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rambabu replied to the topic Your reputation depends on what kind of people you are working with..
Corruption grows out of corruption. This applies to the corrupt politicians and their corrupt children too. Wise parents are aware of this truth. Hence, they take care that their children are surrounded by a clean environment. In this respect, family plays a pivotal role
10 years ago
vijay said thank you to Gulshan Kumar Ajmani for his/her reply to the topic The most corrupt Chief Minister of Karnataka ...
vijay wrote:
A new capital is a must for a new state. nothing wrong in it if it is done fairly and honestly. To say that farmers are giving land willingly is to be counter checked whether they are getting adequate compensation. I recall a very good policy has been adopted by AP in this. To smell corruption in every act of govt is also not fair. at this rate no development can take place. Check but do not despair and decry all the time.
I agree. When you elect a government, you give them authority to use public money in the best interest of state as perceived by them. There is audit and and administrative mechanism to see the propriety and legitimacy of expenditure. Unless money is used clandestinely by fudging public accounts for creating personal assets as distinguished from public assets, corruption cannot be alleged.
10 years ago
vijay replied to the topic The most corrupt Chief Minister of Karnataka ...
Mayawati is the outcome of a class conflict raging from centuries in this country. The installing of statues of elephants and a couple of her own along with Kashiram's statue is to be seen as expression of identity politics. It is a manner of establishing or registering a place in society which was denied till date. When statues of upper caste leaders like Netaji, Nehru, Gandhi are installed all over the country at state expense it is considered normal but when a Dalit's statue is installed it is usually seen as waste of money. Till caste based discrimination is there such demonstrations of identity politics will occur. Incidentally the park at NOIDA is today a beautiful picnic cum tourist site and Dalits also are proud to see their icons standing tall. Let us not grudge them their due after crushing them for centuries.
10 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Your reputation depends on what kind of people you are working with..
yes the family plays a very important role in developing the ability to distinguish between good and bad by a growing child. Imagine the value system the children of corrupt politicians , officials, builders etc inherit. It looks very normal to them.
10 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Honesty is not the Best policy ?.
I was once travelling with a mid level naval officer and te talk veered to corruption. He said something which I found pragmatic. He said everyone is bothered about the 5-10% leakage or bribes in a project. hardly anyone bothers about the quality of the 90% that has been actually spent. The attention should be on it because that is what is going to last for a long period. @Usha is right it does become very difficult for an honest person to survive in an ocean of dishonest persons. Mos of the time the honest is eased away or has to submit. But the saving grace is that although corruption is there it is not so widespread as is believed to be and the honest do get an opportunity to perform.
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
It's an issue of incompatibility and of ego. It's not uncommon to have differences between the couples. But wise couple with a view to save the sanctity of Marriage, avoid conflicts and confrontations In order to save the marriage, at least for the sake of the common interests of the family, they should adjust leaving aside their differences. A home is an abode of peace. Not a battle field Wisdom lies in one of them stepping down to enjoy the fruits of Marital bliss.
In the absence of this, it's better to go for a legal separation.
10 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Honesty is not the Best policy ?.
When you are surrounded by dishonest corrupt people , it may become difficult to swim against the tide so the majority would think " When you cant win them, join them " what a sad state of affairs and one can gauge how rampant bribe taking and giving has become in our society !
10 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
@ Shweta ...I agree that in most marriages this is what happens, the couple grow together not grow apart. But in this particular case thats what has happened ..
@ Chinmoy I too tend to agree that when the differences have escalated over the years it is better to separate rather than make each other and others around them unhappy. At least now one can see couple coming out openly rather than continue to remain unhappy and miserable in a marriage because they are worried what people would say ?
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic World food day October 16.
World Food Day is observed all over the world on October 16. It's objective is to eradicate Hunger by spreading awareness among the people.
But with the rampant abuse of environment for the sake of Development, rainfall has become scarce. Groundwater levels are depleting. All these factors are to pondered before we think of eradicating Hunger.
