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Tanisha Agrawal created new article Home remedies to get relief from winter symptoms.
This article talks about the home remedies which will cure your winter symptoms like throat issues, cough, cold etc. and make you healthy.
We all go to a doctor for any problem and he gives us such bitter taste medicines that by taking them, we don't even feel the taste of the food that we eat as it makes our mouth bitter. But, you don't need to worry at all. Read this article and get all the cure.
Just drink the below-mentioned drink twice a day during cold and get soon relief from cold, cough and even from throat issues..
Step 1: Take jaggery and Ginger in equal amount for eg, if you add 2 tablespoons of jaggery (if possible then use fresh jaggery) then add 2 tablespoons of ginger (you may crush the ginger and add).
Step 2: Add tulsi juice, at least 1 tablespoon (if you add 2 tablespoons of ginger and jaggery).
Step 3: Heat it over a gas stove (any available heating appliances). When that jaggery melts and the mixture becomes ready.
Drink it twice a day to get relief in cold as well as a cough.
You can also take some more precautions like:
Drink hot water (not so hot) otherwise, you may suffer from some other symptoms.
Wear full winter clothes so that air doesn't get inside your ears.
Cover your head and ears properly and yes please cover your legs i.e., you have to wear socks almost every time.
And also don't remain to wake up late nights that will not be healthy for your health.
If you take tea then you should add the black chilly powder in it. (In case you don't drink tea, you can take coffee also with black chilly powder. If you don't drink tea and coffee both, then you can also take milk with black chilly powder.)
If your cough is not going away then you can put cardamon in your mouth for some time that will help you to get rid of a cough soon and for some time (it's a temporary remedy).
NOTE: Please drink it hot only and don't come in contact with air for at least 1 hour. And yes, drink this before sleeping and when you will wake up, you will surely feel much and much better.
Also, take doctor's advice if the problem persists.
Stay healthy!
8 years ago
suni51 created new article Desires and Drawing Conclusion from Patterns.
Human Nature and Changes
Conflicts in between human nature and changes are a permanent feature and it’s never easy to decide how many changes should we accept and how many are forced on us. But we all feel in terms as if whatever is going on in our lives is not as per our choice. Here lies the basic problem as we wish to change but how much, is there a limit for a change or is there really a need of a change?
If you believe Dr. David DiSalvo, the famous writer and educationalist he feels living your life according to your choice you will have to change your nature. If you read his book “What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite”. I am quoting him-
“Since our brains are adept at finding and drawing conclusions from patterns, it's not surprising that coincidences captivate our attention.” ― David DiSalvo,
If you think minutely you will feel that there goes a constant battle in between your ideas and nature and the need of change is never ever reached successfully. Then what is the right solution for such a case and that shakes our self-confidence. Actually when there is no perfect combination in between our nature and thoughts that prompt us for improvement we feel disappointed.
Let’s look at the problem from this angle. If we keep on changing ourselves at the slightest of suggestions coming from within us then it will be difficult to adjust with society and if we do not change our “self” will not let us live normally. It’s like walking on a double edged sword which is not an easy proposition.
So what should we do? The answer is, stay somewhere within your own normal and natural limit but without being too adamant. If you can bring positive changes without refusing to be persuaded or having to change your mind then there is no harm doing that if it can bring peace of mind for you. But it’s entirely your choice how much change you can accept easily.
So what should I do?
Have you ever gone through the situation when you gave your best for completing all necessities and doing everything required to finish your project but when the time came to submit your work you were informed that the requirements have been changed and you have to work again from the beginning on that particular project! Isn’t it a tough proposition?
Now look at another possibility of a failed project the person you were depending on for completion of a particular project but he withdrew his support at the very moment when you were expecting it least and you had no option but to give up your dream project.
My question at this point is how do you react in any of the situations mentioned above? There is a short statement expressing a general truth the person that knows to smile instead of feeling dejected or getting angry has better chances of coming out of his problems from such a situation. The people who know how to face the complicated moments can always handle the situation in far better way.
We all know the fact that life is not bed of roses but we have to face problems at every point whether at work or home. There is always a chance that we shall have to be prepared to cross a hurdle to reach to our desired destination changing according to circumstances.
And when I say about changes I don’t mean to change our ideology but it’s all about our strategies. I agree we cannot change our circumstances immediately at the onset of any problem but we can certainly change our focus which provides us with new possibilities.
Actually it all depends upon your mental and physical status and the fact that one does not learn to face problems overnight. Once you learn how to face the problems and the art of fighting with obstacles how not to lose your balance you will find yourself better prepared reaching to target even more easily.
Desires are necessary for a better life
Okay, I agree with you on one point here. Desires play a big role in progress of human life. For example take my case when I need something but cannot decide where to begin with or have no idea clue where to start. I go in the nearby Himalayan forests or to the bank of River Ganges and sit there for hours just wishing that situation will change according to my own desires. And trust me at most of the times I reach to a conclusion which satisfies me as per my desires.
