My simple take on this issue is that marriage as an institution has survived so many thousand years and the search for its alternative has met with failures with all good reasons. The kind of needs that marriage fulfill has been tried in some other form which created more problems of disastrous nature for society!
I agree but my point is, why force it on those who do not want it. Let them choose for themselves and find out what works best!!
I would go with that.Last year we had rented out a part of our house for a short period of time since we were going to be away. A couple wanted to stay there, both working for Infosys tech and I spoke to them for a short time and liked them and on the spot we decided on the rent and other details...They moved in the very next day.After a while I got a call from my neighbor saying that I had made a wrong choice, now the entire neighborhood is very disturbed by the couples behavior..I decided to check it out and came to Mangalore on a Friday and found nothing wrong.They were busy with their work.In the evening they had a few friends over for drinks and dinner..The whole issue was that they were not married and anything they did was wrong as far as my neighbors were concerned.I had a talk with my neighbors and finally things did calm down and the couple stayed on...
Our society is now at cross roads and one can understand that it is not easy to change ..
its not your neighbor's fault was we don't accept live in relationships in India socially. :blink:
If some one is in live in relation, this only means that formal wedding ceremony was not held. I wonder if anyone verifies wedding ceremony of a couple before renting accommodation. I have given a portion of my house on rent to many couples in last decade. As they appeared as husband and wife, i take them as married. I never checked their marriage certificate or saw their wedding photos. In fact, nobody does so.
hence, it is fault of the couple to announce openly that they are in live in relation. If they just are a little discreet, nobody is bothered about their relation and all will consider them as married only.
The problem with small cities is that people are far too curious about others and thats what happened with this couple too.They never told me anything and since they were very busy they hardly had any interaction with the neighbors.But there is always a cousin,uncle, brother or someone working in Infosys , where they are both well known and thats how the news became public - not from them but from other sources :cheer:
Pay no mind to those who talk behind your back, it simply means that you are two steps ahead !!!
