The holy men or God men have no doubt lot of influence on people. But they are supposed to be working for entire people and hence not indulge in family affairs. Hence the very idea of a god man assuming responsibility of upbringing a child is bizarre.
Court has rightly debarred god man from adopting child.
https://in.news.yahoo.com/rajasthan-hc-cancels-adoption-infant-005500624.html
In this particular case the child was given away willingly by the parents, last year to the Godman because he wanted o make the child his successor . They probably changed their decision due to grand parents or other family pressures.However, Chote Sarkar the Godman cannot be blamed for this since the adoption deeds were signed by the parents themselves !
There are many cases in different religions where leaders adopt children, including the Pope and the Holy Imam and even among Jews , so why point fingers at this poor God man who only wanted a successor and the parents willingly agreed to give the child away for adoption ?
usha manohar wrote:In this particular case the child was given away willingly by the parents, last year to the Godman because he wanted o make the child his successor . They probably changed their decision due to grand parents or other family pressures.However, Chote Sarkar the Godman cannot be blamed for this since the adoption deeds were signed by the parents themselves !
There are many cases in different religions where leaders adopt children, including the Pope and the Holy Imam and even among Jews , so why point fingers at this poor God man who only wanted a successor and the parents willingly agreed to give the child away for adoption ?
I am opposed to adoption of children by any god men- Hindu, Muslim or Christian. I just commented on the news. The children are best brought up by parents. The godmen should appoint as successor only some grown up person instead of picking a child. This practice is against child's right to grow naturally and decide his career when grown up.
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:usha manohar wrote:In this particular case the child was given away willingly by the parents, last year to the Godman because he wanted o make the child his successor . They probably changed their decision due to grand parents or other family pressures.However, Chote Sarkar the Godman cannot be blamed for this since the adoption deeds were signed by the parents themselves !
There are many cases in different religions where leaders adopt children, including the Pope and the Holy Imam and even among Jews , so why point fingers at this poor God man who only wanted a successor and the parents willingly agreed to give the child away for adoption ?
I am opposed to adoption of children by any god men- Hindu, Muslim or Christian. I just commented on the news. The children are best brought up by parents. The godmen should appoint as successor only some grown up person instead of picking a child. This practice is against child's right to grow naturally and decide his career when grown up.
I am agree with you, A child can grow much better with his/her parents than any third person.
Ideally a child should be brought by its parents but there are always exceptions and it happens in many cases, nt just godmen, even celebrities and Industrialists adopt other children when they have no children of their own so that they have someone to pass on their empire !!! .. Something similar happened here but the parents had second thoughts and probably wanted to bring up their child themselves !
It is only the parents who are supposed to and SHOULD raise their child, only if for some reason they are unable to or have passed on, the child should be raised by the next of kin- desirably the grandparents from either side of aunt, uncle etc. Giving a child away to supposed God men or women is a mark of stupidity and blind faith, which happened in this particular case. But thankfully, the parents later on realised their mistake and now the court too has ruled in their favor.
usha manohar wrote:Ideally a child should be brought by its parents but there are always exceptions and it happens in many cases, nt just godmen, even celebrities and Industrialists adopt other children when they have no children of their own so that they have someone to pass on their empire !!! .. Something similar happened here but the parents had second thoughts and probably wanted to bring up their child themselves !
Yes it is right that person who have not child adopt children, but the adopt children of nearest relative or an orphan one.
anil wrote:usha manohar wrote:Ideally a child should be brought by its parents but there are always exceptions and it happens in many cases, nt just godmen, even celebrities and Industrialists adopt other children when they have no children of their own so that they have someone to pass on their empire !!! .. Something similar happened here but the parents had second thoughts and probably wanted to bring up their child themselves !
Yes it is right that person who have not child adopt children, but the adopt children of nearest relative or an orphan one.
I agree with you. Adopting an orphan will be a deed of Social service. The parents are satisfied on two counts. One is having the satisfaction of bringing a child in to their homes. Other is the satisfaction that they did something to the society.
Number of couples are around without children. Some of them get children after treatment. But some couples do not have this luck, even after the treatment. Adoption is the last option for them. When they adopt a child, they can give proper care to that child. But a God-man's life is always busy with social activities. He wants to serve the people and the God. Therefore, he doesn't have enough time to spend with his adopted child. All children want to get the support and care of parents. Otherwise, their life will be miserable. As a mother, it is impossible for me to grant my child to a god-man for making his successor.
rambabu wrote:anil wrote:usha manohar wrote:Ideally a child should be brought by its parents but there are always exceptions and it happens in many cases, nt just godmen, even celebrities and Industrialists adopt other children when they have no children of their own so that they have someone to pass on their empire !!! .. Something similar happened here but the parents had second thoughts and probably wanted to bring up their child themselves !
Yes it is right that person who have not child adopt children, but the adopt children of nearest relative or an orphan one.
I agree with you. Adopting an orphan will be a deed of Social service. The parents are satisfied on two counts. One is having the satisfaction of bringing a child in to their homes. Other is the satisfaction that they did something to the society.
Adoption of orphan child is a noble deed, child get parents and home. One of my relative have not any child so they adopt one girl and boy. One another relative adopt boy because he have two girls of his own. Getting more chance to have male baby they prefer to adopt.
@ anil ...Adoption of orphan child is a noble deed, child get parents and home. One of my relative have not any child so they adopt one girl and boy. One another relative adopt boy because he have two girls of his own. Getting more chance to have male baby they prefer to adopt.
I too know of many people who have had a child of their own and adopted an orphan child. My cousin has a son and has adopted a girl who is 14 years old now. Similarly one of my cousin is an adopted child which we came to know only a few years back..It did jolt her and cause a lot of pain and misunderstanding but now things are fine ! So, it is always better to tell the child that he or she is adopted and normally you get counselled by adoption centers on how to deal with this aspect !
usha manohar wrote:@ anil ...Adoption of orphan child is a noble deed, child get parents and home. One of my relative have not any child so they adopt one girl and boy. One another relative adopt boy because he have two girls of his own. Getting more chance to have male baby they prefer to adopt.
It is my opinion that it is not good for child and adopter to adopt child of more than 2 to 3 years. If child is enough mature it may possible than he/she will face problem is adjusting with adopter.
I too know of many people who have had a child of their own and adopted an orphan child. My cousin has a son and has adopted a girl who is 14 years old now. Similarly one of my cousin is an adopted child which we came to know only a few years back..It did jolt her and cause a lot of pain and misunderstanding but now things are fine ! So, it is always better to tell the child that he or she is adopted and normally you get counselled by adoption centers on how to deal with this aspect !
Adoption is truly a great deed. It becomes a social service when an orphan gets a family and a home. In exchange a childless couple becomes parents. It's a two way service but a very positive one. I feel the adoption should not take place within the family members because it may create a problem in later years so the best way is to adopt an orphan.
I always give support to adoption. When we adopt a child, we give life to a child. If any child of our family lost his/her parents, what is wrong in that to adopt that child and look after that child like our own child? Couples who do not have children are always in stress. They can't lead a happy and peaceful family life. Adoption is the best solution for this problem. Through adoption, a child gets parents and the childless couples get a child.
I agree with you. There is nothing wrong in Child adoptions. But in view of increasing abuse of Child adoptions, The Ministry of Women and child development, WCD, introduced new adoption rules . There are many cases, where in children are adopted even by teenagers and forcing the children for begging and many such atrocities. To curb such violations WCD introduced the new adoption rules.
Hence, child adopters should check if they are within the rules of new adoption rules.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Adoption-rules-final-says-govt/articleshow/49369038.cms
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