Introduction

There were times when before fixing the marriage, the people of society used to sit and fix the marriage by taking some measure and then deciding to have marriage or not. If the person doesn’t qualify for that measure, then the society people were not at hesitating to cancel the marriage, but now time is changing so as the society. Now the aspects which were overruled by the society in the olden times are now given consideration. Society has also improved their thinking to match up with today’s generation.

Before fixing the marriage, various points were discussed in the society. Before the society were considered the main important factor to fix marriage. The parents don’t used to consider only their Son-in-law and Bride, but the society was considered much above than these two. In any family, if a bigger sister is there in the family and rather than having marriage of bigger sister, if the family used to have the marriage of smaller sister, then the society were not ready to consider this. But now such type of aspect is not looked in the society very seriously. People have changed their thoughts and intellectual level. Many such aspects have been changed in the society. Let us see what those points which were considered before marriage and what problems were used to come while fixing the marriage.

Age Difference

While fixing the marriage, the age was considering an important element in the marriage. By the society, it was taken a huge care that the age difference between bride and groom is of at least 3 to 4 years and this was consider. If the age difference was not there, then they don’t used to hesitate in ignoring the marriage. Before, the girl’s age were considered important. We all know that in olden times, the girl of more age was not accepted in the society for having marriage. No one used to accept the higher age of any women. Still, in some society, this aspect is considered, which is not good. But, moreover, many societies have accepted to ignore this element and rather look at the other aspects in which that girl is way ahead in qualifying for marriage. Parents of the girl, used to start searching for an appropriate men for their daughter when she used to step in the age of 20 years. But, now things have changed a lot. Parents don’t force their daughter to have marriage so that they could also make their career.

The thinking has now really changed and parents understand their daughter. It feels good to see such type of thinking in parents. Now girls have also come out of the willow due to the independence given by the parents. Girls are not only standing in par with Men, but they have gone more ahead than men. India is one conservative Country in terms of Women, but things have changed a lot. Now girls first like to stand on the legs and first like to have a career and then they try to find a perfect soul mate for them. Girls are not at all hesitating to cross the age of marriage and rather have their job and career as the first priority. Also girls don’t hesitate to choose a life partner who is smaller than her age. Now age doesn’t matter a lot in marriage. If everything is perfect about the groom, then it doesn’t matter a lot, if the age of groom is smaller than bride. This change in the thinking of the society and family members would be inspired from the celebrities as they are the one who has given examples in their own marriages.

Let us Consider, Saif Ali Khan. He did his first marriage when he was very young. He did his marriage with a girl, who was 10 years older than him. It is very unfortunate, that the marriage didn’t last for too long. Now said did his second marriage with the girl who is 10 years younger than him. Let us see till when this marriage could last. But there are various other celebrities which are very successful in their marriage, as far as age is considered. Sachin Tendulkar has married Anjali Tendulkar who is 6 years older than Sachin. This couple is very successful in their marriage. If we see other couple like Abhishek and Aishwarya, then they are also very successful in their marriage, thought the age difference is there. So, we can’t say that the age matters a lot in marriage. We should look in ones qualities, behavior, culture and manner rather than looking at age.

First priority to little ones and then marrying bigger one

First when the people used to live in joint family, then they used to think about the marriage of the bigger ones and then slowly –slowly the marriage of smaller ones were done. This has changed a lot now. Now in joint family parents first give priority to smaller ones and then the bigger ones. The matter of smaller and bigger doesn’t take place in the society and in family as well. Rather than this aspect, now the competition between smaller girl and bigger girl has arisen. Who is given good clothes and ornaments and why the little sister is given more? Or why the bigger sister is given less? Such talk comes in the consideration. People now a day want to live in single family to be away from quarrels and disputes. 

Salary should be less

There were days when the marriage is used to be broken when the girl’s salary is greater than boy. It was looked as if the salary of girl would be high, then she would be able to control the family and her husband. So as a result, such type of girl was given more priority which are paid less than their husband. But, things have changed. Whether it is because of Inflation or because of change of thoughts, now the high salary of girl is happily accepted by the husband as well as the family. 

Age has no bar

In earlier era, the correct age of girl’s marriage was kept in the range of 20-25 years and boy’s age was kept in the range of 25 – 30, now this age bar has also increased, where girl’s age of marriage is increased till 35 years and boy’s age is increased till 40 years. The reason of marrying late is just because to have a settle life and enjoy the bachelor’s life. Every person keeps some goals in their mind, so some people do think that while being alone, they would be able to achieve. So, when those goals would be fulfilled, afterwards they can have marriage. It is also possible that a person has not got a perfect soul mate or life partner in their life who performs marriage late. Now a day’s people don’t worry about the age of marriage. They try to think for long years to do marriage. Some people like to have live-in relationships and then want to decide, whether this partner is correct or not. Late marriage has now become a kind of fashion to most of the youngsters. The Young Generation is not at all curious or excited to have marriage in very small age.

Contract Marriage

Now those days have done, where both boy and girl used to compromise in their relations to be together in a marriage. Now a boy and a girl don’t even think a while before been divorced. Today’s young generation boy and girls have forgotten the importance of marriage. Young generation is not at all taking care about the real value of marriage. They don’t hesitate to break their relations in a moment, without thinking anything. There is one principle they follow, if not you, and then else would fill the vacant space. In their dictionary, there is no word like Compromise. Till everything is fine from both sides, they like to live a happy life. But as the difference comes they don’t even try to last it long. They have no fear of society or no fear from parents. So, there are many young boys and girls think about Contract Marriage, so that they don’t have to face the difficulties which arises in the family and with relatives. They think that when they are contracted in marriage, then they don’t have to bear all the responsibilities are given while being in family. In Contract marriage the condition are like till everything is fine between both sides, we will live happy, but when problem comes, boy can go to their home and girl can go to her house. 

For me this is ridiculous. I can’t even think about such a marriage. What the young generation is thinking about the marriage? Why the thinking has changed so much? Why can’t a boy and girl live in a joint family or even in single family? When they are boyfriend-girlfriend they live happily and when time comes for marriage, they take their foot- steps back.