You know an expert boatman always does his job tactfully in the flow or sometime against the flow but he always leaves us at our destination. Every expert boatman knows his limitation and allows only limited number of passengers according to capacity of his boat. Desires are like oars in the hands of our boatmen propelling the small boats and guiding them in our journey across the river. As I said in the beginning desires play the role of motivator in our life.
At most times I know my desire for something I so dearly want or a person whom I so badly wish to see beside me as if my entire existence depends on that but not able to gather enough courage to admit that. I have tried to suppress some of my desires at times but as long my desires were genuine I never succeeded doing that. For me forcibly ending my desires was never acceptable to me so I never did that.
I feel some of my desires were not genuine but I have my own ways of diverting my attention from my ingénue desires. I divert my attention toward my writing projects, my books or my online world that clears all my doubts. Let me share a secret with you my desires force change my passions, my values, my strengths, and my motivations but everything that happens in the process happens for the betterment of my life.
So I repeat here at this point that it really depends upon your mental and physical status and the fact will remain that one doesn’t learn how to face problems, and you can’t do it overnight. But, once you recognize and learn how to face the art of fighting with obstacles and how not to lose your balance then you will certainly find yourself perfectly prepared and reach your target easily.
8 years ago
suni51 created new article A smile can change your life.
Smile- The Secret of Life
There is no particular reason to smile although it’s not easy to smile during painful situations or when you’re facing the difficult phase of life but if you manage to smile at such times you will instantly reduce some of your troubles if not all. I can quote hundreds of sayings at this moment but what I recall best at this moment is what I read Charlie Chaplin a long time ago. He said something to this effect,
“There are lots of problems in my life but my lips are unknown to them”.
We all face situations when everything was going well in our life but suddenly something bad happened and an unexpected problem impeded the movement or hampered the smooth running of life. There are times when we face the question of survival deep within us. There are times when you feel ‘why I have to face so many troubles in my life, why me?’ But you’re not alone, there are thousands other facing problems in their life but the difference is they are able to manage their troubles behind a smile.
If you ask me about how you manage to live looking so cool then there is a simple answer for your query. Look at what you have in your hands and I suggest here to forget what you have already lost, because it will not come back. There is no use weeping for dead as your cries will increase your own problem, but won’t bring them back. You won’t forget your dear ones for rest of your life but if weeping could bring them back I don’t think anyone was ever going to die. I suggest you should live in the present and try to find your happiness availing what you have in your hands.
You feel bad when you see someone suffering from illness for a long time and you help him as best as you can, you provide him with financial support, moral support. But the things change when you find yourself in similar situation that is the time your real test begins when your mental peace, money and health is on stake and facing them successfully becomes the condition of survival. Here lies the secret of smile if you can still manage to smile you will manage to face your problems without many problems.
Self-Love and a Loving Smile
A loving smile can change your life and that also helps increase your overall health but bigger changes come in our lives when we learn the art of loving ourselves. In other words the art of loving to our own self takes us to a point where we learn about our qualities. I have been training young professionals and teaching them art of self-motivation for 4 years now and reached to the conclusion that there is no better solution for any problem than ‘self-love’. I suggest you read Shailene Woodley –
I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don't have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else? - Shailene Woodley
I am sure you loved reading her in fact, once you know this secret you find yourself at a point from where you can move forward with lot of self-confidence. People see their entire way of living changed, feeling better, have a better outlook and find all their problems solved with lesser efforts. They find improvement in their relations or even better understanding with a positive attitude.
Loving ourselves has nothing to do with selfishness but it teaches us the art of cleaning some of the bad habits and negativity hidden within us and showing us the way of how to love others in the process. I don’t think anyone will contradict my statement that while you’re happy inside you feel the whole world is beautiful we can go out and help anyone or everyone. If you ask me, self-love is no lesser than self praising ourselves in the sense that we learn about hidden truths during our self analysis and accept ourselves with all our weaknesses and qualities.
I don’t believe that we are complete in all respects but if we know who we are with all honesty and still love ourselves we tend to do better in every field of life with more sincerity. And the best part of ‘self-love’ is you do not have to impose any conditions on yourself. Self-Love works as stepping stone when crossing troubled time of life.
The Smile
It was our organizational annual meeting of all the area managers at Bangalore office, but some of us were confident because we had come to Bangalore with a good track record but at the same time some of us were not as confident or looking gloomy and uncertain. We were all set for opening address by our CEO who had come to attend the meeting from Germany.
I was watching one of the area manager meeting everyone with a sweet smile, full of confidence and full of self-confidence. At that moment, I was sure he had completed his target and was expecting an appreciation from the seniors. But I was wrong, he had not reached his target but still had not given up his smile or lost his self-confidence. No one thought he had not reached his stipulated target unless he told it himself. I am sure I will never forget his gesture for rest of my life.
