Late Marriage trend in India

It would of great help if you can elaborate advantages and disadvantages of Late Marriages, it would be possible to add spice to the discussions

 Anyhow my point is until one becomes a good earner to look after his family, there is no harm in opting for late marriages. What's the use of marrying early and depending on wife's income or in laws income like a parasite ?

Marriage has its advantages and disadvantages and one should enter into it only if one is ready to face the responsibilities and not because elders and the society dictates you to marry...Age is incidental since we can see happy marriages cross all such barriers and those that were seemingly ideally matched in every respect fall apart within a short time. Personally I feel that late marriages are far better than child marriages or early marriages ..

In my Own family there are a couple of late marriages. Both of the married after they started earning. Now both are leading happy lives.

Financial independence is a must unless one has enough inherited money and property which one can fall back on.....But financial freedom is just one of the things that makes for a happy marriage..

Even if one has inherited money, it always remains as Others money. There is nothing like Having an income of his own. This is really one can be proud of.

Once inherited it becomes your money , we see industrialists and business men inheriting from their parents and ancestors ...As long as you value it there is nothing in wrong in it..

After inheriting property, If you see the property is multiplied with your own effort, then there is nothing wrong. But depending on such property and idling doing nothing, is one thing I cannot assimilate.

People have different perspectives of life - for those with inherited property and money life is easy and they do whatever pleases them, travel, shop etc etc since money is not a concern. Some may prefer to invest it whereas some may blow it up. I have a neighbor who has inherited 3-4 commercial properties and besides his own house has an apartment built by his father and rented out.he earns a few lakh rupees a month and he is busy looking after the properties and their upkeep etc...But he thinks a hundred times to give even 100 rupees to his wife for her needs, so what is the use of hoarding money or be hard working without having your priorities right ..

Let me tell you my own experience. My father has given me a plot in a remote part of Vizag. He said, If you build it with your own money, I will write this on your name. Then I took my PF Loan, LIC Loan and some private loans and built the house. By the time I completed the house once this remote place has become a nerve center of the many business activities. It has become the heart of the city. My younger did not care to accept my father's offer. At that time it cost me 5 lakhs. Now it fetches 100 lakhs or I crore.. It was only then I realized the importance of building my own property. I sold it for an astronomical sum and bought  flat in the present place where i;m living. Remaining amount was invested in many profit making organizations.

If one faces the initial difficulties and venture, later the results will be sweet. I'm proud to see my property built on my own.

Most people make their homes out of their own earnings, some inherit a piece of land or money which would make it easier for them ...However, it passes on and either the children or someone inherits it at some stage or the other..

Yes. in my case as I said above, i have gone all out to build the house on the land given to me by my father. Because, my father has given me land he made my job not only easier, I thought it's an opportunity to be utilized without fail. Had my father did not offer, the land, i wouldn't have built the house even until now.

One reason for late marriage now days is that people first want to complete their studies and then a well paid job, after that they think for marriage. at this time they reach to age of 30. In olden days most people not bothered about studies, they just want marriage and job at smaller age, like 18 -20. So most of them got married around 20 - 24 years or even at earlier age.

Late marriages have some advantages and disadvantages.  Advantage is that you can focus on your studies, look for better job and can make your decision independently.

Some disadvantages like having late marriage means having babies at late age. Peak time to get a baby is between 20 -30 years. Beyond 30 problems starts, and baby got after 35 is not so healthy as the baby got at around 25 years of age. Also it is risky to get baby at later ages.

True.It becomes difficult to conceive for woman after 30. But I know several late marriage cases which are exceptions.

rambabu wrote:

True.It becomes difficult to conceive for woman after 30. But I know several late marriage cases which are exceptions.

 

Other disadvantages of late marriage are:

http://iml.jou.ufl.edu/projects/spring03/soll/cons.htm

As I said advantages and disadvantages of late marriages are certainly there. But I stress on one point. Marry when you acquire financial independence. If you marry at an ideal age without financial independence, the disadvantages much more than infertility.

Manoj Kumar Lamba wrote:

One reason for late marriage now days is that people first want to complete their studies and then a well paid job, after that they think for marriage. at this time they reach to age of 30. In olden days most people not bothered about studies, they just want marriage and job at smaller age, like 18 -20. So most of them got married around 20 - 24 years or even at earlier age.

Late marriages have some advantages and disadvantages.  Advantage is that you can focus on your studies, look for better job and can make your decision independently.

Some disadvantages like having late marriage means having babies at late age. Peak time to get a baby is between 20 -30 years. Beyond 30 problems starts, and baby got after 35 is not so healthy as the baby got at around 25 years of age. Also it is risky to get baby at later ages.

No doubt that it is better to have a child before one hits 35....However, a marriage for many these days is more about companionship and they have a child after much thought since there are responsibilities involved and unlike before when wives stayed home to look after the baby and there were parents to pool in , it is far more complicated now because both work .I see many more couple opting not to have children these days . But for those wanting to have children, even getting married at 30 ( ladies ) and having a child after 2 or 3 years is perfectly alright ..

For The present day youngsters, Children are not the main concern. Their preference are more towards economic independence and leading a blissful married life.

rambabu wrote:

For The present day youngsters, Children are not the main concern. Their preference are more towards economic independence and leading a blissful married life.

 

It is true that the youngsters at present day do not thought about having or not having children, that's why today's youth is being attracted towards live -in relations than being got married.

Exactly. The present generation do not hesitate to break away from set norms be it marriages or any issue. The ultimate for them is A Happy life.

Now career comes first and marriage next. So late marriages. In the past, marriage came first and career next. so early marriage even child marriage.