It applies to India too. Due to reduced rainfall, it has become a herculean task for a farmer to grow his crops. For this reason farmers are forced to resort to chemical based agriculture. The chemical used for farming are ridden with toxins, which further lead to poisoning the food. The traders started using artificial colors to the vegetables and artificial ways to ripen the fruits.
As far as I'm concerned, I'm aware that I'm eating poison, not food. But I don't have any option. Some consolation for me is, I eat more pulses. and I eat only home food.
10 years ago
chinmoymukherjee replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
Oh,no! A long smouldering fire should
not be kept live! It means they have been
at loggerheads instead of rolling the log
of conjugal yoke for 26 years.The
sooner they decouple the better!
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic It is very Punny!.
Q: You look week ?
A: I had undergone Open Hearth Forgery.
10 years ago
Swetha Shenoy replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
Oh 26 long years
That is incredible. II thought by then, they wuld be comfortable wth each other but it is not the case
It is easy for an outsider like us to give choices, but ii feel that it is the couple's cHoice
I have prsonally seen three divorce cases which took three years each to complete and only two of them are happy. There will be lots oF mental agony and no peace during divorce.
10 years ago
Swetha Shenoy created new topic World food day October 16.
Hello boddunan family members
Today is world food day
While the world has advanced in food technology, yet there are many who are unfed.
Lots of contamination and adulteration in food.
Are you aware of what you eat?
10 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
So sad and tragic! I can imagine how the daughter must be feeling, I think that as a mature and intelligent couple, they must talk it out and try to give it one more chance, after all it is not so easy to end a marriage that lasted for 26 whole years. But on the other side, if they are both control freaks as claimed by each spouse, then it must be very difficult to adjust with each other. They should probably seek counseller for therapy to keep their controlling nature in control. Otherwise, legal separation is the only option.
Yes Kalyani, they are both strong personalities and that is probably the flash point and there are any number of minor issues that come out now. The husband has the full support of his family members because they all blame the wife although the couple has not divulged too many details to them. However , the lady in question has no mother and her father and her only brother are both neutral because they feel that being negative may spoil things more and they genuinely like her husband.So, it looks all the more that it is the fault of the wife which is not the case ! I also feel that his family has been the cause to some extent but I may be going only by her own account ..
10 years ago
Kalyani Nandurkar replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
So sad and tragic! I can imagine how the daughter must be feeling, I think that as a mature and intelligent couple, they must talk it out and try to give it one more chance, after all it is not so easy to end a marriage that lasted for 26 whole years. But on the other side, if they are both control freaks as claimed by each spouse, then it must be very difficult to adjust with each other. They should probably seek counseller for therapy to keep their controlling nature in control. Otherwise, legal separation is the only option.
10 years ago
usha manohar created new topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
When there is problem and differences that cannot be sorted out legal separation or Divorce becomes the only solution..This is the opinion of a couple I am friendly with.They have had problems within their marriage, lived separately just to see if things would get better and now feel that there is no other solution but to go in for a divorce.Their only daughter lives abroad , visits them rarely because of the unhappy atmosphere that prevails within their home. My personal opinion - they are both intelligent and social ,to us look well matched...But now the wife says her husband is a control freak and the Husband has the same opinion about the wife. I was suggesting that they live separately once more with determination to work things out rather than with the idea of separating and finding fault with each other - introspect !!!,....What would your opinions and views be about the couple separating after 26 years of unhappy marriage, should they still try and reconcile !
10 years ago
suni51 replied to the topic Honesty is not the Best policy ?.
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
Shampa Sadhya wrote:
Interestingly this thread made me think about the thread "You can hold someone's progress but can't stop for forever" started by Jeets where some opined that whatever the situation be one has to face all odds and keep on marching towards his/her goal. One must not give up under any pressure but here on this thread the opinion completely differed though some of them are the same people. Honesty is definitely not paying positive returns in this corrupt situation but I would say it's the best policy because it gives peace to one's mind and heart as well as keeps the conscience totally clean. Honesty is not required in work place only but at home, among friends, with neighbours and so on is also very much needed. Dishonesty spoils every relationship so I am always in favour of honesty.
