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Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic Indian Muslims are equal says Taslima Nasreen.
It is true that Indian constitution gives equal rights to all citizens. We always raise our voice whenever there is attack on secularism. Certainly we cannot compare ourselves with Bangladesh where there is no freedom of religion and speech. All secular minded as well as minorities are targeted there. Recently a science teacher was killed because he told his students that certain thing stated in Koran is not true. India is much better although in recent times, there have been brazen attacks on minorities- Christians as well as Muslims- and also on rationalist intellectuals. There was recently a big debate on intolerance. However we talk of intolerance, we do not compare with Bangladesh and Saudi Arabia. But this also cannot be ignored that the extreme Hindutva forces have every intention to force their fascist design on the country. So we need to fight against communal and fascist forces.
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
According to one member when BJP wins there is always a sinister reason for this whereas when his own favorite arty wins it is win for democracy, truly laughable especially since the party is slowly disintegrating itself because of their communal agenda and misrule and BJP is called a communal party !!!!
BJP is a nation level party. we definitely need multi party system. so BJP is also to be there. Voters must have a choice. So far as BJP is called communal, the obvious reason is association with R.S.S./ allied organizations like Vishwa Hindu Parishad, Bajarangf dal ertc. All democratic minded citizens would like that there are alternatives for voters. BJP as an alternative to Congress is welcome. However, BJP needs to disassociate from the rabid fascist outfit headed by R.S.S. BJP independent of R.S.S. will be most welcome to all.
I beg to differ with you. Please don't expect BJP sans RSS. Do you think people are not aware of the fact about BJP -RSS association ? Had the people thought, combination of BJP and RSS, a sacrilege, they wouldn't have elected the BJP with an overwhelming majority to rule the country.
9 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
@Gulshan What about a person who has a genuine degree but has fake knowledge?
If somebody has real degree, he cannot be accused of crime of holding fake degree. Knowledge is something abstract. Knowledge can help one to grow and prosper. I know some who have no degree in law but work as consultant in taxation because of robust knowledge and experience. One who has degree but no knowledge and competence will be failure in life. There are many advocates in court who know nothing except recommending clients to successful advocates and getting something in return.
Knowledge, skill and experience helps more than mere degree. But still you need degree as this is mandatory for certain jobs. You cannot work as a doctor unless you have appropriate degree inspite of knowledge and experience.
My question is, All degree holders are epitome of knowledge ? All non Degree holders are Donkeys ? My opinion is knowledge is certainly important. If a degree provides the all important knowledge, there is nothing like it. Otherwise such Degrees are useless. All in all, I consider knowledge only matters. I don't have a Degree or Diploma from an Art School. But, Vizag Steel Plant in AP, has given me the Job of Manager, Visual arts.
I agree with you. A degree is a formal document certifying certain level of knowledge. This is mandatory for certain appointments. You cannot be company auditor unless you are a chartered accountant. But it is possible that knowledge and skill of formally qualified may be less than that of a non qualified person. One needs to constantly update his skill and knowledge.
But here the issue is that fake degree is undesirable. If you have no degree, better to say that you have none. I am happy that you got notable achievement by dint of your merit. Mere degree is no guarantee of actual knowledge and skill. skill is like a knife that needs constant sharpening.
I did the same in my interview at the Vizag Steel plant. I declared in no uncertain terms that I don't have any art related Qualification. But, the then chief of the Personnel Department said that he had seen my portfolio of my works and was confident that I can serve the organization's objectives. It's not all, I was sent to the most leading Advertising Agencies like R.K. Swamy for advanced training in Web designing and Visual Arts.
I once again congratulate and wish you all the best.
9 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
usha manohar wrote:
According to one member when BJP wins there is always a sinister reason for this whereas when his own favorite arty wins it is win for democracy, truly laughable especially since the party is slowly disintegrating itself because of their communal agenda and misrule and BJP is called a communal party !!!!
BJP is a nation level party. we definitely need multi party system. so BJP is also to be there. Voters must have a choice. So far as BJP is called communal, the obvious reason is association with R.S.S./ allied organizations like Vishwa Hindu Parishad, Bajarangf dal ertc. All democratic minded citizens would like that there are alternatives for voters. BJP as an alternative to Congress is welcome. However, BJP needs to disassociate from the rabid fascist outfit headed by R.S.S. BJP independent of R.S.S. will be most welcome to all.
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
@Gulshan What about a person who has a genuine degree but has fake knowledge?
