A Letter of Divorce Threat is a Cruelty

Marriage is the union of husband and wife. They need to live together to lead a happy married life. Otherwise, there is no meaning for marriage. If a husband or a wife get a chance to go abroad for a long time, they need to try for family visa as soon as possible. Husband, wife and children should live together. Otherwise, it may lead to many other problems and their family life will be a big failure.

Do not jump to conclusions, the Supreme Court can overturn the HC decision.

vijay wrote:

Do not jump to conclusions, the Supreme Court can overturn the HC decision.

Then we discuss when the supreme court overturns the decision. Don't jump to conclusions

rambabu wrote:

vijay wrote:

Do not jump to conclusions, the Supreme Court can overturn the HC decision.

Then we discuss when the supreme court overturns the decision. Don't jump to conclusions

 Who has the patience to wait till the Supreme Court's decision to write conclusions? 

Jincy Aby wrote:

rambabu wrote:

vijay wrote:

Do not jump to conclusions, the Supreme Court can overturn the HC decision.

Then we discuss when the supreme court overturns the decision. Don't jump to conclusions

 Who has the patience to wait till the Supreme Court's decision to write conclusions? 

None. But I can say that it is the fault of the woman who was living separately ever since her hubby left for foreign countries. Over a period, the wife took a decision one fine morning that she wanted a separation as she found out another man who is interested in her. This is certainly is an act of cruelty. Naturally her decision  shook the poor hubby. I uphold the decision of the court.

 

Written by Shampa Sadhya

What's your opinion regarding the judgement given by the High Court in the case? Link is given below:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Wifes-letter-talking-of-divorce-remarriage-an-act-of-cruelty-HC/articleshow/51084192.cms 

I truly support the judgement. Blackmailing of any kind should not be permitted.

As expected some Indian men would clap their hands at the judgment but an extremely unfair and immature judgment in my opinion, where the wife's feelings have not been taken into account but one single letter written by her probably out of frustration due to loneliness, has been taken as evidence. No mention whether the husband tried to rectify the situation, which is what a husband would do if he wants to set things right instead of keeping the letter for so many years and making an issue ! I feel the wife should be happy at the decision given by the court rather than challenging it because the fellow is simply not worth the trouble !

usha manohar wrote:

Written by Shampa Sadhya

What's your opinion regarding the judgement given by the High Court in the case? Link is given below:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Wifes-letter-talking-of-divorce-remarriage-an-act-of-cruelty-HC/articleshow/51084192.cms 

I truly support the judgement. Blackmailing of any kind should not be permitted.

 

As expected some Indian men would clap their hands at the judgment but an extremely unfair and immature judgment in my opinion, where the wife's feelings have not been taken into account but one single letter written by her probably out of frustration due to loneliness, has been taken as evidence. No mention whether the husband tried to rectify the situation, which is what a husband would do if he wants to set things right instead of keeping the letter for so many years and making an issue ! I feel the wife should be happy at the decision given by the court rather than challenging it because the fellow is simply not worth the trouble !

I agree, it seems rather unfair without making it clear what exactly caused the wife to write such a letter and what she really felt. It is quite unfair to base such a decision on one letter alone.

Faith and trust is base of relation of Husband and wife. Wife write letter to her husband with this believe that it is matter between them and husband think about her problem. In this case husband  used letter in court case, it is breach of trust.

usha manohar wrote:

Written by Shampa Sadhya

What's your opinion regarding the judgement given by the High Court in the case? Link is given below:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Wifes-letter-talking-of-divorce-remarriage-an-act-of-cruelty-HC/articleshow/51084192.cms 

I truly support the judgement. Blackmailing of any kind should not be permitted.

 

As expected some Indian men would clap their hands at the judgment but an extremely unfair and immature judgment in my opinion, where the wife's feelings have not been taken into account but one single letter written by her probably out of frustration due to loneliness, has been taken as evidence. No mention whether the husband tried to rectify the situation, which is what a husband would do if he wants to set things right instead of keeping the letter for so many years and making an issue ! I feel the wife should be happy at the decision given by the court rather than challenging it because the fellow is simply not worth the trouble !

Being a woman still I support the decision. It is true that among a couple sometimes such conversations do take place but the article pinpoints that the lady got years in between to clarify this doubt but she did not do it. If the man had done so then I would have opined against that man. Among couples blackmailing should not make an inroad.

anil wrote:

Faith and trust is base of relation of Husband and wife. Wife write letter to her husband with this believe that it is matter between them and husband think about her problem. In this case husband  used letter in court case, it is breach of trust.

You have put it very well...N ot many Indian men would understand that because they only think about their own hurt egos , including the judge !

i don't understand about relation much, but i know that divorce is a strong word which can shake the relationship of husband and wife.

The link is very clear and we need not elaborate more on the judgment.  The wife threatened and even did not make any further communication to deny the threat.  Cruelty does not mean only physical cruelty.  If she did not really mean to divorce him, she could well communicate again.  