Smile has its own power
That’s right, the smile has its own powers and if you wish to believe Don Brown he says, ‘a person with strong character and full of self-confidence can smile even in adverse conditions and can achieve the toughest of targets in the end. The best gift that a person can have is his smile and the one blessed with the gift of smile can win hearts and battles alike.
There is no doubt about the fact that a person is as good as his thoughts are and they show in our behavior. There is also no doubt that when a person fails in his mission it takes him lots of efforts for getting out of the disappointing situation but that is not impossible. Positive attitude brings us closer besides your people around you try to help us come out of our difficult times. The only condition is one has to keep his smile intact and facial expressions right.
8 years ago
usha manohar created new article The Mysterious Incident at Akashdeep Estates - Part 1.
The Mysterious Incident at the Akashdeep Estates - Part 1
The official jeep made its way through the narrow winding streets of the small coastal city.
"Yes yes ! that is it , right here , that is the house , number 23 is visible on the pillar , and I can see the name of the house, Amrutha Nilaya !” said Inspector Ganesh“You can drop me off and park the jeep under the tree.. why don’t you go to that restaurant in the corner and have a cup of coffee and something to eat as well since we have a long drive ahead of us. Please give me a call as soon as you are back" , Inspector Ganesh alighted from the jeep instructing his driver.
As he opened the gate , he looked at the neat little garden with approval and proceeded to climb the short flight of steps that led to the front door. He rang the bell and waited expectantly for the door to open and see the look of surprise on their faces - he very much wondered whether they would be happy to see him or not , because the circumstances under which he had met the couple was anything but pleasant since murder is never a pleasant occurrence nor easily forgotten especially when people have been personally involved in it !!!
Inspector Ganesh sighed as he remembered the incident that had taken back 2 years ago .. Just then the door opened and the tall, good looking man who opened the door broke into a wide happy smile of recognition when he saw the Inspector .
"Sir ! what a surprise ! When did you come here to our town! "
" Pleasant surprise , I hope" - grinned the Inspector as he extended his right hand to Rohit , who clasped his hand and opened the door wide to let him into the neatly furnished house.
As they stepped into the hall Rohit called out " Anita look who has come, you are not going to believe this "
The young lady who came out from the interiors of the house was attractive and glowing obviously in the last stages of pregnancy . Anita too gave a happy smile to the inspector and sat down besides Rohit and soon they were speaking about old times over cups of tea and snacks.
Rohit asked the Inspector - “How did you find us here Sir ?”
"I had gone to your bank to meet Mr Ashok who is a relative of mine and while speaking about mutual friends he mentioned your name and I confirmed it was indeed you when he said that you were married and your wife was called Anita. He told me you were on leave, also gave me your address and directed me to your house. So, I decided to visit you at home .."
and continued with a smile ...“ I am very happy to see you both and to know that your family is expanding “
“ Sir we always speak about you and we have the highest regard for you although the circumstances under which we met were difficult . But we understand that you were duty bound to do whatever you did. We are very glad and feel grateful that you took the trouble to locate us and decided to visit us , right Anita ?” while Anita nodded smilingly and said …” I agree “
Inspector Ganesh looked at the time “ I have to go reach Bangalore before it is too late and we have a long drive ahead of us but this visit has rejuvenated me and somehow relieved me of the burden of guilt that I carried within me of having hounded innocent people”
He continued - “ My job is such that at times we tend to doubt innocent people and many a times feel helpless when we are unable to make amends for the mistakes committed . But now I am happy and relieved! “
He turned to Anita “ Anita I know you have a husband to care for, a home to look after and more importantly the job of looking after yourself and the little one , but I have a request to make which I hope will not burden you further and make you refuse..."
Both Rohit and Anita looked at Inspector Ganesh with interest … Anita said “Tell me sir, what is it that you want me to do ? “
Inspector Ganesh said “ I have never been able to forget the incident at Akashdeep estate and it was one of the most complex cases I have handled so far. Although we managed to solve it, I constantly think and wonder about the other aspects of the case “
“What other aspects sir ?”
“Well, you know Rohit, Anita – a crime happens or takes place when human emotions are involved and get out of hand. It does not happen on the spur of the moment except in self-defense or when professional criminals are involved !
"There is a background to every crime and it is the little incidents and inter personal interactions between people that ultimately lead and culminate in a crime especially murder which is the worst of all since a life is lost forever “
Rohit was thoughtful and so was Anita as they both remembered the past..
“ Sir, I agree with you, but in a way I am glad I was there at that point of time because I met Anita at Akashdeep and fell in love with her “
Inspector Ganesh too looked at the couple with affection and said, yes that was true and he was glad too.
“ But my request is of a different nature. I would be very interested to know all the minor details and the every day happenings carrying some relevance, that took place at Akashdeep while Anita was there and it would give an interesting insight into the crime that we police people are unable to get our hands on . People are either scared or wary of us police folks and do not divulge too many details ”
Anita was looking perplexed at this , not being able to understand what exactly the Inspector was driving at “I still don’t understand , sir ? “
“Well, you could write it down , narrate your experience“
“Write it down ! Sir, I am sure I will not be able to do that, I don’t have the capability and more importantly my memory may not be very accurate.”
