The Importance of Mother Tongue

The gist of your view speaks clearly that Parents help and cooperation is necessary. In your case, what your father has done is right. Because, he persuaded to learn Bengali. You have done what your father said. It's alright, if you cannot write Bengali correctly, it doesn't matter. Seeing this experience, you too applied the persuasion method. and the good thing is you are seeing the results in your son. Give your son his own time to learn Bengali. Remember what all your son needs is just working knowledge. That's all.

The reality is, mother tongue is the sweetest language for everyone. If one fails to speak, understand and enjoy his/her mother tongue then he/she misses the essence of his/her root language. 

I agree with you. A Mother tongue is as comfortable as a Mother's lap and as sweet as as a Mother's lullaby. Which is why neglecting or forgetting Mother Tongue implies  missing the essence of life.

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

Mother tongue is important like mother. My mother tongue is Bagri, it is some what like Hindi. In these day I am not speaking my mother tongue. My parents are no more and my brother ans sister is living separatley, I am speaking is these days Hindi, By children are Hindi speaking because my wife is Hindi speaking. But I always speak in Bagri if other one is Bagri speaking.

when I was in Odisha. my children used talk in English and Odiya in schools. But in my home we used to talk in Only in Telugu in my home. That's why, when I changed my Job and came back to my state, my children never faced any problem in adjusting with Telugu atmosphere.

You come back to your language but is my case I think it is not possible because my children is speaking Hindi from birth, it is their mother tongue. After me no one will be in my house use my mother tongue Bagri.

 

I can understand the situation and problems you are facing. I too feel, it is difficult for you to implement the usage of Bagri, your Mother tongue in your home.

One more reason that I started speaking Hindi with my family. Most of the alphabets of Hindi and Bagri are same so we never insist our children to speak in my mother tongue.

 

 

 

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

Mother tongue is important like mother. My mother tongue is Bagri, it is some what like Hindi. In these day I am not speaking my mother tongue. My parents are no more and my brother ans sister is living separatley, I am speaking is these days Hindi, By children are Hindi speaking because my wife is Hindi speaking. But I always speak in Bagri if other one is Bagri speaking.

when I was in Odisha. my children used talk in English and Odiya in schools. But in my home we used to talk in Only in Telugu in my home. That's why, when I changed my Job and came back to my state, my children never faced any problem in adjusting with Telugu atmosphere.

You come back to your language but is my case I think it is not possible because my children is speaking Hindi from birth, it is their mother tongue. After me no one will be in my house use my mother tongue Bagri.

 

I can understand the situation and problems you are facing. I too feel, it is difficult for you to implement the usage of Bagri, your Mother tongue in your home.

One more reason that I started speaking Hindi with my family. Most of the alphabets of Hindi and Bagri are same so we never insist our children to speak in my mother tongue.

Of course. It serves the purpose. You are almost in touch with your Mother tongue

 

 

 

 

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

Mother tongue is important like mother. My mother tongue is Bagri, it is some what like Hindi. In these day I am not speaking my mother tongue. My parents are no more and my brother ans sister is living separatley, I am speaking is these days Hindi, By children are Hindi speaking because my wife is Hindi speaking. But I always speak in Bagri if other one is Bagri speaking.

when I was in Odisha. my children used talk in English and Odiya in schools. But in my home we used to talk in Only in Telugu in my home. That's why, when I changed my Job and came back to my state, my children never faced any problem in adjusting with Telugu atmosphere.

You come back to your language but is my case I think it is not possible because my children is speaking Hindi from birth, it is their mother tongue. After me no one will be in my house use my mother tongue Bagri.

 

I can understand the situation and problems you are facing. I too feel, it is difficult for you to implement the usage of Bagri, your Mother tongue in your home.

One more reason that I started speaking Hindi with my family. Most of the alphabets of Hindi and Bagri are same so we never insist our children to speak in my mother tongue.

Of course. It serves the purpose. You are almost in touch with your Mother tongue

yes Hindi speaking and Bagri speaking can understand each other languages. But in case of Tamil, Telgu and other south Indian languages it is not possible that. 

 

 

 

 

 

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

rambabu wrote:

anil wrote:

Mother tongue is important like mother. My mother tongue is Bagri, it is some what like Hindi. In these day I am not speaking my mother tongue. My parents are no more and my brother ans sister is living separatley, I am speaking is these days Hindi, By children are Hindi speaking because my wife is Hindi speaking. But I always speak in Bagri if other one is Bagri speaking.

when I was in Odisha. my children used talk in English and Odiya in schools. But in my home we used to talk in Only in Telugu in my home. That's why, when I changed my Job and came back to my state, my children never faced any problem in adjusting with Telugu atmosphere.

You come back to your language but is my case I think it is not possible because my children is speaking Hindi from birth, it is their mother tongue. After me no one will be in my house use my mother tongue Bagri.