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:

The link is very clear and we need not elaborate more on the judgment.  The wife threatened and even did not make any further communication to deny the threat.  Cruelty does not mean only physical cruelty.  If she did not really mean to divorce him, she could well communicate again.  

 

I agree with you. Threatening her hubby, when he was abroad, that she needs a divorce as she wanted to marry another man. This , she could have expressed long ago when he was in a foreign country. She didn't do it. This acted on the man severely.It's a kind of opportunism too.

anil wrote:

Faith and trust is base of relation of Husband and wife. Wife write letter to her husband with this believe that it is matter between them and husband think about her problem. In this case husband  used letter in court case, it is breach of trust.

There maybe many other reasons too and to justify his point of view he had presented the letter to the court. When problem arises between a couple and that leads to court then itself there is a breach of trust.

usha manohar wrote:

anil wrote:

Faith and trust is base of relation of Husband and wife. Wife write letter to her husband with this believe that it is matter between them and husband think about her problem. In this case husband  used letter in court case, it is breach of trust.

You have put it very well...N ot many Indian men would understand that because they only think about their own hurt egos , including the judge !

yes it is system in whole world men are superior than women. Judge may be man. "Khatey Hain Pyar Ki Duniya Main Do Dil Muskil Se Samtey Hai, Gair To Kya apno Tak Kay Saye Bhi Na Anney Patey Hai, What is role of Judge and court in love world of husband and wife.

anil wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

anil wrote:

Faith and trust is base of relation of Husband and wife. Wife write letter to her husband with this believe that it is matter between them and husband think about her problem. In this case husband  used letter in court case, it is breach of trust.

You have put it very well...N ot many Indian men would understand that because they only think about their own hurt egos , including the judge !

yes it is system in whole world men are superior than women. Judge may be man. "Khatey Hain Pyar Ki Duniya Main Do Dil Muskil Se Samtey Hai, Gair To Kya apno Tak Kay Saye Bhi Na Anney Patey Hai, What is role of Judge and court in love world of husband and wife.

People who give importance to love and marriage for them there is no need of court and judge but the present world witnesses a very problematic marital relationship, naturally couples get forced to take the help of judicial system.  

well i think if the wife uses the calm and silence way to express her feeling in front of her hubby and tell him about herself, that she had fallen in love with another man then i think, yeah there will be some fight and voice rises in between her and her husband but at last i think that her husband will accept her wife decision because after hearing this things from her wife nobody can do anything, at last he have to accept her wife decision because there is no way left for him.

anil wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

anil wrote:

Faith and trust is base of relation of Husband and wife. Wife write letter to her husband with this believe that it is matter between them and husband think about her problem. In this case husband  used letter in court case, it is breach of trust.

You have put it very well...N ot many Indian men would understand that because they only think about their own hurt egos , including the judge !

yes it is system in whole world men are superior than women. Judge may be man. "Khatey Hain Pyar Ki Duniya Main Do Dil Muskil Se Samtey Hai, Gair To Kya apno Tak Kay Saye Bhi Na Anney Patey Hai, What is role of Judge and court in love world of husband and wife.

 

Even if the matter reaches the court because of difference of opinion, I feel that Judges who are part of the family court should have proper counselling which is normally done , not once but 2 or three times with the couple, their lawyers and a court appointed lawyer ,before pronouncing the judgment . One of my cousin had to go through this process and after the counselling sessions they both decided to get back together and now are better adjusted !

usha manohar wrote:

anil wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

anil wrote:

Faith and trust is base of relation of Husband and wife. Wife write letter to her husband with this believe that it is matter between them and husband think about her problem. In this case husband  used letter in court case, it is breach of trust.

You have put it very well...N ot many Indian men would understand that because they only think about their own hurt egos , including the judge !

yes it is system in whole world men are superior than women. Judge may be man. "Khatey Hain Pyar Ki Duniya Main Do Dil Muskil Se Samtey Hai, Gair To Kya apno Tak Kay Saye Bhi Na Anney Patey Hai, What is role of Judge and court in love world of husband and wife.

 

Even if the matter reaches the court because of difference of opinion, I feel that Judges who are part of the family court should have proper counselling which is normally done , not once but 2 or three times with the couple, their lawyers and a court appointed lawyer ,before pronouncing the judgment . One of my cousin had to go through this process and after the counselling sessions they both decided to get back together and now are better adjusted !

A good and efficient family counselor can bring back the couples again from broken relationship.  Counselling is one of the best ways to make positive changes in family relationship. So many couples are changing their attitude and leading peaceful and happy life as a result of good counselling from a good counselor.

Actually, this lady loved her husband very much and expected his presence too much. She had been waiting for him for many years. She was in stress because of leading a lonely life without husband. There was no other way in front of her than sending a divorce petition to get her husband. back. When she sent the divorce petition, she thought that her husband would come back soon and there would be a solution for her problem. But men always give prime importance to themselves and fail to read the mind of ladies.