marital rape in India

After marriage men have full priority upon her wife. Marriage is a sacrament that make two people - husband and wife - a single person. In family life, wife do not have the right to reject sex if her husband wants it. But if she is physically tired, do not compel her for this. Husband should behave according to the circumstances. Do not force her for sex if she is physically weak. Otherwise, it will become rape. 

For every one marital rape there are far more considerate husbands making the institution of marriage stable.

Jincy Aby wrote:

After marriage men have full priority upon her wife. Marriage is a sacrament that make two people - husband and wife - a single person. In family life, wife do not have the right to reject sex if her husband wants it. But if she is physically tired, do not compel her for this. Husband should behave according to the circumstances. Do not force her for sex if she is physically weak. Otherwise, it will become rape. 

Women are not property that after marriage men get the right on their wives' life and body. A successful married family is that where man and woman both respect each other's wish. There are unnumbered families in India who follow this rule and in exchange enjoy the bliss of a happy married life. 

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Jincy Aby wrote:

After marriage men have full priority upon her wife. Marriage is a sacrament that make two people - husband and wife - a single person. In family life, wife do not have the right to reject sex if her husband wants it. But if she is physically tired, do not compel her for this. Husband should behave according to the circumstances. Do not force her for sex if she is physically weak. Otherwise, it will become rape. 

Women are not property that after marriage men get the right on their wives' life and body. A successful married family is that where man and woman both respect each other's wish. There are unnumbered families in India who follow this rule and in exchange enjoy the bliss of a happy married life. 

Good points raised, but who will recognise marital rape in India as the government does not subscribe to this? in other words a wife can be forced to sex, without any recourse to any remedial action.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Jincy Aby wrote:

After marriage men have full priority upon her wife. Marriage is a sacrament that make two people - husband and wife - a single person. In family life, wife do not have the right to reject sex if her husband wants it. But if she is physically tired, do not compel her for this. Husband should behave according to the circumstances. Do not force her for sex if she is physically weak. Otherwise, it will become rape. 

Women are not property that after marriage men get the right on their wives' life and body. A successful married family is that where man and woman both respect each other's wish. There are unnumbered families in India who follow this rule and in exchange enjoy the bliss of a happy married life. 

It is right that women are not property after marriage but for right my views some differ. After marriage both wife and husband have right on each other with some duties. If one don't understand problem of other than I think relation of marriage is worthless.

rape is never acceptable- marital or otherwise. But there are practical difficulties in establishing marital rape. It is not possible that the spouses sign an affidavit on judicial stamp and get this notarized before sex testifying that the sex is consensual.  The relation between a husband and wife is very personal.  

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:

rape is never acceptable- marital or otherwise. But there are practical difficulties in establishing marital rape. It is not possible that the spouses sign an affidavit on judicial stamp and get this notarized before sex testifying that the sex is consensual.  The relation between a husband and wife is very personal.

You are right sir relation between husband and wife much personal and both are not like to share these with others. But I read in newspaper that in some case sex was base of divorce. Here in my city one husband gave reason for divorce that his wife need enough sex and I am cann't satisfied her. 

anil wrote:

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:

rape is never acceptable- marital or otherwise. But there are practical difficulties in establishing marital rape. It is not possible that the spouses sign an affidavit on judicial stamp and get this notarized before sex testifying that the sex is consensual.  The relation between a husband and wife is very personal.

You are right sir relation between husband and wife much personal and both are not like to share these with others. But I read in newspaper that in some case sex was base of divorce. Here in my city one husband gave reason for divorce that his wife need enough sex and I am cann't satisfied her. 

Yes. This happens. some women are more demanding and may be called nymphomaniac. An average man may not satisfy her. I think that this is her physical necessity. Man should allow her more freedom- even allow extra marital sex. Sometimes, man may be more demanding. But man can easily indulge in extra marital sex unlike woman. 

 

Yes I have heard too about many cases where the reason for divorce is sexual in competencies by husband, also sometime women claim her husband being impotent,where he is not able to satisfy her demands.  

Either way it is a marital rape when force, brutality or mental torture is used. It should be penalised and government must look into this matter very seriously. Yes, there is a problem in deciding who is right because it's a very personal issue but that does not mean it should remain unaddressed.  

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Either way it is a marital rape when force, brutality or mental torture is used. It should be penalised and government must look into this matter very seriously. Yes, there is a problem in deciding who is right because it's a very personal issue but that does not mean it should remain unaddressed.  

Good points raised. If marital rape can be addressed in West it can be done here as well

We all have seen in this country India especially that they don't treat women as human or their wife as human. Men thinks that have buyed some sort of a thing called as wife and they start using and treating them as a thing not as a human  

MG Singh wrote:

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Either way it is a marital rape when force, brutality or mental torture is used. It should be penalised and government must look into this matter very seriously. Yes, there is a problem in deciding who is right because it's a very personal issue but that does not mean it should remain unaddressed.  

Good points raised. If marital rape can be addressed in West it can be done here as well

Men are more in number so the Minister thought about vote bank and opined against her own gender. She forgot that women are getting educated and they will not accept any disgraceful opinion as well as men who are considerate by nature will not accept this disgrace because they are not just husbands but adorn many other relationships as fathers, brothers, friends, sons and many more. The fact is what else can we expect from a political leader!

If women often disagree physical relationship with their husbands, they will depend other ladies for this. Women need to understand the psychology of men that sex is one of the essential things in men's life. So it is better to co-operate with them, otherwise the situation will be more dangerous. 

Jincy Aby wrote:

If women often disagree physical relationship with their husbands, they will depend other ladies for this. Women need to understand the psychology of men that sex is one of the essential things in men's life. So it is better to co-operate with them, otherwise the situation will be more dangerous. 

What are you talking about? Are we leaving in a modern era? Are we not educated? Your view makes me feel that men do not want wives in marriage rather the wives need to act as prostitutes.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

Jincy Aby wrote:

If women often disagree physical relationship with their husbands, they will depend other ladies for this. Women need to understand the psychology of men that sex is one of the essential things in men's life. So it is better to co-operate with them, otherwise the situation will be more dangerous. 

What are you talking about? Are we leaving in a modern era? Are we not educated? Your view makes me feel that men do not want wives in marriage rather the wives need to act as prostitutes.

Thats why I say Ms Menaka Gandhi's statement was wrong. Somebody must take her up on this and I feel an act like in the USA must be brought in parliament for marital rape. Unfortunately it is so common in the rural areas and poor women suffer.

 

She has made a u- turn today It is reported.

Rape is rape- marital or extra marital. But then there are some issues involved. Now rape is replaced by sexual assault.  This is a gender free concept. Ont only man, woman can also be charged with sexual assault.  In case of extra marital affairs, it is easier to establish that a woman has been sexually assaulted. But this is difficult in family environment.  How are you going to establish that sex is without consent.  There can be no witness in such case. How a woman will prove that she did not consent. will she raise an alarm and invite neighbors to witness that she has or is being sexually assaulted by her husband. Or will both spouses need to sign affidavit duly notarized every time they indulge in sex to provide documentary evidence of consensual sex.  

Jincy Aby wrote:

If women often disagree physical relationship with their husbands, they will depend other ladies for this. Women need to understand the psychology of men that sex is one of the essential things in men's life. So it is better to co-operate with them, otherwise the situation will be more dangerous. 

This is the age old adage where a woman is supposed to hold on o her man through hook or crook...Honestly to think that even today some women think on those lines is indeed sad and disappointing !

Unfortunately for many women they have no choice even on today's age.