Difficulties you faced as a Parent

being calm with out loosing my temper continues to be my biggest challenge. :(

There are have been tough situations, but i guess that is part of all roles and responsibilities that we have. I dont like to remember the hard times. But would love to just cherish the good times i have daily with my 2 bundles of joy. Being a parent is the greatest gift specially during the growing years of the child. 

Being a parent you have many role and responsibilities, during your role as a parent you have to pass through may tough situations, and have to overcome those situations wisely. In my case half of situations are dealt by baby's grand parents.

Recently, I have become an aunt to my niece and I have seen my brother's wife staying up day and night for their new born baby. She is one month old now and I thought it was difficult as a parent to care for a new born, especially, when the baby stays awake all night and sleeps the whole day.

In my personal opinion, parenting is a pleasure and hard work. Parents have to be alert most of the time. 

Vishakha Purohit wrote:

Recently, I have become an aunt to my niece and I have seen my brother's wife staying up day and night for their new born baby. She is one month old now and I thought it was difficult as a parent to care for a new born, especially, when the baby stays awake all night and sleeps the whole day.

In my personal opinion, parenting is a pleasure and hard work. Parents have to be alert most of the time. 

Many babies are like that. It takes time for the sleeping pattern to set in. For some its as early as 3 months for some babies it takes upto a couple of years. But personally i have not complained about the night-ups :):) because as i see it, there are so many more challenges which are so much more tougher than just staying up late. :):)

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I think the most difficult part of being a parent is to live what you preach as your children imitate you under your skin

Vishakha Purohit wrote:

Recently, I have become an aunt to my niece and I have seen my brother's wife staying up day and night for their new born baby. She is one month old now and I thought it was difficult as a parent to care for a new born, especially, when the baby stays awake all night and sleeps the whole day.

In my personal opinion, parenting is a pleasure and hard work. Parents have to be alert most of the time. 

 

This is very commonly seen in newly become parents. There is a long way to go.. Infants usually have issues related with sleep and stomach related problems. Hence they would cry most of the time. It is somewhat difficult to stop the crying baby.. It takes lot of time, and energy. 

Parenting is not  just bringing up the child. It involves a certain amount of discretion..There is no one standard rule for all children Different children, different levels of of of levels of of attention, , expression of love and toughness is essential. Those parents who know about this fact Parenting is easy. otherwise, it is difficult.

rambabu wrote:

Parenting is not  just bringing up the child. It involves a certain amount of discretion..There is no one standard rule for all children Different children, different levels of of of levels of of attention, , expression of love and toughness is essential. Those parents who know about this fact Parenting is easy. otherwise, it is difficult.

Yes, parenting is not only just helping the baby to grow but also guiding him to lead a purposeful life. Guidance of elders is always helpful in bringing up a better life.

This role of parenting comes natural to all species. However, it becomes stressful for human beings because of the pressure of societal expectations. Moreover, the urge to excel and do extraordinary things as parents,too much of expectations and the above all the constant fear to make mistake makes it too overwhelming. Parents are human and can make mistakes. " I am growing and learning as a parent along with my child"....This eases off the pressure and makes things more smooth

You are right. Parents take their children as Race Horses. They want their children excel in all respects, topper in education, topper in Sports.. Parenting is not an Art. It is beyond something else. I am of the opinion,a wise parent allows never exerts any pressure on the child. Otherwise, there is a danger of Child becoming a 'Rebel;'

Earlier, the parent knows about this fact, better it would be for  both Parents and Child.

I never faced any situation like that till now because I am single but it is very true that parents always face some or the other problems regarding their children, and I really the parents who are humble in every situation they faced because of their children naughtiness.

There is a saying. " Your Children need your presence more than your presents'.. Spending more time with Children is the need of the hour. It should be remembered that any bad or good habits will develop during childhood. Needless t say a Parent's play a key role in the development of a child.

rambabu wrote:

You are right. Parents take their children as Race Horses. They want their children excel in all respects, topper in education, topper in Sports.. Parenting is not an Art. It is beyond something else. I am of the opinion,a wise parent allows never exerts any pressure on the child. Otherwise, there is a danger of Child becoming a 'Rebel;'

Earlier, the parent knows about this fact, better it would be for  both Parents and Child.

Now a days most of the parents are aware as well that it is better not to exert more pressure on the kids or else everything may turn upside down. However there is so much of competition. Along with kids, parents try to compete as well. This has to stop somewhere..We have to understand life is not a competition. It doesn't mean if a child is good in singing, dancing, studies, karate, etc that means he will be happy in life and he would be able to acheive evrything in life..Let the child live his simple and innocent life.. 

Parenting is a tough call and still every parent enjoys that role. I, like other parents, do go through some difficult situations and become quite irritated. It all vanishes when every night I see my son sleeping innocently. He looks so adorable and I feel blessed to be a mother. 

On a lighter note, now a days my parenting challenge is to live up to my teenage girls fashion expectations. She admires my dressing sense but feels that I should try out new looks and hair style

Arunima Singh wrote:

On a lighter note, now a days my parenting challenge is to live up to my teenage girls fashion expectations. She admires my dressing sense but feels that I should try out new looks and hair style

You are lucky that your daughters encourage you to dress up according to the modern fashion. My son on the other hand constantly tease me that I have become 'budhi'. For him it's sheer fun and I enjoy his growing up attitude.   

Parenting is not just raising up the Children. It is something beyond that. It is a general belief that Children cannot or mind what the parents are doing. It is far from truth. children can understand and imitate their parents right from the age 4. That is why Parents should take  lot of precautions while behaving with their offspring.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Arunima Singh wrote:

On a lighter note, now a days my parenting challenge is to live up to my teenage girls fashion expectations. She admires my dressing sense but feels that I should try out new looks and hair style

You are lucky that your daughters encourage you to dress up according to the modern fashion. My son on the other hand constantly tease me that I have become 'budhi'. For him it's sheer fun and I enjoy his growing up attitude.   

We may not realize but children are very particular about how their parents look while they go out . Sons are not too bothered about dress but are particular about how we carry ourselves, speak etc..Daughters are particular about dressing and physical appearance along with the other aspects ..

For my younger daughter I am the best, most beautiful lady in the world. Few years back even elder one felt the same but now I am an ancient for her. I think it's the age that matters. Soon I will loose my only admirer also.

Well another challenge is making a teenager realize that popular things are not always the right thing. Here you go through a tough time. It is a tough path but the toughness might be less if the bond in initial years is strong

My biggest challenge is to stop him from reading story books when he needs to complete his classwork or prepare for his exams. I know that reading habit is a very good one but understanding the priority of a particular task is equally important which he lacks. It's always a tough time to make my son accept my word regarding story books.