There is a paradox about honesty. even the dishonst expect 'honesty' from others. A smuggler also likes ;honest enployees'. In fact, the corrupt and dishonest 'very honestly' share the 'benefit of unlawful income' among themselves.
The dishonest also want to be treated with respect. A customer of mine was once raided by the IT Dept. and a heavy penalty was to be imposed on him. The matter was 'settled' and he was required to pay a few lakhs to a top IT official. Innocently he took the cash to the officer's office and was about to hand over when the officer admonished him and to him to come to his house in the evening. At the house the officer berated my friend for insulting him by coming to his office and showing disrespect to his rank. He was furious and all this happened in presence of his wife. After venting his anger he asked his wife to collect the cash and store it safely. My friend told me that he even had to apologise for his lapse. It had become a routine affair for the officer. Dishonesty was to be practiced with respect and dignity.
One has to be pragmatic. Nobody will generally accept bribe openly. The usual way is send cash in an envelope and hand over carefully.
On the contrary I was stunned when a Brig. during my BRO projects management days threw my visiting card at me on my second visit saying I don't want this, I want that ( you know what I mean). I already had it in my bag and gave it openly to him what I was hesitating until then.
10 years ago
suni51 replied to the topic It is very Punny!.
Yes for sure, I agree with everyone here - After all the elephants' opinions carry tons of weight.
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Your reputation depends on what kind of people you are working with..
The ability to distinguish between Good and Bad is not everybody's cup of tea. To have this ability, One has to develop from the childhood. For this, both parents and teachers should help the child. We all know all good habits or bad habits start from the home. For this, counseling also helps. There are many counseling centers
Have a look at this site.
http://www.childsupport.in/html/about_us.html
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Your reputation depends on what kind of people you are working with..
Corruption grows out of corruption. This applies to the corrupt politicians and their corrupt children too. Wise parents are aware of this truth. Hence, they take care that their children are surrounded by a clean environment. In this respect, family plays a pivotal role
10 years ago
vijay said thank you to Gulshan Kumar Ajmani for his/her reply to the topic The most corrupt Chief Minister of Karnataka ...
vijay wrote:
A new capital is a must for a new state. nothing wrong in it if it is done fairly and honestly. To say that farmers are giving land willingly is to be counter checked whether they are getting adequate compensation. I recall a very good policy has been adopted by AP in this. To smell corruption in every act of govt is also not fair. at this rate no development can take place. Check but do not despair and decry all the time.
I agree. When you elect a government, you give them authority to use public money in the best interest of state as perceived by them. There is audit and and administrative mechanism to see the propriety and legitimacy of expenditure. Unless money is used clandestinely by fudging public accounts for creating personal assets as distinguished from public assets, corruption cannot be alleged.
10 years ago
vijay replied to the topic The most corrupt Chief Minister of Karnataka ...
Mayawati is the outcome of a class conflict raging from centuries in this country. The installing of statues of elephants and a couple of her own along with Kashiram's statue is to be seen as expression of identity politics. It is a manner of establishing or registering a place in society which was denied till date. When statues of upper caste leaders like Netaji, Nehru, Gandhi are installed all over the country at state expense it is considered normal but when a Dalit's statue is installed it is usually seen as waste of money. Till caste based discrimination is there such demonstrations of identity politics will occur. Incidentally the park at NOIDA is today a beautiful picnic cum tourist site and Dalits also are proud to see their icons standing tall. Let us not grudge them their due after crushing them for centuries.
10 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Your reputation depends on what kind of people you are working with..
yes the family plays a very important role in developing the ability to distinguish between good and bad by a growing child. Imagine the value system the children of corrupt politicians , officials, builders etc inherit. It looks very normal to them.
