Conflicts in Relationshiips

The very realization that any two persons will not think alike on every issue is key to reconciliation. 

Exactly. No two persons think alike. Above all expectations are also the reason for conflicts in relationships. Unless these expectations are avoided and adjust with each other one cannot have a smooth life.

How can expectations be avoided in relationships. They are the basis of relationships. Call it obligations if you like but if they are not there the relationship will also collapse.

No. Expectations will be there. But these expectations take place without others consents or discussions. This is a mistake that can be avoided.

By lowering the expectations, practicing acceptance, exercising patience, a harmonious life can be achieved.

That is possible only if one renounces the world and retires to Himalayas. Lowering expectations still leaves behind expectations. There can be no relationship without expectations. Even Godmen expect respect, luxurious residences, good food and wealth from their Bhaktas.

We can not imagine any relation which is free from conflicts. Agreement and disagreement is common in any relation.

I don't agree. It's possible many families are living happily. In my own case we are two different poles. Because we don't have any expectations between us. Whenever it becomes necessary one of us will step down. Our aim is a a blissful marital life.

One of you step down because you have some conflicts or you are not agreed on some issues. Otherwise what is the need of step down. Noting is wrong in it. It is way of happy life. Get take agree or agreed.

anil wrote:

One of you step down because you have some conflicts or you are not agreed on some issues. Otherwise what is the need of step down. Noting is wrong in it. It is way of happy life. Get take agree or agreed.

Yes one of us will step down  because our common interest is a life without problems.

anil wrote:

One of you step down because you have some conflicts or you are not agreed on some issues. Otherwise what is the need of step down. Noting is wrong in it. It is way of happy life. Get take agree or agreed.

In fact a little bit of conflict of interest adds spice to life , also no two people can ever have a perfect relationship since people are different and at some stage or the other some difference of opinion is bound to arise between the two ! If one person is constantly stepping down, with time that itself becomes a flash point..

It is an undeniable fact that conflicts are bound to crop in married life. The main reason is too many expectations. Someone said aptly one cannot stop the waves, but one can learn to surf.

By Focusing on the behavior of the person, not on the personal characteristics, clarifying what the person meant by their action, instead of what you grasped out of their actions. This is highly necessary, because, your perception of others activities often go in a wrong way. A time to time interactions and dialogues will certainly put the things in the right place.

Small or big disagreement is bound to take place in each and every relationship but that cannot be a threat to their relationship if ego is kept away from it. I don't believe in stepping down concept because it leads to comparison that who stepped down first and for how many times one stepped down, that cannot strengthen the bond. Relationship of any nature will face no massive problem if one handles the situation through a take it easy mode. Exchange of love between any relationship is the biggest expectation and if one overcome this expectation then he/she is a machine and not a human. We need to curb materialistic expectation and emotional over expectation but  normal love and cordiality between blood relations, friends, spouse, acquaintances and so on cannot be suppressed. It has to be there, rather we need to control our negative emotions and conflict will vanish.

Conflicts are inevitable in relationships. Depending on the type of relationship the individuals' behaviour changes. A husband may step down in his family for maintaining peace but in a conflict with his boss  or subordinate behave exactly the opposite way. The nature of relationship decides the expectations and reactions.

I believe that any human being who is matured, well-mannered, understanding and humane will always try to end a conflict of any kind with any of his/her relations. Those who carry on their conflict actually pollute the environment of the surrounding such as home, office or any other. 

usha manohar wrote:

anil wrote:

One of you step down because you have some conflicts or you are not agreed on some issues. Otherwise what is the need of step down. Noting is wrong in it. It is way of happy life. Get take agree or agreed.

In fact a little bit of conflict of interest adds spice to life , also no two people can ever have a perfect relationship since people are different and at some stage or the other some difference of opinion is bound to arise between the two ! If one person is constantly stepping down, with time that itself becomes a flash point..

Yes I am agree you. Kittle and be happy is way of life. One cann't eat always sweet. It is not possible that two person one thinking, so conflicts are common thing.

Even people leading happy married lives for decades do have differences . They are like Storm in a Tea cup which definitely lead to strengthening  the Marital bond, They are very common and shouldn't  be made mountains out of mole hills.

anil wrote:

usha manohar wrote:

anil wrote:

One of you step down because you have some conflicts or you are not agreed on some issues. Otherwise what is the need of step down. Noting is wrong in it. It is way of happy life. Get take agree or agreed.

In fact a little bit of conflict of interest adds spice to life , also no two people can ever have a perfect relationship since people are different and at some stage or the other some difference of opinion is bound to arise between the two ! If one person is constantly stepping down, with time that itself becomes a flash point..

Yes I am agree you. Kittle and be happy is way of life. One cann't eat always sweet. It is not possible that two person one thinking, so conflicts are common thing.

 

In fact according to psycho analysts having no difference of opinion or conflict is not a healthy trend because it shows that one of the partner is suppressing his or her real feelings which might explode one fine damage causing immense damage and shaking the very foundation of the relationship 

Very true. Some amount of conflict is healthy even in the forum.

It goes without saying. It is with differences alone the truth emerges out. Provided they are taken as mere opinions and the member's point of view. One should not expect all will agree with your point of view.

Clash of opinion and understanding within a relationship definitely helps to know each other better. This is really a healthy way to strengthen a bond but the moment people start nursing a grudge against each other in any relationship then it gradually becomes ugly. We all need to understand this that disagreement of thought is not a reason to ruin a relationship of any kind.