If somebody has real degree, he cannot be accused of crime of holding fake degree. Knowledge is something abstract. Knowledge can help one to grow and prosper. I know some who have no degree in law but work as consultant in taxation because of robust knowledge and experience. One who has degree but no knowledge and competence will be failure in life. There are many advocates in court who know nothing except recommending clients to successful advocates and getting something in return.
Knowledge, skill and experience helps more than mere degree. But still you need degree as this is mandatory for certain jobs. You cannot work as a doctor unless you have appropriate degree inspite of knowledge and experience.
My question is, All degree holders are epitome of knowledge ? All non Degree holders are Donkeys ? My opinion is knowledge is certainly important. If a degree provides the all important knowledge, there is nothing like it. Otherwise such Degrees are useless. All in all, I consider knowledge only matters. I don't have a Degree or Diploma from an Art School. But, Vizag Steel Plant in AP, has given me the Job of Manager, Visual arts.
I agree with you. A degree is a formal document certifying certain level of knowledge. This is mandatory for certain appointments. You cannot be company auditor unless you are a chartered accountant. But it is possible that knowledge and skill of formally qualified may be less than that of a non qualified person. One needs to constantly update his skill and knowledge.
But here the issue is that fake degree is undesirable. If you have no degree, better to say that you have none. I am happy that you got notable achievement by dint of your merit. Mere degree is no guarantee of actual knowledge and skill. skill is like a knife that needs constant sharpening.
I did the same in my interview at the Vizag Steel plant. I declared in no uncertain terms that I don't have any art related Qualification. But, the then chief of the Personnel Department said that he had seen my portfolio of my works and was confident that I can serve the organization's objectives. It's not all, I was sent to the most leading Advertising Agencies like R.K. Swamy for advanced training in Web designing and Visual Arts.
9 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
@Gulshan What about a person who has a genuine degree but has fake knowledge?
If somebody has real degree, he cannot be accused of crime of holding fake degree. Knowledge is something abstract. Knowledge can help one to grow and prosper. I know some who have no degree in law but work as consultant in taxation because of robust knowledge and experience. One who has degree but no knowledge and competence will be failure in life. There are many advocates in court who know nothing except recommending clients to successful advocates and getting something in return.
Knowledge, skill and experience helps more than mere degree. But still you need degree as this is mandatory for certain jobs. You cannot work as a doctor unless you have appropriate degree inspite of knowledge and experience.
My question is, All degree holders are epitome of knowledge ? All non Degree holders are Donkeys ? My opinion is knowledge is certainly important. If a degree provides the all important knowledge, there is nothing like it. Otherwise such Degrees are useless. All in all, I consider knowledge only matters. I don't have a Degree or Diploma from an Art School. But, Vizag Steel Plant in AP, has given me the Job of Manager, Visual arts.
I agree with you. A degree is a formal document certifying certain level of knowledge. This is mandatory for certain appointments. You cannot be company auditor unless you are a chartered accountant. But it is possible that knowledge and skill of formally qualified may be less than that of a non qualified person. One needs to constantly update his skill and knowledge.
But here the issue is that fake degree is undesirable. If you have no degree, better to say that you have none. I am happy that you got notable achievement by dint of your merit. Mere degree is no guarantee of actual knowledge and skill. skill is like a knife that needs constant sharpening.
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Do you know the Capsules you take as medicine are made up of?.
The discussion here about giving information about capsules and what they are made of, not whether they are good or bad. we cannot do away without medication and capsules so no point in debating ..I doubt if anyone can do away with tablets and capsules even if they want to since we are bound to fall sick, catch infections, become old and infirm
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Changing Parent - Children relationship.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
There are both positive and negative aspects when there is change. But with time and experience it becomes easier to adapt to the change in relationship s
Yes, it does become easier with time and experience, but like I said in some other instance, there has to be willingness to adapt too, without which things become very difficult and unpleasant for all parties involved. I have seen how parents have refused to accept modern dress codes in their children and their insistence to make them stick to the parents' own notion of what is fashionable resulted in estrangement between parents and children. Here, it was only a trivial issue such as clothes, and modern outfits do not necessarily mean skimpy clothing, but the parents closed all lines of communication and now are left all alone as children refuse to have anything to do with them.
