Do you follow your elders and seniors?

Generally, it is believed that elders and Seniors had seen the life. This makes them, wise and worth emulating. They act as torch bearers and show us the way. I for one, follow the elders,. In Boddunan itself, in the beginning days, I used to closely observe the Modus operandi and follow them.

It is not hard rule for me to follow elders. It is right that elders have much exeperince of life. It is also true that they have not much knowledge of each and every filed. We must be respect and regards elders but where we not coinside with them tell it polaietly.

You both are right but the best way is to follow the elders that is one of the best ways of giving them full respect. 

suni51 wrote:

You both are right but the best way is to follow the elders that is one of the best ways of giving them full respect.

I am agree we must be respect elders but I think it is not possible to follow elders on all issues.  

I agree with you Anil but you must follow their instructions, that will certainly make you winner.

anil wrote:

suni51 wrote:

You both are right but the best way is to follow the elders that is one of the best ways of giving them full respect.

I am agree we must be respect elders but I think it is not possible to follow elders on all issues.

If it becomes difficult to follow the elders on all issues, convince the elders, why it is difficult to follow them in an amicable and respectful way.

 

It is different within the family and personally I show the required respect that is due to elders even if I may not agree with their point of view all the time ! It saves a lot of ill feeling by simply nodding your head to what they say and do what you think is the best for you ... At work place you have to respect the seniors and the heads , so there are no two ways about it although you may have a difference of opinion some time , it is best to do it as politely as possible !

suni51 wrote:

I agree with you Anil but you must follow their instructions, that will certainly make you winner.

yes in personal life their instructions are very useful. Our elders are our true well wishers. But it is not true for professional life if our elders are not from our profession.

anil wrote:

suni51 wrote:

I agree with you Anil but you must follow their instructions, that will certainly make you winner.

yes in personal life their instructions are very useful. Our elders are our true well wishers. But it is not true for professional life if our elders are not from our profession.

 Elders have that much of discretion not to interfere in the matters with which they are not conversant. Such elders simply say, " You know better " and make way to you. They are not dogmatic.

 

anil wrote:

It is not hard rule for me to follow elders. It is right that elders have much exeperince of life. It is also true that they have not much knowledge of each and every filed. We must be respect and regards elders but where we not coinside with them tell it polaietly.

 

I will answer each of you separately and give you a reason why I asked this question. I always tell them politely in the beginning but if they do not listen to my reasonable suggestion. I agree with them and then do as they want me to do. 

I respect seniors and get useful guidance from them. But I take my own decision and do not follow any blindly.

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:

I respect seniors and get useful guidance from them. But I take my own decision and do not follow any blindly.

 

I do the same as you do, but I will break my own rule at least for once - soon.

I have something else to say. I have no problem in giving respect to my elders and follow their words and sometimes when I differ then I try to put across my own opinion and have a healthy discussion before taking up a final decision. Sometimes elders may not accept my decision but I cannot follow theirs just blindly and so I convey my decision in a clear cut way but definitely not in a harsh way. Now, I have another point to make and that is, it does not always happen that each and every elder is sensible and understanding rather many are quite dominating then I am really sorry to follow their decision just because they are elders. I know, I am making a harsh statement but frankly speaking I am a strong believer of paying respect to a good elderly people and not just for age sake. I won't abuse them but within my heart I will loose all the respect for such an elderly person.

Yes I obey and follow elders and seniors. Many times in difficult situations, I took advise from my seniors and solved the problem in easy way.

Thanks a lot everyone, I will follow the suggestion by one of my seniors older in age although when I do it it will be on my conscience for rest of my life. I am locking this thread now. 

One should weigh the Pros and Cons first. Elders may not be always right or youngsters may not be always wrong. In such situations, a dialogue between the elders and youngsters will help.But care should be taken by both not to indulge in dogmatism. If there is truth in what youngsters say, elders should gracefully give way to youngsters opinions. The same thing is true for the youngsters.