you do then it closes your mind and the possibility of finding real friends out there! Such stray cases would be one amongst 50 or 100?? I don't know the statistics here but they are really there as learning lessons on do's and don'ts online.

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

I know it happens rarely but but it is realy tough to recognise the reality of an online friends.And when we hear such cases our belief on online friends go down. :blink:

NO Sanjeev, you should not let that happen, that is stop believing,. because if you do then it closes your mind and the possibility of finding real friends out there! Such stray cases would be one amongst 50 or 100?? I don't know the statistics here but they are really there as learning lessons on do's and don'ts online.

I have few friends online who i don't know personally but they are like my offline friends and i have learnt many things from them and one of those is Sunil he is like a mentor for me. :laugh: