Is Marriage absolutely Essential ?

My simple take on this issue is that marriage as an institution has survived so many thousand years and the search for its alternative has met with failures with all good reasons. The kind of needs that marriage fulfill has been tried in some other form which created more problems of disastrous nature for society!

I agree but my point is, why force it on those who do not want it. Let them choose for themselves and find out what works best!!

I would go with that.Last year we had rented out a part of our house for a short period of time since we were going to be away. A couple wanted to stay there, both working for Infosys tech and I spoke to them for a short time and liked them and on the spot we decided on the rent and other details...They moved in the very next day.After a while I got a call from my neighbor saying that I had made a wrong choice, now the entire neighborhood is very disturbed by the couples behavior..I decided to check it out and came to Mangalore on a Friday and found nothing wrong.They were busy with their work.In the evening they had a few friends over for drinks and dinner..The whole issue was that they were not married and anything they did was wrong as far as my neighbors were concerned.I had a talk with my neighbors and finally things did calm down and the couple stayed on...
Our society is now at cross roads and one can understand that it is not easy to change ..

its not your neighbor's fault was we don't accept live in relationships in India socially. :blink:

If some one is in live in relation, this only means that formal wedding ceremony was not held. I wonder if anyone verifies wedding ceremony of a couple before renting accommodation. I have given a portion of my house on rent to many couples in last decade. As they appeared as husband and wife, i take them as married. I never checked their marriage certificate or saw their wedding photos. In fact, nobody does so.

hence, it is fault of the couple to announce openly that they are in live in relation. If they just are a little discreet, nobody is bothered about their relation and all will consider them as married only.

My simple take on this issue is that marriage as an institution has survived so many thousand years and the search for its alternative has met with failures with all good reasons. The kind of needs that marriage fulfill has been tried in some other form which created more problems of disastrous nature for society!

I agree but my point is, why force it on those who do not want it. Let them choose for themselves and find out what works best!!

I would go with that.Last year we had rented out a part of our house for a short period of time since we were going to be away. A couple wanted to stay there, both working for Infosys tech and I spoke to them for a short time and liked them and on the spot we decided on the rent and other details...They moved in the very next day.After a while I got a call from my neighbor saying that I had made a wrong choice, now the entire neighborhood is very disturbed by the couples behavior..I decided to check it out and came to Mangalore on a Friday and found nothing wrong.They were busy with their work.In the evening they had a few friends over for drinks and dinner..The whole issue was that they were not married and anything they did was wrong as far as my neighbors were concerned.I had a talk with my neighbors and finally things did calm down and the couple stayed on...
Our society is now at cross roads and one can understand that it is not easy to change ..

its not your neighbor's fault was we don't accept live in relationships in India socially. :blink:

If some one is in live in relation, this only means that formal wedding ceremony was not held. I wonder if anyone verifies wedding ceremony of a couple before renting accommodation. I have given a portion of my house on rent to many couples in last decade. As they appeared as husband and wife, i take them as married. I never checked their marriage certificate or saw their wedding photos. In fact, nobody does so.

hence, it is fault of the couple to announce openly that they are in live in relation. If they just are a little discreet, nobody is bothered about their relation and all will consider them as married only.

The problem with small cities is that people are far too curious about others and thats what happened with this couple too.They never told me anything and since they were very busy they hardly had any interaction with the neighbors.But there is always a cousin,uncle, brother or someone working in Infosys , where they are both well known and thats how the news became public - not from them but from other sources :cheer:

Yes it is very very essential. Without the loving and caring of anybody we cannot travel our whole life. so it is essential

Yes it is very very essential. Without the loving and caring of anybody we cannot travel our whole life. so it is essential

Yes I agree with that,it gives us security besides other things.Having your own family gives you an identity of your own ..

We need a life partner to live our life. That is why, Marriage is essential.

Ask any married they will say unmarried is ok.
Ask any unmarried they will say marriage life is ok.
I can say Delhi ka ladoo, jo khaya o pastya, jo nehi khaya o bhi postya.

The bachelors have many problems on social occasions. There are many ceremonies that need spouse. In the army, there are many activities that favor a married person. A single feels isolated at functions where couples are invited. There are functions like 'husband nights' in army, which are for the married.

Except for certain handicaps like these, there is nothing wrong in leading an unmarried life. But this should be exception. marriage is a social necessity.

yes marriage is essential because after marriage you get a partner who is every time with us in pain and pleasure.

yes marriage is essential because after marriage you get a partner who is every time with us in pain and pleasure.

Our life changes. We can share everything with our life partner.

Ask any married they will say unmarried is ok.
Ask any unmarried they will say marriage life is ok.
I can say Delhi ka ladoo, jo khaya o pastya, jo nehi khaya o bhi postya.

Thats very true ! The Far Away Pastures Always Look Greener , so also in life and marriage !

Ask any married they will say unmarried is ok.
Ask any unmarried they will say marriage life is ok.
I can say Delhi ka ladoo, jo khaya o pastya, jo nehi khaya o bhi postya.

Thats very true ! The Far Away Pastures Always Look Greener , so also in life and marriage !

As it's told...
"Shaadi ek pinjare ki tharah hoti hai.
Joh uske andar hai woh bahar jaana chahte hai
Aur jo baahar hai, woh andar aana chahte hain" :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Yes marriage is important as from social as well as personal point of view.A person cannot spend their life alone.............They need a partner.......... :blink: :blink: :blink: :blink: :blink:

Marriage is important no doubt, since it fulfils many needs of an individual. However, it should never be forced on anyone.One can at best make a suggestion or advise on the advantages of it, that's how I have dealt with it...letting my children decide for themselves and if and when they are ready , give them any help if needed :)

Marriage is essential but not compulsory. Marriage is essential for the development of the family. If a person things he/ she is better off alone and needs no friend, love or children, they can live single life. On the other hand, if someone things he/she needs a friend, lover and children, in wholesome a family, they should get married. Career is important in both the cases.

My simple take on this issue is that marriage as an institution has survived so many thousand years and the search for its alternative has met with failures with all good reasons. The kind of needs that marriage fulfill has been tried in some other form which created more problems of disastrous nature for society!

I agree but my point is, why force it on those who do not want it. Let them choose for themselves and find out what works best!!

I would go with that.Last year we had rented out a part of our house for a short period of time since we were going to be away. A couple wanted to stay there, both working for Infosys tech and I spoke to them for a short time and liked them and on the spot we decided on the rent and other details...They moved in the very next day.After a while I got a call from my neighbor saying that I had made a wrong choice, now the entire neighborhood is very disturbed by the couples behavior..I decided to check it out and came to Mangalore on a Friday and found nothing wrong.They were busy with their work.In the evening they had a few friends over for drinks and dinner..The whole issue was that they were not married and anything they did was wrong as far as my neighbors were concerned.I had a talk with my neighbors and finally things did calm down and the couple stayed on...
Our society is now at cross roads and one can understand that it is not easy to change ..

its not your neighbor's fault was we don't accept live in relationships in India socially. :blink:

Are you serious Sanjeev ? There are many such relationships that existed during good old times ? Men have always had more than one wife and that was accepted by all during those times . How many men in villages and smaller towns have mistresses ?- The problem with Indian society is its double standard.

These are double standards with any doubt. Previously men were allowed to keep one or more concubines with common knowledge, the wife could not and did not have any say in the matter, her feelings were not considered. Now when girls opt for a live in relationship, why so much furor about it? At least they are faithful to their partners and are not acting promiscuously.

Ask any married they will say unmarried is ok.
Ask any unmarried they will say marriage life is ok.
I can say Delhi ka ladoo, jo khaya o pastya, jo nehi khaya o bhi postya.

Thats very true ! The Far Away Pastures Always Look Greener , so also in life and marriage !

As it's told...
"Shaadi ek pinjare ki tharah hoti hai.
Joh uske andar hai woh bahar jaana chahte hai
Aur jo baahar hai, woh andar aana chahte hain" :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

great .Hum sab andar hai-na?

Ask any married they will say unmarried is ok.
Ask any unmarried they will say marriage life is ok.
I can say Delhi ka ladoo, jo khaya o pastya, jo nehi khaya o bhi postya.

Thats very true ! The Far Away Pastures Always Look Greener , so also in life and marriage !

As it's told...
"Shaadi ek pinjare ki tharah hoti hai.
Joh uske andar hai woh bahar jaana chahte hai
Aur jo baahar hai, woh andar aana chahte hain" :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

great .Hum sab andar hai-na?

I don't think this is a cage.

Marriage is performed because parents cannot be with us forever. next every person need someone who can care for them. So a male needs a female and female needs male. and for many reasons our parents perform marriage.

Actually there is no compulsory to get married. We can be alone also. But our society won't listen to us and keep on irritate us. Now a days people who are getting married are not marrying with their interest due to the society they are getting married and due to force of parents and some are love marriage which they are in attraction and they feelthat is love and get married and after few months they could not adjust with each other and apply for divorce.even in arranged marriages also people are applying for divorce.

Actually i feel, getting married becoming a servent in the mother in law house, giving money as dowry and allowing problems in to our life. some times they may kill also.Is All these are necessary. All these are due to the thing known as marriage. If we wont marry then all these wont come and occur. so i feel not marring is correct.

I don't think so.It won't happen to everybody. I see number of happy married couples

Marriage is performed because parents cannot be with us forever. next every person need someone who can care for them. So a male needs a female and female needs male. and for many reasons our parents perform marriage.

Actually there is no compulsory to get married. We can be alone also. But our society won't listen to us and keep on irritate us. Now a days people who are getting married are not marrying with their interest due to the society they are getting married and due to force of parents and some are love marriage which they are in attraction and they feelthat is love and get married and after few months they could not adjust with each other and apply for divorce.even in arranged marriages also people are applying for divorce.

Actually i feel, getting married becoming a servent in the mother in law house, giving money as dowry and allowing problems in to our life. some times they may kill also.Is All these are necessary. All these are due to the thing known as marriage. If we wont marry then all these wont come and occur. so i feel not marring is correct.

I don't think so.It won't happen to everybody. I see number of happy married couples

Looks happy and it is totally personal matter.

Marriage is essential but not compulsory. Marriage is essential for the development of the family. If a person things he/ she is better off alone and needs no friend, love or children, they can live single life. On the other hand, if someone things he/she needs a friend, lover and children, in wholesome a family, they should get married. Career is important in both the cases.

That is true, it is essential but it is not a compulsory need.I too feel that no matter what an individual has to have a career and have financial independence ...