Pain in relationships

pain is an intrinsic part of a relationship just like teething pain is an intrinsic part of growing up. Except that teething troubles are only for a short period of time, and pain is a regular part of a relationship.

Both active and passive pain. Active pain is the pain that the other inadvertently gives us in the relationship, and passive pain is that we give ourselves, when we realize that we are inadvertently giving pain to the other.

Both pains are an unavoidable part in the relationship.

Once we realize this, we learn to accept pain in a relationship as something natural and won’t want to run away from it, as if it is not supposed to be there.

We are supposed to face it, like we face the toothache, without wanting to pull the tooth out, to stop the pain.

Once we accept that pain is inevitable, and then I think that we are better braced to have longer lasting relationship

If we develop a sweet tooth, then definitely we could have a toothache later. And when you go to a dentist to reduce your pain--you have options to--extract the tooth. or bear the pain with some medicines .

So the pain in every sweet thing like relationships is inevitable too. The more you get attached or expect -the more you are going to be in pain. If you have to be in it, learn to bear the pain too. If you have the ability to detach yourself --then there is no pain. So we have to learn to balance ourselves

A relationship should come naturally. I guess, it is sad, when one person feels pain because of the other. I would rather call a relationship, by no name. When one tries to 'be' in a relationship, then that is not a relationship for me. Perhaps, I would feel pain in the past, but now I feel pain for different reasons. First of all, if there is unhappiness after a relationship, then it should not happen at all. I find no happiness in the company of the opposite sex, which is very fine for me. I don't believe in the concept of a relationship.