How do you feel when someone interrupts you?

More people than we know are supposedly listening while they are mentally thinking up stuff to tell us. Listening would mean understanding, giving the speakers words a deep thought and responding in turn. 

I think poor listeners are in a hurry to give their bit and get on with life. They miss out on so many things in life. 

Listening constitutes a most important point in the Conversational skills. Who interrupt are undoubtedly are missing this vital point . Their nature is Bulldozing their way.

The funny thing is some people latch on to a word and take off kin tangents. They speak so much that you forget what the original conversation was all about. I have a neighbor who hijacks all conversations. 

Normally we listen to what others talk, think about it and respond. All these things happen within a fraction of a second and it appears that we do not listen before responding. It is because our mind is so powerful. When you are with your friends sharing some relaxed moments, you exchange perfect dialogues, tit for tat, but without the difference of a second. 

The best way to avoid those Bulldozers is turn away and look elsewhere. This gives an indication that you are also paying him with the same coin.

People with low patience are generally bad listeners. They are terrible at listening and in hurry to react. These people are potential enough to spoil the essence of a great idea :) A good conversation demands time plus patience. 

By Listening,you are giving importance to what the other is saying. This in turn creates a good impression on the speaker that what he is saying is being given due weight by the listener. This is highly essential for an effective conversation.

I don't mind if someone is interrupting me for a purpose or mutual benefit but if it's a case of bullying .... just ask me via email how do I feel or what can I do in such a case. It would not be appropriate writing that in public forums. 

If someone is interrupt you for a purpose, how that purpose can be served without hearing what you said ?

If it's for a purpose then I have already written it in my post above, I don't mind listening to them and give a proper response..

I have no problem in being interrupted, if the person had already understood what I wanted to mean and then gives an answer in favour or against but has to be on the very discussion point. Those who interrupt without understanding irritate me a lot. I love to listen so I feel good when others give me a patient hearing. 

Exactly. I agree with you. If the person after hearing what you said interrupts you, there is no problem at all. Without hearing what you said, if the person interrupts you, it irritates you.

Let me put this way.

I and my friend both are book lovers. And we met on the way. I started telling something. He waved his hand indicating to stop.

He said, " Do you know, there is a Book exhibition going on."?

"Oho.. I too wanted to say that there is a Book exhibition..",

This explains all.

rambabu wrote:

Exactly. I agree with you. If the person after hearing what you said interrupts you, there is no problem at all. Without hearing what you said, if the person interrupts you, it irritates you.

Let me put this way.

I and my friend both are book lovers. And we met on the way. I started telling something. He waved his hand indicating to stop.

He said, " Do you know, there is a Book exhibition going on."?

"Oho.. I too wanted to say that there is a Book exhibition..",

This explains all.

 

Honestly I don't see where interruption comes here since both wanted to say the same thing, but your friend probably was excited about it and wanted to share the news with you so stopped you so that he can tell you about it before anything else . I guess this can happen to anyone, when you want to share something important , you may interrupt the conversation and speak about it !

usha manohar wrote:

rambabu wrote:

Exactly. I agree with you. If the person after hearing what you said interrupts you, there is no problem at all. Without hearing what you said, if the person interrupts you, it irritates you.

Let me put this way.

I and my friend both are book lovers. And we met on the way. I started telling something. He waved his hand indicating to stop.

He said, " Do you know, there is a Book exhibition going on."?

"Oho.. I too wanted to say that there is a Book exhibition..",

This explains all.

 

Honestly I don't see where interruption comes here since both wanted to say the same thing, but your friend probably was excited about it and wanted to share the news with you so stopped you so that he can tell you about it before anything else . I guess this can happen to anyone, when you want to share something important , you may interrupt the conversation and speak about it !

When i wave my hand towards my friend or somebody else, I expect that person hears what for i stopped him. For me it's certainly an interruption, if that person starts talking without knowing  what I wanted to say.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We cannot expect people to behave in a set pattern, the other person may have his own way of doing things..When two people meet, which is what you mentioned , anybody can start the conversation , even if one of them was trying to say something, if the other person has something he or she believes is important to both, there is no harm in blurting it out, it is but natural ..

I believe in such cases one of them should allow the other person to speak. A mid way should be taken in which both are beneficiaries.

First of all its bad manners to interrupt a person when he/she is speaking.

Next hear them out. Many people fear that they might forget what they need to add.. and jump in.

 Its only right to hear a person out before responding to what the person has to say. That is acceptable behavior in my opinion. 

I agree. Interruption amounts to Bad manners. But when things take a bad turn leading to arguments and counter arguments on the topic, "You hear what I say." " No you hear first what I say" is also bad manners. In this condition, it's wise one of them should step down.