Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K.Gandhi Institute for Nonviolence, in his June 9 lecture at the University of Puerto Rico shared the following story:
I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban , South Africa , in the middle of the sugar plantations.
We were deep in the country and had no neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.
One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance.
Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father asked me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced.
When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, "I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together."
After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time.
It was 5:30 before I remembered.
By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.
He anxiously asked me, "Why were you late?"
I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, "The car wasn't ready, so I had to wait," not realizing that he had already called the garage.
When he caught me in the lie, he said: "There's something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn't give you the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I'm going to walk home 18 miles and think about it."
So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads.
I couldn't leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered.
I decided then and there that I was never going to lie again.
I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don't think so.
I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing.
But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.
That is the power of non-violence.
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Non violence works only as a tool only against the civilized. Mahatama Gandhi picked up thread of non violence from Bible and rule of law from British juridical system. I am sure non violence would not have worked against Changez Khan and Mohammad Gauri.
Mahatama Gandhi studies western political system and beliefs and intelligently used against British.
Mahatama Gandhi studies western political system and beliefs and intelligently used against British.
@ gulshan
i agree with the statement given by you..and i also stated the same thing...Children now-a-days do not react in Non-violent way but it doesnt mean parents or teacher should beat them physically...they can be handled in Non-violent way but patience should be maintained...as instant results can not be expected always. :)
@ manisha
I couldnt follow what you have expressed please elobrate. :)
i agree with the statement given by you..and i also stated the same thing...Children now-a-days do not react in Non-violent way but it doesnt mean parents or teacher should beat them physically...they can be handled in Non-violent way but patience should be maintained...as instant results can not be expected always. :)
@ manisha
I couldnt follow what you have expressed please elobrate. :)
Rajani K wrote:
[quote]@ gulshan
i agree with the statement given by you..and i also stated the same thing...Children now-a-days do not react in Non-violent way but it doesnt mean parents or teacher should beat them physically...they can be handled in Non-violent way but patience should be maintained...as instant results can not be expected always. :)
@ manisha
I couldnt follow what you have expressed please elobrate. :)[/quote]
Dealing with children is different from the non violence used against Britishers by Gandhi. The parents have to bring up children properly. Love and affection and sympathetic handling are more effective than scolding and beating. But punishment cannot be altogether ruled out. The parents have to strike a happy balance for successful upbringing of their children.
[quote]@ gulshan
i agree with the statement given by you..and i also stated the same thing...Children now-a-days do not react in Non-violent way but it doesnt mean parents or teacher should beat them physically...they can be handled in Non-violent way but patience should be maintained...as instant results can not be expected always. :)
@ manisha
I couldnt follow what you have expressed please elobrate. :)[/quote]
Dealing with children is different from the non violence used against Britishers by Gandhi. The parents have to bring up children properly. Love and affection and sympathetic handling are more effective than scolding and beating. But punishment cannot be altogether ruled out. The parents have to strike a happy balance for successful upbringing of their children.
Raja wrote:
[quote]its true that the power of non violence is great, but in this modern world i believe the violence will stamp its authority on non violence too[/quote]
Raja- I agree. Violence will stamp its authority on non violence too. Non violence as a policy cannot be implemented. It is not feasible to disband armed forces. Non violence should be accepted a norm of civilized behavior. It needs reciprocal adherence. It is not possible that one party indulges in violence and the other does not retaliate.
[quote]its true that the power of non violence is great, but in this modern world i believe the violence will stamp its authority on non violence too[/quote]
Raja- I agree. Violence will stamp its authority on non violence too. Non violence as a policy cannot be implemented. It is not feasible to disband armed forces. Non violence should be accepted a norm of civilized behavior. It needs reciprocal adherence. It is not possible that one party indulges in violence and the other does not retaliate.
Basheer wrote:
[quote]Non violence is good, but it won't work in any or all areas.[/quote]
You are absolutely correct. Non violence is a reciprocal policy. We should shun violence and live in peace and harmony. But we cannot be non violent to those who understand only the language of violence. The police forces cannot be non violent towards criminals and insurgents. The armed forces cannot be non violent to alien enemies in war. Violence also has room in our life but this should be minimum according to circumstances.
[quote]Non violence is good, but it won't work in any or all areas.[/quote]
You are absolutely correct. Non violence is a reciprocal policy. We should shun violence and live in peace and harmony. But we cannot be non violent to those who understand only the language of violence. The police forces cannot be non violent towards criminals and insurgents. The armed forces cannot be non violent to alien enemies in war. Violence also has room in our life but this should be minimum according to circumstances.
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