I agree Kalyani, dress preference always leads to a tug of war between the parents and daughters, boys are lucky that way ! Now here in my city all colleges have uniforms on week days and only n Saturday being half working days ,the students are allowed to wear any other dress and the girls and boys are waiting to dress up on those days. But even that has to be within the dress code that a college follows, so no short tops or short dresses above knees etc..One of my neighbors daughter is in college and she loves to dress up in dresses and it looks nice on her because she is a pretty girl with a trim figure. But her mother would have none of it , so the poor girl wears a salwar kameez and change into a dress at her friends place and change back before coming home..I know this and I am sure so do many others ! I wonder what would happen when the mother comes to know ..
Yes Usha, the example you gave I have seen in my own friends, and when the truth comes out all hell breaks loose. Instead the parents should sit down with their kids and talk about what is appropriate dress and what is not, explain their reasons for choosing a particular or not allowing a specific pattern etc with respect to consequences of wearing such dresses, their social bearing etc. Just putting the foot down and say 'such and such a dress will not be tolerated " will only make the kids rebel more. OF course, dressing is just one example. There are so many others if we see for clashes between parents and children.
Just today I was looking at the local news channels and there was a news item about a middle aged couple committing suicide because their daughter had gone off with the by she was in love with and the boy had called and told the parents that they would get married. I find this step by the parents very immature because once a child is a major one should let them make their own decisions, at the most parents can guide them or advise them , that is if they are ready to listen or else at least be part of their decisions, that way you can at least have some say when you see things not working out well..
That is the tragic tale of modern times. People expect their children to be all educated, well rounded and talented, go-getters, globetrotters and yet, do not allow kids to take their own decisions with respect to food choices, clothing and future life partners! A hotch potch of fairy tales with tragic ending.
I feel that many parents fail to distinguish between discipline and authority. After a certain age children tend to become more independent in their thoughts and peer pressure too is anther factor that make them revolt. Earlier this was not an issue because our joint family system acted as everything to an individual - Cousins and neighbors were friends which meant not much newer ideas seeping in ..
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic The hooligans of saffron family .
Of curse it is always the small members who pay the price for the anti social activities or for that matter anything that is against the nation like it has been happening in Congress party where no one dares to say anything against the fake Gandhis and if they do so,they will be razed out ! That is secularism , communalism, dictatorship or whatever one wants to call it, at its best !
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Clear evidence of saffron agenda .
There is no need to thrust Hindutva in India which is after all a Hindu nation and Hinduism is there around us and all over the place, like it or not... More and more reasons emerge to give up on this sham of communalism in the name of secularism that our country was forced to practice for so many years and let people decide what exactly they want ..
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
A degree has always been important in the Indian context more so for government jobs, however , if a job is given for someone without qualifications it was probably under sympathetic grounds, where the person will be at a level where managerial decisions will not be possible and also because of caste considerations ..Simply because someone is good at something does not get one a job without the proper qualifications..
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
According to one member when BJP wins there is always a sinister reason for this whereas when his own favorite arty wins it is win for democracy, truly laughable especially since the party is slowly disintegrating itself because of their communal agenda and misrule and BJP is called a communal party !!!!
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
We are talking about the necessity of a Degree. Not about Political parties. I request you to stick to the content of the thread.
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
I talk facts. I don't believe in blind supporting of any political party.
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Indian Muslims are equal says Taslima Nasreen.
I am as clear as I want to be and what is being discussed here is what Taslima has said in an interview an if you have issues against that , I cant help you ..
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
It is no longer true that who rules UP rules India. Both Congress and BJP are out of power in UP since long but ruled India. @Gulshan is right that BJP garners a good chunk of votes because of polarization. @Rambabu for a change has shown right approach to evaluation of BJP in future by electorate. Ultimately it is how the electorate perceive that matters.
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Hindu terrorism being protected .
A misguided missile like AAP and its crazy leader seem to have no better business other than target Modi and BJP with oodles of help from other opposition parties as well. So anything said by AAP is not to be either considered ,leave alone believed. It is the NIA which has given clean chit nt just to Sadhvi but also to a few Muslims..So does that mean they too are Hindu terrorists ?
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
Which party was in power when you got a job without a degree, would be interesting to know?
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Indian Muslims are equal says Taslima Nasreen.
How many Hindus settled abroad will come back to India if given a choice to do so. So let us not be patronising towards Muslims who are equal citizens of India. Hindus settled in UK were openly wooed by its PM during last elections. What is wrong in that. You are confusing issues. Please be specific.
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Hindu terrorism being protected .
It is all a big mess. Whose version is to be believed NDAs or UPAs. It is clear now ideology is playing a big part in solving these cases.
9 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic Indian Muslims are equal says Taslima Nasreen.