“But you could try doing it?”
“I am sure she can do it Sir , especially now since I am going to be away for 3 days to visit Vidya akka , who is not keeping well , planning to bring her back here .. Anita, you can definitely give it a try,? Only don’t miss out any of the details about our own love story “ Rohit ended grinning
Anita threw a cushion at him ..” wait and see what I am going to come up with , don’t blame me later “
Laughingly Inspector Ganesh got up to leave since by then his driver had come back and already called him . He hugged them both affectionately asking Anita to take good care of herself and said goodbye to them..
( To be continued )
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8 years ago
Ech Jay created new article Stop watching cartoons and playing with video games.
In now a days, I am observing major behaviour changes in toddlers, kids and school going children. Quite often, they are behaving like an adult or showing aggression on minor matters. In last couple of months, India has witnessed about two murders done by minors - school going children. One is Rayan International School - Gurugram murder case and another is Yamuna nagar school - Hariyana. Both children are coming from well-settled families.
Why behaviour of children are so changed ? Why their minds are diverted for aggression, committing crime ?
As per my opinion, the reason is lies with parenting. Todays, It's a common that ; both husband and wife are working. No one is able to spend time with their child. Rather than, giving warm touch to child, parents are giving lot of toys, video games etc. and free himself from active parenting.
Due to global warming and security reasons, child is forced to pass time alone with maid. Gradually, child is used to watch cartoons and video games 24*7. In current days, cartoons and video games are not remaining innocent as before. They are full of violence. Some useful observations are as below.
1. Majority of children are used to watch cartoons throughout the day. Even, they are eating meal while watching TV.
2. Child himself select role model from cartoon character. He is speaking irrelevant words or doing irrelevant behaviour just to imitate such cartoon hero.
3. By continuously watching cartoons, child's interaction with other children. His interest towards outdoor sports are shifted. Hence, Child's psychological and physical development also hampered.
4. Due to less physical activity, Children are obese at early age and having vision problem.
Video games are more harmful than cartoons. Hazards of video games are as below.
1. Child's brain is in developing stage. Video games are showing virtual world. Such games are giving false challenges. By playing with video games, child may forgot his loneliness and other personal needs. Sometimes, He used to skip meal to play with video games.
2. Video games addition creates virtual comfort zone. Some to the children prefer to remain in such virtual/false world or taking challenge so seriously.
3. For example, multi players online games are additives and endless. Such games are creating unique profile and share status/ accomplishments to other users. It creates virtual/false sense of achievement.
4. By excessive games, fatigue is created. Child's interest from study and physical activity are lost.
5. Most of video games are showing excessive violence. By interacting with video games continuously ; children's behaviour patten get changed. Children are getting angry very easily.
Few tips for safeguards against excessive usage of video games/ cartoons are mentioned below.
1. Parents should spend adequate time with child. Child is free to talk with parents regarding any damn matter.
2. Parents should monitor time spend towards watching cartoons and playing with video games.
3. To restrict such usage, Parents may use child lock or restrict permission in computer.
4. Parents should restrict direct download of any video games by their child.
5. Parents should create interest about outdoor sports and reading books to their child. They should divert child's mind towards other brainstorming activities too.
8 years ago
Santosh Kumar Singh replied to the topic Day by day most of articles type site rank is being down ,Reason?.
I mostly read short stories in Hindi because I do not like to read bigger length book . I like to read kids story book also if its include new stories.
8 years ago
jabeen took the quiz 'Say the Year' Quiz.
In this quiz, you will be required to identify the correct years in which some certain important events happened from the given choices.
8 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Feeling hot like March in the month of January..
jabeen wrote:There is noticeable changes in the climatic conditions in many places. For instance, here in Imphal we usually...
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usha manohar wrote:Last week we drove up to Sakleshpur up in the Western Ghats to attend a house warming ceremony of one of our...
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Shampa Sadhya replied to the topic Day by day most of articles type site rank is being down ,Reason?.
I am fond of reading articles, blogs, quotes. poems and short stories but the moment it comes to reading long stories or novels I start yawning. Well, though write ups in...
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suni51 replied to the topic Never ending controversy surrounding Padmavathy ...
usha manohar wrote:After watching the film I am confused as to why the karnik Sena protested at all because frankly there is...
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suni51 replied to the topic ARE YOU INTERESTED TO WRITE ARTICLES HERE?.
MG Singh wrote:I am happy to note that articles are back. I wonder why they were discontinued. I wrote a lot on Boddunan but this...
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MG Singh replied to the topic ARE YOU INTERESTED TO WRITE ARTICLES HERE?.
I am happy to note that articles are back. I wonder why they were discontinued. I wrote a lot on Boddunan but this time I am yet to post anything. I hope to do so soon when I...
