1) If You Want To Be Happy – Cultivate Bad (weak) Memory

The above two themes have got potent substance for doubling happiness and reducing sadness. Let us see what the theorem mean. Awful improvements are taking place in the computer field. It is said that the computer is an electronic brain. It has speed, brain but importantly it has a definite discipline. The human computer i.e. brain has got everything but ironically it has vast traces of past. The problem of the world is the problem of awareness. A man is supposed to be happy but his human computer suddenly jumps to an event to place years back and this thought process make him unhappy. In fact the recalling of memory if controlled in a reasonable extent, The shadow of the disturbed pass can have less bearing and thus today’s joyful event will not be marred. The human brain gives graphs, events, traces many a times when it is not required. We do not have a switch off mechanism in the brain. But by empowering our mind to develop a bad memory we can make today a joyful day. In the keyboard there are certain designated keys. No overlapping. If a man also develops art of forgetting or at least skill of not mixing bad events of yester years in today’s menu, we shall become more and more joyful. We do observe children up to age three are always happy because have got very weak memory and hence no prejudices and no comparison. Hence march with holding week memory on the pathway of happiness.

Sadness comes because of accumulation of all bad memories. Yes. In any human being there are unpleasant, hurting events. Side by side there are joyful events also. Whenever sad moment comes, if he gives command in human computer recalling all the sweet memories this will have a good impact on diluting sadness. Though above are very philosophical and practical aspects nevertheless each individual in his own way can enjoy happiness and prevent sadness by cultivating good memory or bad memory in different situations.

2) Xtra

Above spelling has got deep roots. In fact in our journey of happy life we do get large no of tutors, what we need is to develop the skill of learning & be proud of studentship. In fact rekindling our mind, body is a tonic. Smile is a jogging for internal energisation. Let us come the spelling of Xtra.

The dictionary spelling is extra. But then why Xtra? By deleting 'E' we eliminate ‘ego’ which spoils many precious things of life. For example, where ego comes in, friendship gets disturbed, enmity raises its ugly head, delicious food looses much of its flavor and so on. Secondly the 'x' alphabet tells us that in a relationship, both persons are equal. Both should respect each other, should understand and respect their boundaries and learn to live in mutual amity.

What is to be emphasized is nothing more, nothing less is a pattern of life. But making things small to big from simple word to elegant expression are achievable.

3)   Men and Animal have consciousness

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Animals are satisfied when their basics are served. No thrust for praise. No high sound expressions, Look within and little around. No much planning, brain is kept calm.

What about me or few of us? Perverted joy though I did not get he also did not have. Poking nose in others family, carrying the burden of others on our small shoulders, becomes auditors of others either without renumeration or authority of certification. Can we stop this? Each man does get basics by the grace of almighty. Left to him is more than happy but once he keeps, searching for happiness or miseries gathers in mind. His mind become a multichannel TV, unnecessary mix-up, wrong scale for comparison from p to f but missing real p1 (p stands for past, f stands for future and p1 stands for present) in all this if we can nourish, develop again holistic view we may not be happy but surely we will be not unhappy. Neighbor’s house is big and ours is small, should this be a cause for worry? No, he may be require to pay heavy installments, may be require to incur expenses on gardening, may be require to post a security guard and more. Then who is happier? He or you?

It is said that, "man builds a house, woman make it home “in fact man should concentrate on 4H i.e. house, home, happiness and finally heavenly pleasure. Mostly on love basis he constructs or purchases a house. The bricks and wardrobe are dry things that converts house into name. Family members should have praise for each other this will create tremendous joy in the house. Essence for duty and mutual appreciation clubbed with understanding, knowing limits and difficulties of others will invite all the good things of world to stay in your house.

4) Performers, Spectators & Observer

The above three words are not the combination of alphabets only but give signals of extracting bliss, happiness.

Well, prim facial except for certain things standardazitation, the misleading term. The core point is not withstanding. We have to march happily on the path of happiness mean less disturbance to our mind .How some and somehow needs drawing periphery one group is a performer they go on struggling, they go on hunting may be they get joy in doing so but if we ask our self that why they do all? Mostly their body exercises giving a go primarily are to entertain the spectators is not that correct?

Performers get less joy as an individual and focus attention is to entertain spectators they are also moved by either a positive cheers on otherwise from viewers spectators generally want that performers should continuously perform and perform.

There is another big group i.e. spectators they also wholesomely spend, waste or even devote their time in watching evaluating and enjoying performance and the performer loosely speaking the spectators also do not get individually and thing substantially the performer even does not look to the spectators.

Now let us find the qualities of observer this man observes himself he observes the observed he also attempts to observe the observer mostly philosophical terms but a deep sense in these expressions. An observer is a seeker of initially reality subsequently understating and finally keeping him in a secured place by arranging shock absorbance. It is said somewhere that our budget is decides by the neighbor and time is hijacked by friends how to derive a golden mean have a deep in oneself believe not on whatever we hear and half of what we see. Very tough rule but step-by-step though we may not reach pinnacle we may at least cross no point of return.    Some strategies temporarily ill feeling but finally keeping one self in a relatively higher calm of mind status. May be looking to such a person others may also try the same routine and thus many people of calm mind will be a gift to society.

Further elaborating this observer do not nearly conduct activity for pleasing others, he probes the necessity and begin his activities. If you want to please all then chances are you may be blessed in the displeasure counter. Please those who do not disturb you but for the sake of popularity do not keep yourself at stake. But many of us are victim of fear-oriented element. What others will say? Thus we create our own benchmark and with fear complex slowly we shift it to inferiority complex then where are we? At certain time we have to abide by norms of life, code of conduct prevailing in the society and more this is true when I exist. I exist when I become observer thus observer gives more attention to himself and a sketchy attention to others. Though tough journey but joyful if most of our time we protect our interest, do not become a copy master, do not give more than require weight to the comments of others etc. In a day-to-day life there are instances of long serious expression by others in majority of events the spokesman do not remember what he has spoken but listener because of imbalance state of mind carry on for a longer period in the process is subject to developing 1 prejudices 2 distress 3 disharmony .It is healthy to be a performer. Be a spectator for more time. Be an observer for all time.

5)  Money buys many things, please check sometimes

We do admit money is a power, money is a tonic. We must attempt to earn more and more money no problem but great philosopher suggest to us money is an instrument for purchasing only. Money is an improved barter system but money plus should be our endeavor. Simple example we will suffice a ticket for travel. Friendship with the co passenger will be beneficial and to a major extent our journey will be joyful. Do you agree?

In contrast to this quarrelsome type of co passengers will mean a dry unhappy journey. Affectionate look, caring attitude choosing a common topic for conversation means shading away a tiresome journey and ensuring joy plus journey but for these qualities is there any required payment. Certainly no. It is the behavioral attitude of a passenger to the seeker of happiness who extracts happiness more no money power require there can be many examples where money can not buy but the friendly attitude can secured money can give what money can give but good gestures essence for gratitude mutual understanding respecting others point of view and couple of things more will guarantee more than money.

Infact, man is hungry for these gestures money can bring pillow but no guarantee for sound sleep. Is it not true? Let us give thought both to money factor and to benefits which can be secured through non-monetary channels. Faith keeping in God, chanting Lord’s name, visiting temples, are some of the non monetary ways in which golden minds can be created.

6) Make a friendship before need arises

The world has got different varieties. The law of nature teaches us that we depend on others and people also depend on us. The shopkeeper is interested in earning profits and thus gets engaged in selling but a customer also looks for profit. In simple terms it is mutual. Mostly relationship does have platforms of transaction mode. You pay, you get. You get, you use and couple of more things. But in this material world would at least few things, may not all, should have transaction mode. Fraternity is a symbol of give and take but not at the same time and not at all on the same scale. We help our friend now and he may help us when we really need it. Sometimes help may not be needed but his joy of kindness remains intact.

Give and take is a very general phenomenon, must be useful in different context but kindness, charity, magnamity are God gifts. Man has to develop this by observing and reading through scriptures. We should start application may be on a small scale from home. “Charity begins at home”. What this saying indicates that do something in advance so that your so-called distress can be minimized. In our daily routine, on many occasions we do not purchase grocery/spices on day-to-day basis but we purchase it in bulk so that daily exercise of going to market is avoided. Friendship also cannot be developed with a sale agenda for seeking help. We do get help from our friends is a positive effect but friend ship itself is an investment.

Friends help us to ventilate and suppress our worries. Real good friend help us in reducing our tension and spotting the joy within us, which was for one reason, or the other overlooked by us. In return we also do same things to our friend. A friend in need is a friend indeed.Ok.But sometimes even more friendship should be developed not only for give and take mechanical process. Let the friend give to us and we may or may not return. We may return more than we received and more.

The origin, development and continuity of most of our relationships can be traced back to our tendency to meet our own requirements, to fulfill our own interests. This is natural considering the fact that human life is endless cycle of give and take. But there are certain relationships which transcend such mechanical and simple exchanges, such selfish pursuit to mundane goals. This relationship called true friendship is based on kindness, charity, magnanimity, true love, selfless understanding and occasional sacrifices. Our true friends help us in many ways. We share our joys and sorrows with them, we look for support from them, and they boost our sagging morale, reduce our tension, worries and so on. Even when they do not actively contribute to our happiness, their very presence should dispel the darkness of our lives. Developing such a noble relationship, before the necessity arises is, therefore a must.

Let us develop more friends. For shaping friendship adjustments are necessary. Appreciation on full scale and criticism on valid counts will help us to grow number of friends. This will help us to ease individual tension and to some extent happy moments will be accumulated and dryness of the life will be evaporated. A real good friend is one who appreciates your success and ignores your weakness. Useful hint, but for making more friends individual has to be friendly, sometimes by expected returns from friends and mostly by cumulative return from friends. Friends do not quarrel, they help us in abundance. Hence for receiving the need or doubling the joy friend should be here, there and possibly everywhere.

We admit neither we are authority nor we have sufficient penance to talk on above two words. We are however in our interest putting the following narration. The art of enjoying mostly tarnish because of accumulation of remembrance mostly pungent.

There is no valid system in human computer which has got key called as ‘D’ i.e. delete. However there is another key with human computer, which is not available in electronic computer. Let us say it is ‘c’, c stands for cost, harm, ill feeling and more. The art of forgetting is a tool offering many advantages. All masters preach, “Think of Now”. Yesterday is a history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is present – gift. Theoretically we appreciate but in day-to-day routine we should observe the benefits of forgetting, needless to add, forgetting of such events, which has no relevance today. Forget has got 6 letters. If we put the word in this fashion viz – for-get, for getting and not for loosing, remember forget. Excellent expression! It is said when one is in angry mood we should count 1 - 9. This counting is nothing but tuning your mind and calling the file or drop it.

If we remember get while counting 1- 9, this would open a gate of judgment. Thus it is better to forget for gaining. The difference between the essential and non-essential, of importance or of a trifle value are the hidden substance of powerful expression of get. We wish all of us to ponder of our splitting the word forget. However do not mismean in other walks of life. Forgetting to attend office, forgetting cleaning teeth are not covered under our humble expression – usage of forgetting. Remember, on all essentials what is to be erased should not be erased.

Forgetting is an art, the right practice of which enables us to live and enjoy life to maximum. We must forget such events which have no relevance to the present. We must forget such memories which are bitter and cause us nothing but pain and sorrow. Interestingly, the word possesses two syllables like for and get. These two syllable point to the positive aspect of the meaning that the word conveys (Forget: for getting and not for loosing) Of course one must not forget the duties that are to be performed in our daily lives like attending offices, brushing teeth etc. Forgiving is a divine act. Biographies of great masters amply prove the supreme necessity of forgiveness. Common people like us can temporarily attain great heights only when we forgive others’ mistakes. One should not be merciful at all occasion. In some cases, severe punishments are necessary. But there is no denying the fact that the above mentioned words, if properly understood and applied, will reduce enmity and increase friendship among people

Let us not misconstrued forgiving for all aspects. Scolding is necessary where it is due. Tit for tat valid in few occasions but selectively use – forgive with the sake of repetition. We admit that two words f, f if properly controlled will give a narrowing number of foe situation and growing friendly atmosphere.