It is true that Indian constitution gives equal rights to all citizens. We always raise our voice whenever there is attack on secularism. Certainly we cannot compare ourselves with Bangladesh where there is no freedom of religion and speech. All secular minded as well as minorities are targeted there. Recently a science teacher was killed because he told his students that certain thing stated in Koran is not true. India is much better although in recent times, there have been brazen attacks on minorities- Christians as well as Muslims- and also on rationalist intellectuals. There was recently a big debate on intolerance. However we talk of intolerance, we do not compare with Bangladesh and Saudi Arabia. But this also cannot be ignored that the extreme Hindutva forces have every intention to force their fascist design on the country. So we need to fight against communal and fascist forces.
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
According to one member when BJP wins there is always a sinister reason for this whereas when his own favorite arty wins it is win for democracy, truly laughable especially since the party is slowly disintegrating itself because of their communal agenda and misrule and BJP is called a communal party !!!!
BJP is a nation level party. we definitely need multi party system. so BJP is also to be there. Voters must have a choice. So far as BJP is called communal, the obvious reason is association with R.S.S./ allied organizations like Vishwa Hindu Parishad, Bajarangf dal ertc. All democratic minded citizens would like that there are alternatives for voters. BJP as an alternative to Congress is welcome. However, BJP needs to disassociate from the rabid fascist outfit headed by R.S.S. BJP independent of R.S.S. will be most welcome to all.
I beg to differ with you. Please don't expect BJP sans RSS. Do you think people are not aware of the fact about BJP -RSS association ? Had the people thought, combination of BJP and RSS, a sacrilege, they wouldn't have elected the BJP with an overwhelming majority to rule the country.
9 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
@Gulshan What about a person who has a genuine degree but has fake knowledge?
If somebody has real degree, he cannot be accused of crime of holding fake degree. Knowledge is something abstract. Knowledge can help one to grow and prosper. I know some who have no degree in law but work as consultant in taxation because of robust knowledge and experience. One who has degree but no knowledge and competence will be failure in life. There are many advocates in court who know nothing except recommending clients to successful advocates and getting something in return.
Knowledge, skill and experience helps more than mere degree. But still you need degree as this is mandatory for certain jobs. You cannot work as a doctor unless you have appropriate degree inspite of knowledge and experience.
My question is, All degree holders are epitome of knowledge ? All non Degree holders are Donkeys ? My opinion is knowledge is certainly important. If a degree provides the all important knowledge, there is nothing like it. Otherwise such Degrees are useless. All in all, I consider knowledge only matters. I don't have a Degree or Diploma from an Art School. But, Vizag Steel Plant in AP, has given me the Job of Manager, Visual arts.
I agree with you. A degree is a formal document certifying certain level of knowledge. This is mandatory for certain appointments. You cannot be company auditor unless you are a chartered accountant. But it is possible that knowledge and skill of formally qualified may be less than that of a non qualified person. One needs to constantly update his skill and knowledge.
But here the issue is that fake degree is undesirable. If you have no degree, better to say that you have none. I am happy that you got notable achievement by dint of your merit. Mere degree is no guarantee of actual knowledge and skill. skill is like a knife that needs constant sharpening.
I did the same in my interview at the Vizag Steel plant. I declared in no uncertain terms that I don't have any art related Qualification. But, the then chief of the Personnel Department said that he had seen my portfolio of my works and was confident that I can serve the organization's objectives. It's not all, I was sent to the most leading Advertising Agencies like R.K. Swamy for advanced training in Web designing and Visual Arts.
I once again congratulate and wish you all the best.
9 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
usha manohar wrote:
According to one member when BJP wins there is always a sinister reason for this whereas when his own favorite arty wins it is win for democracy, truly laughable especially since the party is slowly disintegrating itself because of their communal agenda and misrule and BJP is called a communal party !!!!
BJP is a nation level party. we definitely need multi party system. so BJP is also to be there. Voters must have a choice. So far as BJP is called communal, the obvious reason is association with R.S.S./ allied organizations like Vishwa Hindu Parishad, Bajarangf dal ertc. All democratic minded citizens would like that there are alternatives for voters. BJP as an alternative to Congress is welcome. However, BJP needs to disassociate from the rabid fascist outfit headed by R.S.S. BJP independent of R.S.S. will be most welcome to all.
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
@Gulshan What about a person who has a genuine degree but has fake knowledge?