 

I can understand the situation and problems you are facing. I too feel, it is difficult for you to implement the usage of Bagri, your Mother tongue in your home.

One more reason that I started speaking Hindi with my family. Most of the alphabets of Hindi and Bagri are same so we never insist our children to speak in my mother tongue.

Of course. It serves the purpose. You are almost in touch with your Mother tongue

yes Hindi speaking and Bagri speaking can understand each other languages. But in case of Tamil, Telgu and other south Indian languages it is not possible that. 

True. All the South Indian languages are different. That's why, it is important for the parents to communicate with their children in their Mother tongue

 

 

 

 

 

 

well i think that to learn something we should know the basic language which is our mother tongue. so to do something basic is important so does the mother tongue because whatever we learn, we learn from our mother tongue 

We cannot be very rigid in defining mother tongue. My mother tongue is Punjabi but as I live in U.P., Hindi has become more natural to me as well as the next generation. So not Punjabi but Hindi is practically the mother tongue.  A poster has commented that he and his children no longer use Bagri so much. Sp practically, Bagri ceased to be mother tongue and for all purposes, Hindi is the mother tongue in his family. 

There are many Christian communities in the south who speak only English although their mother tongue may be Kannada or Tamil...This is because since the time of British rule when their forefathers worked under the British they interacted only in English and now they have adapted English as their mother tongue , although some of them esp the older generations  do speak the state languages. 

In my home we all speak in Bengali mainly but occasionally we converse in Hindi and English too. So, knowing more than one language is always helpful as well as makes the communication quite interesting. Still, I feel if I am among the Bengali community and people are conversing in Bengali but I fail to join them for my inability to speak or understand my mother tongue then I I will find myself totally out of place. This is definitely embarrassing.

No need to be embarrassed. There are thousands of Indians like you, who are born in one state and have grown in another state. And their numbers are growing. 

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:

We cannot be very rigid in defining mother tongue. My mother tongue is Punjabi but as I live in U.P., Hindi has become more natural to me as well as the next generation. So not Punjabi but Hindi is practically the mother tongue.  A poster has commented that he and his children no longer use Bagri so much. Sp practically, Bagri ceased to be mother tongue and for all purposes, Hindi is the mother tongue in his family. 

yes it right sir no one will speak in my family my mother tongue. My Father-in-law and Mother-in-law both are from Punjab but they never speak punjabi in their house. So non of their family speak mother tongue. All are speaking Hindi. With mother tongue knowledge of local language is also necessary. My mother tongue is Bagri but I can speak, write and read Punjabi.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

In my home we all speak in Bengali mainly but occasionally we converse in Hindi and English too. So, knowing more than one language is always helpful as well as makes the communication quite interesting. Still, I feel if I am among the Bengali community and people are conversing in Bengali but I fail to join them for my inability to speak or understand my mother tongue then I I will find myself totally out of place. This is definitely embarrassing.

You made a good beginning. You speak in Bengali in your family. If you maintain this practice consistently, Children especially speak in Bengali as long as they are in the family. They may speak any language in the school, but certainly converse in your mother tongue with the parents.

Shampa Sadhya wrote:

In my home we all speak in Bengali mainly but occasionally we converse in Hindi and English too. So, knowing more than one language is always helpful as well as makes the communication quite interesting. Still, I feel if I am among the Bengali community and people are conversing in Bengali but I fail to join them for my inability to speak or understand my mother tongue then I I will find myself totally out of place. This is definitely embarrassing.

Language is a form of communication and as long as children are comfortable in whatever language they speak , I feel there is no need to get stressed over it. In my own case my children learnt English first since that was the most practical thing to do for me but later as they grew up, they also picked up both the mother tongue Thulu and state language Kannada, also Hindi ! So, it basically depends and need and interest ..

Children learn what they hear often in the surroundings. If they hear, Telugu, they pick up Telugu. Telugu people from Railways settled in Bengal often used to converse in Bengali even in their house. Their children too learned Bengali only because they are exposed to the language spoken in their home. It's a natural phenomenon.

@vijay

Well, the example I gave is just an assumed condition because I have no problem in reading, writing and understanding my mother tongue. 

Never forget our mother-tongue wherever we go and in whatever position we  reach. Give respect to your mother-tongue just like your mother. You should speak with your children in your mother-tongue. I never tell you to talk always in mother-tongue. You can talk them sometimes whenever you get time. Otherwise, your children cannot communicate with their grant-parents and other family members whenever you go to your native place. It will automatically break the relationship and build a big gap among family members. Therefore, always give prime importance to your mother-tongue.

True. It's not possible for the parents for communicating in their conversation always. Especially for working parents. But the parents must try to communicate as far as possible with their children in their Mother tongue.

@usha manohar

I don't feel stressed because I know extra pressure will become a problem for my son. He is a fluent speaker of his mother tongue from childhood so there is no huge problem. If he learns to read and write then it will be wonderful but as you said children learn according to their need. So, I think one day he may feel it's need.