8 years ago
MG Singh replied to the topic ARE YOU INTERESTED TO WRITE ARTICLES HERE?.
suni51 wrote:There are few things that need to be done yet I guess. Like number of articles count isn't increasing in the...
8 years ago
suni51 replied to the topic Day by day most of articles type site rank is being down ,Reason?.
I have no reservations on how I read or feel like how often you read a book whether a hard copy or soft as long as l have time to do that. The only problem is that I...
8 years ago
suni51 replied to the topic ARE YOU INTERESTED TO WRITE ARTICLES HERE?.
There are few things that need to be done yet I guess. Like number of articles count isn't increasing in the total in leaders board in article section. I would like to...
8 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic ARE YOU INTERESTED TO WRITE ARTICLES HERE?.
jabeen wrote:The author's name still doesn't appear along with the articles. Hope the admin ll do something about it very...
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usha manohar said thank you to jabeen for his/her reply to the topic ARE YOU INTERESTED TO WRITE ARTICLES HERE?.
The author's name still doesn't appear along with the articles. Hope the admin ll do something about it very soon.
8 years ago
jabeen replied to the topic ARE YOU INTERESTED TO WRITE ARTICLES HERE?.
The author's name still doesn't appear along with the articles. Hope the admin ll do something about it very soon.
8 years ago
Tanisha Agrawal created new article Home remedies to get relief from winter symptoms.
This article talks about the home remedies which will cure your winter symptoms like throat issues, cough, cold etc. and make you healthy.
We all go to a doctor for any problem and he gives us such bitter taste medicines that by taking them, we don't even feel the taste of the food that we eat as it makes our mouth bitter. But, you don't need to worry at all. Read this article and get all the cure.
Just drink the below-mentioned drink twice a day during cold and get soon relief from cold, cough and even from throat issues..
Step 1: Take jaggery and Ginger in equal amount for eg, if you add 2 tablespoons of jaggery (if possible then use fresh jaggery) then add 2 tablespoons of ginger (you may crush the ginger and add).
Step 2: Add tulsi juice, at least 1 tablespoon (if you add 2 tablespoons of ginger and jaggery).
Step 3: Heat it over a gas stove (any available heating appliances). When that jaggery melts and the mixture becomes ready.
Drink it twice a day to get relief in cold as well as a cough.
You can also take some more precautions like:
Drink hot water (not so hot) otherwise, you may suffer from some other symptoms.
Wear full winter clothes so that air doesn't get inside your ears.
Cover your head and ears properly and yes please cover your legs i.e., you have to wear socks almost every time.
And also don't remain to wake up late nights that will not be healthy for your health.
If you take tea then you should add the black chilly powder in it. (In case you don't drink tea, you can take coffee also with black chilly powder. If you don't drink tea and coffee both, then you can also take milk with black chilly powder.)
If your cough is not going away then you can put cardamon in your mouth for some time that will help you to get rid of a cough soon and for some time (it's a temporary remedy).
NOTE: Please drink it hot only and don't come in contact with air for at least 1 hour. And yes, drink this before sleeping and when you will wake up, you will surely feel much and much better.
Also, take doctor's advice if the problem persists.
Stay healthy!
8 years ago
suni51 created new article Desires and Drawing Conclusion from Patterns.
Human Nature and Changes
Conflicts in between human nature and changes are a permanent feature and it’s never easy to decide how many changes should we accept and how many are forced on us. But we all feel in terms as if whatever is going on in our lives is not as per our choice. Here lies the basic problem as we wish to change but how much, is there a limit for a change or is there really a need of a change?
If you believe Dr. David DiSalvo, the famous writer and educationalist he feels living your life according to your choice you will have to change your nature. If you read his book “What Makes Your Brain Happy and Why You Should Do the Opposite”. I am quoting him-
“Since our brains are adept at finding and drawing conclusions from patterns, it's not surprising that coincidences captivate our attention.” ― David DiSalvo,
If you think minutely you will feel that there goes a constant battle in between your ideas and nature and the need of change is never ever reached successfully. Then what is the right solution for such a case and that shakes our self-confidence. Actually when there is no perfect combination in between our nature and thoughts that prompt us for improvement we feel disappointed.
Let’s look at the problem from this angle. If we keep on changing ourselves at the slightest of suggestions coming from within us then it will be difficult to adjust with society and if we do not change our “self” will not let us live normally. It’s like walking on a double edged sword which is not an easy proposition.
So what should we do? The answer is, stay somewhere within your own normal and natural limit but without being too adamant. If you can bring positive changes without refusing to be persuaded or having to change your mind then there is no harm doing that if it can bring peace of mind for you. But it’s entirely your choice how much change you can accept easily.
So what should I do?
Have you ever gone through the situation when you gave your best for completing all necessities and doing everything required to finish your project but when the time came to submit your work you were informed that the requirements have been changed and you have to work again from the beginning on that particular project! Isn’t it a tough proposition?