If somebody has real degree, he cannot be accused of crime of holding fake degree. Knowledge is something abstract. Knowledge can help one to grow and prosper. I know some who have no degree in law but work as consultant in taxation because of robust knowledge and experience. One who has degree but no knowledge and competence will be failure in life. There are many advocates in court who know nothing except recommending clients to successful advocates and getting something in return.
Knowledge, skill and experience helps more than mere degree. But still you need degree as this is mandatory for certain jobs. You cannot work as a doctor unless you have appropriate degree inspite of knowledge and experience.
My question is, All degree holders are epitome of knowledge ? All non Degree holders are Donkeys ? My opinion is knowledge is certainly important. If a degree provides the all important knowledge, there is nothing like it. Otherwise such Degrees are useless. All in all, I consider knowledge only matters. I don't have a Degree or Diploma from an Art School. But, Vizag Steel Plant in AP, has given me the Job of Manager, Visual arts.
I agree with you. A degree is a formal document certifying certain level of knowledge. This is mandatory for certain appointments. You cannot be company auditor unless you are a chartered accountant. But it is possible that knowledge and skill of formally qualified may be less than that of a non qualified person. One needs to constantly update his skill and knowledge.
But here the issue is that fake degree is undesirable. If you have no degree, better to say that you have none. I am happy that you got notable achievement by dint of your merit. Mere degree is no guarantee of actual knowledge and skill. skill is like a knife that needs constant sharpening.
I did the same in my interview at the Vizag Steel plant. I declared in no uncertain terms that I don't have any art related Qualification. But, the then chief of the Personnel Department said that he had seen my portfolio of my works and was confident that I can serve the organization's objectives. It's not all, I was sent to the most leading Advertising Agencies like R.K. Swamy for advanced training in Web designing and Visual Arts.
9 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
rambabu wrote:
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:
vijay wrote:
@Gulshan What about a person who has a genuine degree but has fake knowledge?
If somebody has real degree, he cannot be accused of crime of holding fake degree. Knowledge is something abstract. Knowledge can help one to grow and prosper. I know some who have no degree in law but work as consultant in taxation because of robust knowledge and experience. One who has degree but no knowledge and competence will be failure in life. There are many advocates in court who know nothing except recommending clients to successful advocates and getting something in return.
Knowledge, skill and experience helps more than mere degree. But still you need degree as this is mandatory for certain jobs. You cannot work as a doctor unless you have appropriate degree inspite of knowledge and experience.
My question is, All degree holders are epitome of knowledge ? All non Degree holders are Donkeys ? My opinion is knowledge is certainly important. If a degree provides the all important knowledge, there is nothing like it. Otherwise such Degrees are useless. All in all, I consider knowledge only matters. I don't have a Degree or Diploma from an Art School. But, Vizag Steel Plant in AP, has given me the Job of Manager, Visual arts.
I agree with you. A degree is a formal document certifying certain level of knowledge. This is mandatory for certain appointments. You cannot be company auditor unless you are a chartered accountant. But it is possible that knowledge and skill of formally qualified may be less than that of a non qualified person. One needs to constantly update his skill and knowledge.
But here the issue is that fake degree is undesirable. If you have no degree, better to say that you have none. I am happy that you got notable achievement by dint of your merit. Mere degree is no guarantee of actual knowledge and skill. skill is like a knife that needs constant sharpening.
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Do you know the Capsules you take as medicine are made up of?.
The discussion here about giving information about capsules and what they are made of, not whether they are good or bad. we cannot do away without medication and capsules so no point in debating ..I doubt if anyone can do away with tablets and capsules even if they want to since we are bound to fall sick, catch infections, become old and infirm
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Changing Parent - Children relationship.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
There are both positive and negative aspects when there is change. But with time and experience it becomes easier to adapt to the change in relationship s
Yes, it does become easier with time and experience, but like I said in some other instance, there has to be willingness to adapt too, without which things become very difficult and unpleasant for all parties involved. I have seen how parents have refused to accept modern dress codes in their children and their insistence to make them stick to the parents' own notion of what is fashionable resulted in estrangement between parents and children. Here, it was only a trivial issue such as clothes, and modern outfits do not necessarily mean skimpy clothing, but the parents closed all lines of communication and now are left all alone as children refuse to have anything to do with them.
I agree Kalyani, dress preference always leads to a tug of war between the parents and daughters, boys are lucky that way ! Now here in my city all colleges have uniforms on week days and only n Saturday being half working days ,the students are allowed to wear any other dress and the girls and boys are waiting to dress up on those days. But even that has to be within the dress code that a college follows, so no short tops or short dresses above knees etc..One of my neighbors daughter is in college and she loves to dress up in dresses and it looks nice on her because she is a pretty girl with a trim figure. But her mother would have none of it , so the poor girl wears a salwar kameez and change into a dress at her friends place and change back before coming home..I know this and I am sure so do many others ! I wonder what would happen when the mother comes to know ..
