Often we find ourselves being misunderstood for no fault of ours.  This is due to improper communication.  Improper communication can be classified into 3 categories.  Let us conduct a study taking into consideration 3 people with fictiicious names Rani, Vanaja & Tanya

1) Message getting distorted:- All 3 Rani, Vanaja & Tanya are good people and have good intent.  Rani is a  common friend to both Vanaja & Tanya.  Vanaja does not know Tanya and hence wants to communicate to Tanya through Rani.  While Rani makes best possible efforts to communicate with Vanaja & Tanya some distortions take place in actual communication either through some additional words gets incorporated or missing out on some words.

2) Message not getting transmitted:- Vanaja wants to communicate to Tanya through Rani, but Rani eventhough she is good and dependable, she is very lazy.  Therefore the communication does not get transmitted at appropriate time and hence misunderstandings occur between Vanaja & Tanya

3) Passing on wrong message deliberately: Vanaja is dependent on Rani for passing message to Tanya.  Rani's intent has never ever been good as he her sole aim is to create misunderstandings.  Here Rani passes on wrong message to Tanya & vice-versa and hence misunderstandings are created.

If you take the above factors into consideration, a way to effective communication would be to eliminate the third person and interact directly with whom we actually want to communicate.

Regards

Satish