10 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Honesty is not the Best policy ?.
I was once travelling with a mid level naval officer and te talk veered to corruption. He said something which I found pragmatic. He said everyone is bothered about the 5-10% leakage or bribes in a project. hardly anyone bothers about the quality of the 90% that has been actually spent. The attention should be on it because that is what is going to last for a long period. @Usha is right it does become very difficult for an honest person to survive in an ocean of dishonest persons. Mos of the time the honest is eased away or has to submit. But the saving grace is that although corruption is there it is not so widespread as is believed to be and the honest do get an opportunity to perform.
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
It's an issue of incompatibility and of ego. It's not uncommon to have differences between the couples. But wise couple with a view to save the sanctity of Marriage, avoid conflicts and confrontations In order to save the marriage, at least for the sake of the common interests of the family, they should adjust leaving aside their differences. A home is an abode of peace. Not a battle field Wisdom lies in one of them stepping down to enjoy the fruits of Marital bliss.
In the absence of this, it's better to go for a legal separation.
10 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Honesty is not the Best policy ?.
When you are surrounded by dishonest corrupt people , it may become difficult to swim against the tide so the majority would think " When you cant win them, join them " what a sad state of affairs and one can gauge how rampant bribe taking and giving has become in our society !
10 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
@ Shweta ...I agree that in most marriages this is what happens, the couple grow together not grow apart. But in this particular case thats what has happened ..
@ Chinmoy I too tend to agree that when the differences have escalated over the years it is better to separate rather than make each other and others around them unhappy. At least now one can see couple coming out openly rather than continue to remain unhappy and miserable in a marriage because they are worried what people would say ?
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic World food day October 16.
World Food Day is observed all over the world on October 16. It's objective is to eradicate Hunger by spreading awareness among the people.
But with the rampant abuse of environment for the sake of Development, rainfall has become scarce. Groundwater levels are depleting. All these factors are to pondered before we think of eradicating Hunger.
It applies to India too. Due to reduced rainfall, it has become a herculean task for a farmer to grow his crops. For this reason farmers are forced to resort to chemical based agriculture. The chemical used for farming are ridden with toxins, which further lead to poisoning the food. The traders started using artificial colors to the vegetables and artificial ways to ripen the fruits.
As far as I'm concerned, I'm aware that I'm eating poison, not food. But I don't have any option. Some consolation for me is, I eat more pulses. and I eat only home food.
10 years ago
chinmoymukherjee replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
Oh,no! A long smouldering fire should
not be kept live! It means they have been
at loggerheads instead of rolling the log
of conjugal yoke for 26 years.The
sooner they decouple the better!
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic It is very Punny!.
Q: You look week ?
A: I had undergone Open Hearth Forgery.
10 years ago
Swetha Shenoy replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
Oh 26 long years
That is incredible. II thought by then, they wuld be comfortable wth each other but it is not the case
It is easy for an outsider like us to give choices, but ii feel that it is the couple's cHoice
I have prsonally seen three divorce cases which took three years each to complete and only two of them are happy. There will be lots oF mental agony and no peace during divorce.
10 years ago
Swetha Shenoy created new topic World food day October 16.
Hello boddunan family members
Today is world food day
While the world has advanced in food technology, yet there are many who are unfed.
Lots of contamination and adulteration in food.
Are you aware of what you eat?
10 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
So sad and tragic! I can imagine how the daughter must be feeling, I think that as a mature and intelligent couple, they must talk it out and try to give it one more chance, after all it is not so easy to end a marriage that lasted for 26 whole years. But on the other side, if they are both control freaks as claimed by each spouse, then it must be very difficult to adjust with each other. They should probably seek counseller for therapy to keep their controlling nature in control. Otherwise, legal separation is the only option.
