Very Intelligent people are not very social...

It may be true as I have seen that this is true when we see practically the people around us & evaluate, the people who are intelligent are more or less not very mingling character, they have certain protocols kind of to interact, judge, evaluate & move forward.

I am not an intelligent person but not very social myself. I don't have many friends or meet my neighbors often  In fact I avoid going to parties or relatives unless must. So it's nothing to do with intelligence but nature of a particular person imho. 

It may be true that those who are super intelligent are not sociable. What I feel is that being super intelligent, they might find it difficult relating to those who are less intelligent. Their way of thinking and their perceptions about different matters ll be quite different from average intelligent people. So others are less likely to understand them.  But having said that, there are other factors too which determine the sociability of a person.

I agree with Jabeen   .I guess super intellectuals probably find it difficult to make mundane conversation with those who are of acerave intelligence...

I also agree with Sunil that it could be a personality trait! I know of many highly intelligent people who are also very social , in the ' right' company. However, I wonder if there is any one yardstick to determine the intelligence of a person?

This might be true. It may not be same in case of all the individuals but I feel that majority of the super intellectuals keep it to themselves and the reason might be that they are deeply engrossed in their thought process. Only when a person is in his element and least distracted, some magical inventions and discoveries take place.

suni51 wrote:

I am not an intelligent person but not very social myself. I don't have many friends or meet my neighbors often  In fact I avoid going to parties or relatives unless must. So it's nothing to do with intelligence but nature of a particular person imho. 

Perhaps you are correct. I consider myself intelligent  ( even others think so) but I love parties, club life and socializing. So no hard and fast rule

I feel, it basically depends upon one's attitude and personality. Every intelligent person is not very social while there are many who are extremely sociable. Thus, I feel it has nothing to do with intelligence. I have seen intelligent people to speak on trivial issues and just have baseless discussions with their dear ones by lowering their own standard so that opposite party can relax and have talk on any subject.   

People are differently endowed , some are very intelligent but lack in certain other qualities and some are compassionate but may not be very intelligent. I also keep wondering whether intelligence sharpens ones perception levels ? What do you all say ? 

usha manohar wrote:

People are differently endowed , some are very intelligent but lack in certain other qualities and some are compassionate but may not be very intelligent. I also keep wondering whether intelligence sharpens ones perception levels ? What do you all say ? 

Yes it does. 

usha manohar wrote:

People are differently endowed , some are very intelligent but lack in certain other qualities and some are compassionate but may not be very intelligent. I also keep wondering whether intelligence sharpens ones perception levels ? What do you all say ? 

I feel intelligence sharpens one's perception level.

@ Shampa,

I do agree with you that some intelligent people can talk with their dear ones about mundane matters but I feel that such types of conversations cannot sustain them for long.

Because those type of people may be more busy in other activities to utilize his intelligence and when they get time then he become social also.

I don't think it's the business alone but they are not connected with others on same mental wavelength. You would be surprised to note that it's the same reason for people with low IQ which keeps them away from mingling with others in society.

@sunil, that is so true , people with low IQ lack self confidence and shy away from crowds. Even when they have to , they tend to remain in the background

I think it is not related to stuff that they do not find anything common with others, but more so because their mind is programmed differently. Very intelligent people are supposed to be having minds that are continually engrossed in solving some or other problem all the time . I found an interesting article which explains some traits of such people.

https://shynesssocialanxiety.com/socially-inept/

There is also a false perception among most of us that rural and uneducated people are less intelligent which is not right . I had an argument with one of my colleague who felt that , had they been intelligent , they would have got educated. Were there no intelligent people before school education was introduced? What about all those brilliant minds that invented and discovered things that has made life easy for us ? Many of them did not receive formal education.

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

I think it is not related to stuff that they do not find anything common with others, but more so because their mind is programmed differently. Very intelligent people are supposed to be having minds that are continually engrossed in solving some or other problem all the time . I found an interesting article which explains some traits of such people.

https://shynesssocialanxiety.com/socially-inept/

It is a well researched article. The writer has explained all the points very systematically. Good one! 

jabeen wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

People are differently endowed , some are very intelligent but lack in certain other qualities and some are compassionate but may not be very intelligent. I also keep wondering whether intelligence sharpens ones perception levels ? What do you all say ? 

I feel intelligence sharpens one's perception level.

@ Shampa,

I do agree with you that some intelligent people can talk with their dear ones about mundane matters but I feel that such types of conversations cannot sustain them for long.

@jabeen Absolutely apt observation. Yes, after some time the intelligent ones get bored and they fail to continue with a baseless discussion.  

Intelligent people seem to have answers for everything and thus are not in need of inputs from others. May not becright approach but that is what makes them withdrawn.

vijay wrote:

Intelligent people seem to have answers for everything and thus are not in need of inputs from others. May not becright approach but that is what makes them withdrawn.

I think intelligent people have a method/process of discussion & are more analytical & logical, hence any plain conversation seems boring & useless to be a part of, for the person. Even an intelligent person needs inputs but he gets them through his tactics, command & shrewdness

Here I would like to draw everyone's attention to the theory of multiple intelligence of Gardener. It talks about 8 intelligences...interpersonal communication skill being one of them. So people with this dominating intelligence are very social.

so it is just changing the mindset of intelligence and widening our scope to see it.