Now look at another possibility of a failed project the person you were depending on for completion of a particular project but he withdrew his support at the very moment when you were expecting it least and you had no option but to give up your dream project.
My question at this point is how do you react in any of the situations mentioned above? There is a short statement expressing a general truth the person that knows to smile instead of feeling dejected or getting angry has better chances of coming out of his problems from such a situation. The people who know how to face the complicated moments can always handle the situation in far better way.
We all know the fact that life is not bed of roses but we have to face problems at every point whether at work or home. There is always a chance that we shall have to be prepared to cross a hurdle to reach to our desired destination changing according to circumstances.
And when I say about changes I don’t mean to change our ideology but it’s all about our strategies. I agree we cannot change our circumstances immediately at the onset of any problem but we can certainly change our focus which provides us with new possibilities.
Actually it all depends upon your mental and physical status and the fact that one does not learn to face problems overnight. Once you learn how to face the problems and the art of fighting with obstacles how not to lose your balance you will find yourself better prepared reaching to target even more easily.
Desires are necessary for a better life
Okay, I agree with you on one point here. Desires play a big role in progress of human life. For example take my case when I need something but cannot decide where to begin with or have no idea clue where to start. I go in the nearby Himalayan forests or to the bank of River Ganges and sit there for hours just wishing that situation will change according to my own desires. And trust me at most of the times I reach to a conclusion which satisfies me as per my desires.
You know an expert boatman always does his job tactfully in the flow or sometime against the flow but he always leaves us at our destination. Every expert boatman knows his limitation and allows only limited number of passengers according to capacity of his boat. Desires are like oars in the hands of our boatmen propelling the small boats and guiding them in our journey across the river. As I said in the beginning desires play the role of motivator in our life.
At most times I know my desire for something I so dearly want or a person whom I so badly wish to see beside me as if my entire existence depends on that but not able to gather enough courage to admit that. I have tried to suppress some of my desires at times but as long my desires were genuine I never succeeded doing that. For me forcibly ending my desires was never acceptable to me so I never did that.
I feel some of my desires were not genuine but I have my own ways of diverting my attention from my ingénue desires. I divert my attention toward my writing projects, my books or my online world that clears all my doubts. Let me share a secret with you my desires force change my passions, my values, my strengths, and my motivations but everything that happens in the process happens for the betterment of my life.
So I repeat here at this point that it really depends upon your mental and physical status and the fact will remain that one doesn’t learn how to face problems, and you can’t do it overnight. But, once you recognize and learn how to face the art of fighting with obstacles and how not to lose your balance then you will certainly find yourself perfectly prepared and reach your target easily.
8 years ago
suni51 created new article A smile can change your life.
Smile- The Secret of Life
There is no particular reason to smile although it’s not easy to smile during painful situations or when you’re facing the difficult phase of life but if you manage to smile at such times you will instantly reduce some of your troubles if not all. I can quote hundreds of sayings at this moment but what I recall best at this moment is what I read Charlie Chaplin a long time ago. He said something to this effect,
“There are lots of problems in my life but my lips are unknown to them”.
We all face situations when everything was going well in our life but suddenly something bad happened and an unexpected problem impeded the movement or hampered the smooth running of life. There are times when we face the question of survival deep within us. There are times when you feel ‘why I have to face so many troubles in my life, why me?’ But you’re not alone, there are thousands other facing problems in their life but the difference is they are able to manage their troubles behind a smile.
If you ask me about how you manage to live looking so cool then there is a simple answer for your query. Look at what you have in your hands and I suggest here to forget what you have already lost, because it will not come back. There is no use weeping for dead as your cries will increase your own problem, but won’t bring them back. You won’t forget your dear ones for rest of your life but if weeping could bring them back I don’t think anyone was ever going to die. I suggest you should live in the present and try to find your happiness availing what you have in your hands.
You feel bad when you see someone suffering from illness for a long time and you help him as best as you can, you provide him with financial support, moral support. But the things change when you find yourself in similar situation that is the time your real test begins when your mental peace, money and health is on stake and facing them successfully becomes the condition of survival. Here lies the secret of smile if you can still manage to smile you will manage to face your problems without many problems.
Self-Love and a Loving Smile
A loving smile can change your life and that also helps increase your overall health but bigger changes come in our lives when we learn the art of loving ourselves. In other words the art of loving to our own self takes us to a point where we learn about our qualities. I have been training young professionals and teaching them art of self-motivation for 4 years now and reached to the conclusion that there is no better solution for any problem than ‘self-love’. I suggest you read Shailene Woodley –
I think the most important thing in life is self-love, because if you don't have self-love, and respect for everything about your own body, your own soul, your own capsule, then how can you have an authentic relationship with anyone else? - Shailene Woodley
I am sure you loved reading her in fact, once you know this secret you find yourself at a point from where you can move forward with lot of self-confidence. People see their entire way of living changed, feeling better, have a better outlook and find all their problems solved with lesser efforts. They find improvement in their relations or even better understanding with a positive attitude.
