Hi
Gone are the days of joint families, after a certain time period like the birds move out of their parents nest to build their own abode, we humans also do the same. So what happens to the aged and elderly parents who are left alone in their dream home which they build over the years with all the savings they would have had. Who supports and takes care of them?
The fact is, the time is very tough for a proper living. Requirement of money is huge for a standard education, a quality treatment, a healthy diet, maintain a proper living standard. Naturally, those who get an opportunity to go abroad and earn more than here, they usually opt the offer. This gives them the ability to take care of their families and parents in a much better way but in that process the old people are left alone. Children may send money for their expenditure but the love and care of the dear ones get missing. If you try to reason it out then we see that sometimes in spite of dear ones around the elderly members do not receive the proper medical help and so on just because income of the family is less than the expenditure. Thus, in such a situation no one is to be blamed and there comes the effective role of the government. They must chalk out such a plan and scheme so that the elderly people get proper attention and care.
Divya wrote:Would it be right.... If we were to blame the parents for expecting too much in terms of time or money from their kids. It looks pretty complex. One side... The parents sacrificed their interests and desires to fulfill the ones of their kids, so is it not the responsibility of the kids to look after the parents when needed . The other side.... Presuming the above to be true does it not mean that the parents are being selfish n bringing up kids well so that they return that favour at a later stage.???
Is ths not putting a price tag to what our parents have done for us???
Bringing up kids by parents is not selfishness. They gave birth to them and it is duty of them. But if in old age if parents expect some from them, noting is bad and wrong in it. It is continue process. Every kids became a parents and old.
anil wrote:Divya wrote:Would it be right.... If we were to blame the parents for expecting too much in terms of time or money from their kids. It looks pretty complex. One side... The parents sacrificed their interests and desires to fulfill the ones of their kids, so is it not the responsibility of the kids to look after the parents when needed . The other side.... Presuming the above to be true does it not mean that the parents are being selfish n bringing up kids well so that they return that favour at a later stage.???
Is ths not putting a price tag to what our parents have done for us???
Bringing up kids by parents is not selfishness. They gave birth to them and it is duty of them. But if in old age if parents expect some from them, noting is bad and wrong in it. It is continue process. Every kids became a parents and old.
Child is a gift of God to the couples. It reflects love and nothing else. No normal parent plans to have a child with a selfish motive by keeping their future in mind. Rearing a child is a tough task and it cannot be properly done without love for him/her. Well, as they start expecting love and care from them in their old age is just because the bond that got created while in the process of nurturing the child. Child looks for help from parents and it's just the vice versa. The matter worsens when parents try to thrust duties after duties upon their child which curtail the normal way of living. Again, here I would like to draw your attention that when children question about the parental properties then they also cross the limit. Thus, neither parents nor adult children have the right to force themselves upon each other. Both side must give freedom and respect to one another then the bond between them remain intact then the feeling of love and care comes naturally.
@DivyaRakesh