Recently I came across a relative who is now facing very difficult times and according to him it was because of certain wrong decisions taken by him , many of them done knowingly where he went ahead and took decisions that were not in the best of his interests ..
I too have felt that at times we tend to take a certain stand or decisions inspite of knowing that it may not be the best option. I wonder why we do it ? Is it what is called destiny?
I don't think we can say its destiny. We human beings live on hope. Sometimes we take a decision in spite of many odds against it because we feel that in the end our decision will turn out to be the best. Another reason why we stick to a wrong decision inspite of knowing that it might not be the best decision is because of our ego. We take decision to do something against the decision of someone else. If someone says to stop doing something then we take the decision to continue because our ego doesn't allow us to follow the command of that person.
Taking wrong decisions is quite common. But this is revealed later. In hind sight, every one is wise. But it is no us being wise after the event. AS far as possible, all pros and cons should be carefully considered and suitable advice sought before taking important decisions. Even then one may take some times very wrong decisions with very adverse consequences.. But when this happens, it is best to take steps to reduce the damage and concentrate on the present and future instead of repenting on what is already done.
I agree that it is not easy to know the posdible consequences of our decision beforehand , but , at times circumstances force us to take certain actions that may prove to be detrimental. In my own family , my uncles whiled away an opportunity for compromise regarding a land dispute because of ego issues and now fighting the case since 14 years , needless to say a drain on time and money. There are many such instances which with some foresight and the right attitude could have been avoided. There are also certain instance s where people have ventured into dangerous terrain and faced fatal consequences simply because they felt that they could face the adverse circumstances successfully.
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Yes, it seems to be true with a maximum number of people. Whatever we go through is not always our destiny but the point is that what we receive in life is actually due to our own decisions. Usually, we fail to use our brains judiciously so there we go wrong and suffer. Every action leads to a result so we only decide our fate through our own action. We are extremely weak in making decisions especially when it relates to family and friend. Emotion leads to wrong decision making and there we face the hardships of life.
I have come across many who took up big decisions in life according to their friend's advice in spite of cautions raised by his/her family. One must try to understand the situation very deeply and take a wise decision in life. As for example, I know some who were warned against partnership business but went ahead with it just because of the friend's persuasion. Ultimately, it proved fatal as the friend did not maintain the sanctity of partnership business and life became a mess.
Shampa Sadhya wrote:I have come across many who took up big decisions in life according to their friend's advice in spite of cautions raised by his/her family. One must try to understand the situation very deeply and take a wise decision in life. As for example, I know some who were warned against partnership business but went ahead with it just because of the friend's persuasion. Ultimately, it proved fatal as the friend did not maintain the sanctity of partnership business and life became a mess.
I feel that we need to trust ur intuition which always sends out signals to us , both positive and negative. I have had a couple of instances where I overrode it and did what others wanted me to do which did not turn out well.
In some cases certain decisions may backfire or look as if they were taken in a haste but if you wait and watch they have their telling effects but once you have taken a decision you must stick to them even if you find they were nor as effective. I never regret about my decisions because you can't reverse them.
There are times when sheer laziness and lethargy can prove to be dangerous. I remember an instance , I had gone to a small town close to Mangalore to attend a wedding and stayed that night at my cousin's place. My cousin sister had brought home a lot of jewlry from the bank locker and was supposed to take it back after the function. Inspite of many of us asking her to put back the jewlry , she put it off ..that night there was a theft in the house and the jewel box itself was stolen which had all their jewelry. It must have been someone close but till today none of it has been recovered.
One needs to take up risk or it's better to say that sometimes considering a different route may give some good return but it is not always the case. Actually, taking up a decision on one's own wish is fine but when someone fails to understand the intention of others and fall in their trap is extremely painful.
usha manohar wrote:Shampa Sadhya wrote:I have come across many who took up big decisions in life according to their friend's advice in spite of cautions raised by his/her family. One must try to understand the situation very deeply and take a wise decision in life. As for example, I know some who were warned against partnership business but went ahead with it just because of the friend's persuasion. Ultimately, it proved fatal as the friend did not maintain the sanctity of partnership business and life became a mess.
I feel that we need to trust ur intuition which always sends out signals to us , both positive and negative. I have had a couple of instances where I overrode it and did what others wanted me to do which did not turn out well.
Yes, exactly this very point I expressed in my previous comment. When we make blunders due to our own misjudgment then we have no one else to blame but we, thus, we become more cautious in future. But, the moment we rely on others and take a decision but the ultimate result turns out to be a setback a tussle takes place in between the two parties which gradually ruins everything.
Some of us do counselling for junior college students as and when required and in one such case a teenage girl had too many problems with regard to her parents, constraint of finances etc added to which she had become friendly with a boy who was known to have a bad reputation, involved in anti social activities and had been in and out of prison a couple of times for petty crimes. She was saying that her intuition had warned her against him but she simply could not resist..a lot of things happened with him making her a partner in his criminal activities like drug peddling . In fact it was another student who revealed this fact and thankfully with counseling she realized what she had done. Since she comes from a very conservative background , she thought her parents would never be able to understand things. However, since their help was very essential for counseling we had to inform them and they were both extremely cooperative and understanding which helped the girl a lot ..
usha manohar wrote:Some of us do counselling for junior college students as and when required and in one such case a teenage girl had too many problems with regard to her parents, constraint of finances etc added to which she had become friendly with a boy who was known to have a bad reputation, involved in anti social activities and had been in and out of prison a couple of times for petty crimes. She was saying that her intuition had warned her against him but she simply could not resist..a lot of things happened with him making her a partner in his criminal activities like drug peddling . In fact it was another student who revealed this fact and thankfully with counseling she realized what she had done. Since she comes from a very conservative background , she thought her parents would never be able to understand things. However, since their help was very essential for counseling we had to inform them and they were both extremely cooperative and understanding which helped the girl a lot ..
Yes, counseling is really helpful and it becomes more beneficial when the loved ones of the victim cooperate. I firmly believe in intuition so I would always suggest others to follow their intuition while taking up any decision in life.
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