Loving ourselves has nothing to do with selfishness but it teaches us the art of cleaning some of the bad habits and negativity hidden within us and showing us the way of how to love others in the process. I don’t think anyone will contradict my statement that while you’re happy inside you feel the whole world is beautiful we can go out and help anyone or everyone. If you ask me, self-love is no lesser than self praising ourselves in the sense that we learn about hidden truths during our self analysis and accept ourselves with all our weaknesses and qualities.
I don’t believe that we are complete in all respects but if we know who we are with all honesty and still love ourselves we tend to do better in every field of life with more sincerity. And the best part of ‘self-love’ is you do not have to impose any conditions on yourself. Self-Love works as stepping stone when crossing troubled time of life.
The Smile
It was our organizational annual meeting of all the area managers at Bangalore office, but some of us were confident because we had come to Bangalore with a good track record but at the same time some of us were not as confident or looking gloomy and uncertain. We were all set for opening address by our CEO who had come to attend the meeting from Germany.
I was watching one of the area manager meeting everyone with a sweet smile, full of confidence and full of self-confidence. At that moment, I was sure he had completed his target and was expecting an appreciation from the seniors. But I was wrong, he had not reached his target but still had not given up his smile or lost his self-confidence. No one thought he had not reached his stipulated target unless he told it himself. I am sure I will never forget his gesture for rest of my life.
Smile has its own power
That’s right, the smile has its own powers and if you wish to believe Don Brown he says, ‘a person with strong character and full of self-confidence can smile even in adverse conditions and can achieve the toughest of targets in the end. The best gift that a person can have is his smile and the one blessed with the gift of smile can win hearts and battles alike.
There is no doubt about the fact that a person is as good as his thoughts are and they show in our behavior. There is also no doubt that when a person fails in his mission it takes him lots of efforts for getting out of the disappointing situation but that is not impossible. Positive attitude brings us closer besides your people around you try to help us come out of our difficult times. The only condition is one has to keep his smile intact and facial expressions right.
8 years ago
usha manohar created new article The Mysterious Incident at Akashdeep Estates - Part 1.
The Mysterious Incident at the Akashdeep Estates - Part 1
The official jeep made its way through the narrow winding streets of the small coastal city.
"Yes yes ! that is it , right here , that is the house , number 23 is visible on the pillar , and I can see the name of the house, Amrutha Nilaya !” said Inspector Ganesh“You can drop me off and park the jeep under the tree.. why don’t you go to that restaurant in the corner and have a cup of coffee and something to eat as well since we have a long drive ahead of us. Please give me a call as soon as you are back" , Inspector Ganesh alighted from the jeep instructing his driver.
As he opened the gate , he looked at the neat little garden with approval and proceeded to climb the short flight of steps that led to the front door. He rang the bell and waited expectantly for the door to open and see the look of surprise on their faces - he very much wondered whether they would be happy to see him or not , because the circumstances under which he had met the couple was anything but pleasant since murder is never a pleasant occurrence nor easily forgotten especially when people have been personally involved in it !!!
Inspector Ganesh sighed as he remembered the incident that had taken back 2 years ago .. Just then the door opened and the tall, good looking man who opened the door broke into a wide happy smile of recognition when he saw the Inspector .
"Sir ! what a surprise ! When did you come here to our town! "
" Pleasant surprise , I hope" - grinned the Inspector as he extended his right hand to Rohit , who clasped his hand and opened the door wide to let him into the neatly furnished house.
As they stepped into the hall Rohit called out " Anita look who has come, you are not going to believe this "
The young lady who came out from the interiors of the house was attractive and glowing obviously in the last stages of pregnancy . Anita too gave a happy smile to the inspector and sat down besides Rohit and soon they were speaking about old times over cups of tea and snacks.
Rohit asked the Inspector - “How did you find us here Sir ?”
"I had gone to your bank to meet Mr Ashok who is a relative of mine and while speaking about mutual friends he mentioned your name and I confirmed it was indeed you when he said that you were married and your wife was called Anita. He told me you were on leave, also gave me your address and directed me to your house. So, I decided to visit you at home .."
and continued with a smile ...“ I am very happy to see you both and to know that your family is expanding “
“ Sir we always speak about you and we have the highest regard for you although the circumstances under which we met were difficult . But we understand that you were duty bound to do whatever you did. We are very glad and feel grateful that you took the trouble to locate us and decided to visit us , right Anita ?” while Anita nodded smilingly and said …” I agree “
Inspector Ganesh looked at the time “ I have to go reach Bangalore before it is too late and we have a long drive ahead of us but this visit has rejuvenated me and somehow relieved me of the burden of guilt that I carried within me of having hounded innocent people”
He continued - “ My job is such that at times we tend to doubt innocent people and many a times feel helpless when we are unable to make amends for the mistakes committed . But now I am happy and relieved! “
He turned to Anita “ Anita I know you have a husband to care for, a home to look after and more importantly the job of looking after yourself and the little one , but I have a request to make which I hope will not burden you further and make you refuse..."