Yes Usha, the example you gave I have seen in my own friends, and when the truth comes out all hell breaks loose. Instead the parents should sit down with their kids and talk about what is appropriate dress and what is not, explain their reasons for choosing a particular or not allowing a specific pattern etc with respect to consequences of wearing such dresses, their social bearing etc. Just putting the foot down and say 'such and such a dress will not be tolerated " will only make the kids rebel more. OF course, dressing is just one example. There are so many others if we see for clashes between parents and children.
Just today I was looking at the local news channels and there was a news item about a middle aged couple committing suicide because their daughter had gone off with the by she was in love with and the boy had called and told the parents that they would get married. I find this step by the parents very immature because once a child is a major one should let them make their own decisions, at the most parents can guide them or advise them , that is if they are ready to listen or else at least be part of their decisions, that way you can at least have some say when you see things not working out well..
That is the tragic tale of modern times. People expect their children to be all educated, well rounded and talented, go-getters, globetrotters and yet, do not allow kids to take their own decisions with respect to food choices, clothing and future life partners! A hotch potch of fairy tales with tragic ending.
I feel that many parents fail to distinguish between discipline and authority. After a certain age children tend to become more independent in their thoughts and peer pressure too is anther factor that make them revolt. Earlier this was not an issue because our joint family system acted as everything to an individual - Cousins and neighbors were friends which meant not much newer ideas seeping in ..
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic The hooligans of saffron family .
Of curse it is always the small members who pay the price for the anti social activities or for that matter anything that is against the nation like it has been happening in Congress party where no one dares to say anything against the fake Gandhis and if they do so,they will be razed out ! That is secularism , communalism, dictatorship or whatever one wants to call it, at its best !
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Clear evidence of saffron agenda .
There is no need to thrust Hindutva in India which is after all a Hindu nation and Hinduism is there around us and all over the place, like it or not... More and more reasons emerge to give up on this sham of communalism in the name of secularism that our country was forced to practice for so many years and let people decide what exactly they want ..
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
A degree has always been important in the Indian context more so for government jobs, however , if a job is given for someone without qualifications it was probably under sympathetic grounds, where the person will be at a level where managerial decisions will not be possible and also because of caste considerations ..Simply because someone is good at something does not get one a job without the proper qualifications..
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
According to one member when BJP wins there is always a sinister reason for this whereas when his own favorite arty wins it is win for democracy, truly laughable especially since the party is slowly disintegrating itself because of their communal agenda and misrule and BJP is called a communal party !!!!
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
We are talking about the necessity of a Degree. Not about Political parties. I request you to stick to the content of the thread.
9 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
I talk facts. I don't believe in blind supporting of any political party.
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Indian Muslims are equal says Taslima Nasreen.
I am as clear as I want to be and what is being discussed here is what Taslima has said in an interview an if you have issues against that , I cant help you ..
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic What the Rise of Narendra Modi Means to India.
It is no longer true that who rules UP rules India. Both Congress and BJP are out of power in UP since long but ruled India. @Gulshan is right that BJP garners a good chunk of votes because of polarization. @Rambabu for a change has shown right approach to evaluation of BJP in future by electorate. Ultimately it is how the electorate perceive that matters.
9 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Hindu terrorism being protected .
A misguided missile like AAP and its crazy leader seem to have no better business other than target Modi and BJP with oodles of help from other opposition parties as well. So anything said by AAP is not to be either considered ,leave alone believed. It is the NIA which has given clean chit nt just to Sadhvi but also to a few Muslims..So does that mean they too are Hindu terrorists ?
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic What is there in degree? .
Which party was in power when you got a job without a degree, would be interesting to know?
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Indian Muslims are equal says Taslima Nasreen.
How many Hindus settled abroad will come back to India if given a choice to do so. So let us not be patronising towards Muslims who are equal citizens of India. Hindus settled in UK were openly wooed by its PM during last elections. What is wrong in that. You are confusing issues. Please be specific.
9 years ago
vijay replied to the topic Hindu terrorism being protected .
It is all a big mess. Whose version is to be believed NDAs or UPAs. It is clear now ideology is playing a big part in solving these cases.
9 years ago