Yes Kalyani, they are both strong personalities and that is probably the flash point and there are any number of minor issues that come out now. The husband has the full support of his family members because they all blame the wife although the couple has not divulged too many details to them. However , the lady in question has no mother and her father and her only brother are both neutral because they feel that being negative may spoil things more and they genuinely like her husband.So, it looks all the more that it is the fault of the wife which is not the case ! I also feel that his family has been the cause to some extent but I may be going only by her own account ..
10 years ago
Kalyani Nandurkar replied to the topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
So sad and tragic! I can imagine how the daughter must be feeling, I think that as a mature and intelligent couple, they must talk it out and try to give it one more chance, after all it is not so easy to end a marriage that lasted for 26 whole years. But on the other side, if they are both control freaks as claimed by each spouse, then it must be very difficult to adjust with each other. They should probably seek counseller for therapy to keep their controlling nature in control. Otherwise, legal separation is the only option.
10 years ago
usha manohar created new topic Is Legal Separation the only solution?.
When there is problem and differences that cannot be sorted out legal separation or Divorce becomes the only solution..This is the opinion of a couple I am friendly with.They have had problems within their marriage, lived separately just to see if things would get better and now feel that there is no other solution but to go in for a divorce.Their only daughter lives abroad , visits them rarely because of the unhappy atmosphere that prevails within their home. My personal opinion - they are both intelligent and social ,to us look well matched...But now the wife says her husband is a control freak and the Husband has the same opinion about the wife. I was suggesting that they live separately once more with determination to work things out rather than with the idea of separating and finding fault with each other - introspect !!!,....What would your opinions and views be about the couple separating after 26 years of unhappy marriage, should they still try and reconcile !
10 years ago
suni51 replied to the topic Honesty is not the Best policy ?.
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
Shampa Sadhya wrote:
Interestingly this thread made me think about the thread "You can hold someone's progress but can't stop for forever" started by Jeets where some opined that whatever the situation be one has to face all odds and keep on marching towards his/her goal. One must not give up under any pressure but here on this thread the opinion completely differed though some of them are the same people. Honesty is definitely not paying positive returns in this corrupt situation but I would say it's the best policy because it gives peace to one's mind and heart as well as keeps the conscience totally clean. Honesty is not required in work place only but at home, among friends, with neighbours and so on is also very much needed. Dishonesty spoils every relationship so I am always in favour of honesty.
There is a paradox about honesty. even the dishonst expect 'honesty' from others. A smuggler also likes ;honest enployees'. In fact, the corrupt and dishonest 'very honestly' share the 'benefit of unlawful income' among themselves.
The dishonest also want to be treated with respect. A customer of mine was once raided by the IT Dept. and a heavy penalty was to be imposed on him. The matter was 'settled' and he was required to pay a few lakhs to a top IT official. Innocently he took the cash to the officer's office and was about to hand over when the officer admonished him and to him to come to his house in the evening. At the house the officer berated my friend for insulting him by coming to his office and showing disrespect to his rank. He was furious and all this happened in presence of his wife. After venting his anger he asked his wife to collect the cash and store it safely. My friend told me that he even had to apologise for his lapse. It had become a routine affair for the officer. Dishonesty was to be practiced with respect and dignity.
One has to be pragmatic. Nobody will generally accept bribe openly. The usual way is send cash in an envelope and hand over carefully.
On the contrary I was stunned when a Brig. during my BRO projects management days threw my visiting card at me on my second visit saying I don't want this, I want that ( you know what I mean). I already had it in my bag and gave it openly to him what I was hesitating until then.
10 years ago
suni51 replied to the topic It is very Punny!.
Yes for sure, I agree with everyone here - After all the elephants' opinions carry tons of weight.
10 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Your reputation depends on what kind of people you are working with..
The ability to distinguish between Good and Bad is not everybody's cup of tea. To have this ability, One has to develop from the childhood. For this, both parents and teachers should help the child. We all know all good habits or bad habits start from the home. For this, counseling also helps. There are many counseling centers
Have a look at this site.
http://www.childsupport.in/html/about_us.html
10 years ago