Both Rohit and Anita looked at Inspector Ganesh with interest … Anita said “Tell me sir, what is it that you want me to do ? “
Inspector Ganesh said “ I have never been able to forget the incident at Akashdeep estate and it was one of the most complex cases I have handled so far. Although we managed to solve it, I constantly think and wonder about the other aspects of the case “
“What other aspects sir ?”
“Well, you know Rohit, Anita – a crime happens or takes place when human emotions are involved and get out of hand. It does not happen on the spur of the moment except in self-defense or when professional criminals are involved !
"There is a background to every crime and it is the little incidents and inter personal interactions between people that ultimately lead and culminate in a crime especially murder which is the worst of all since a life is lost forever “
Rohit was thoughtful and so was Anita as they both remembered the past..
“ Sir, I agree with you, but in a way I am glad I was there at that point of time because I met Anita at Akashdeep and fell in love with her “
Inspector Ganesh too looked at the couple with affection and said, yes that was true and he was glad too.
“ But my request is of a different nature. I would be very interested to know all the minor details and the every day happenings carrying some relevance, that took place at Akashdeep while Anita was there and it would give an interesting insight into the crime that we police people are unable to get our hands on . People are either scared or wary of us police folks and do not divulge too many details ”
Anita was looking perplexed at this , not being able to understand what exactly the Inspector was driving at “I still don’t understand , sir ? “
“Well, you could write it down , narrate your experience“
“Write it down ! Sir, I am sure I will not be able to do that, I don’t have the capability and more importantly my memory may not be very accurate.”
“But you could try doing it?”
“I am sure she can do it Sir , especially now since I am going to be away for 3 days to visit Vidya akka , who is not keeping well , planning to bring her back here .. Anita, you can definitely give it a try,? Only don’t miss out any of the details about our own love story “ Rohit ended grinning
Anita threw a cushion at him ..” wait and see what I am going to come up with , don’t blame me later “
Laughingly Inspector Ganesh got up to leave since by then his driver had come back and already called him . He hugged them both affectionately asking Anita to take good care of herself and said goodbye to them..
( To be continued )
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8 years ago
Ech Jay created new article Stop watching cartoons and playing with video games.
In now a days, I am observing major behaviour changes in toddlers, kids and school going children. Quite often, they are behaving like an adult or showing aggression on minor matters. In last couple of months, India has witnessed about two murders done by minors - school going children. One is Rayan International School - Gurugram murder case and another is Yamuna nagar school - Hariyana. Both children are coming from well-settled families.
Why behaviour of children are so changed ? Why their minds are diverted for aggression, committing crime ?
As per my opinion, the reason is lies with parenting. Todays, It's a common that ; both husband and wife are working. No one is able to spend time with their child. Rather than, giving warm touch to child, parents are giving lot of toys, video games etc. and free himself from active parenting.
Due to global warming and security reasons, child is forced to pass time alone with maid. Gradually, child is used to watch cartoons and video games 24*7. In current days, cartoons and video games are not remaining innocent as before. They are full of violence. Some useful observations are as below.
1. Majority of children are used to watch cartoons throughout the day. Even, they are eating meal while watching TV.
2. Child himself select role model from cartoon character. He is speaking irrelevant words or doing irrelevant behaviour just to imitate such cartoon hero.
3. By continuously watching cartoons, child's interaction with other children. His interest towards outdoor sports are shifted. Hence, Child's psychological and physical development also hampered.
4. Due to less physical activity, Children are obese at early age and having vision problem.
Video games are more harmful than cartoons. Hazards of video games are as below.
1. Child's brain is in developing stage. Video games are showing virtual world. Such games are giving false challenges. By playing with video games, child may forgot his loneliness and other personal needs. Sometimes, He used to skip meal to play with video games.
2. Video games addition creates virtual comfort zone. Some to the children prefer to remain in such virtual/false world or taking challenge so seriously.
3. For example, multi players online games are additives and endless. Such games are creating unique profile and share status/ accomplishments to other users. It creates virtual/false sense of achievement.
4. By excessive games, fatigue is created. Child's interest from study and physical activity are lost.
5. Most of video games are showing excessive violence. By interacting with video games continuously ; children's behaviour patten get changed. Children are getting angry very easily.
Few tips for safeguards against excessive usage of video games/ cartoons are mentioned below.
1. Parents should spend adequate time with child. Child is free to talk with parents regarding any damn matter.
2. Parents should monitor time spend towards watching cartoons and playing with video games.
3. To restrict such usage, Parents may use child lock or restrict permission in computer.
4. Parents should restrict direct download of any video games by their child.
5. Parents should create interest about outdoor sports and reading books to their child. They should divert child's mind towards other brainstorming activities too.
8 years ago
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