why it happens with me?

That is life, Sanjeev, people come and go all the time. Change is the only thing that is permanent. Even though your friend and colleague is going away, that doesn't mean you are losing a friend. With help of technology you can always stay in contact, of course, it is not the same. But then consider it also as a test of your friendship, if it is true, you will remain friends forever!

P.S. It happens not only to you, but everyone else. I too have lost many such friends in all these years and so may have others in the forum. To cheer you up, me and a bunch of my close friends in college recently got together after 20 long years and we felt the same connection. We are now enjoying our friendship now even more than we did back then!

It's not only you but all of us face this situation in real life. The life goes on the friends come and go but the real one stay forever, distance not taken into account.

True.. That's the life.

SJ.. This is what happens when we emotionally attach with anyone, and this can be any person in our life. Yes there would be mix feeling for you right now as he is getting success as well and he is leaving you too. Just be in touch with you with technology and it will be fine. 

It should be taken into your stride. You made a person who is professionally in an envious position. Even the management appreciated you. Take this opportunity to train up more professionally efficien people. It gives you a satisfaction and leads to your happiness.

@Rambabu I am not envious but upset temporarily and I know things will get better itself with the time. I agree with kalyani said ''change is permanent''.

Sanjeev Gupta wrote:

@Rambabu I am not envious but upset temporarily and I know things will get better itself with the time. I agree with kalyani said ''change is permanent''.

 

I didn't say that you are envious. I said you moulded a person who has a professional Excellence. For your commendable efforts you received appreciations from your top management. You should be proud of your achievement.

But I never knew that moulding a person will cost that much (kidding). It's OK I know it happens when we are emotionally attached with a person and gets well with the time. Adaptability is what required to be happy in life.

He is equally attached I know he may have declined the offer if may not be having financial crisis and some social responsibilities.

Naturally. a strong relationship was formed between you and him. But he has his own reasons like financial problems, and a scope for growth in future are some of the reasons for accepting the offer.

Sanjeev Gupta wrote:

@Rambabu I am not envious but upset temporarily and I know things will get better itself with the time. I agree with kalyani said ''change is permanent''.

 

I do not agree with 'change is permanent'. Had the change been permanent no one would have put their efforts to make it right. In fact change is one thing very much changeable. 

''Change is permanent'' here I mean nothing is permanent nothing can remain as it was.  Things get changed with the time. So is the human relationships and emotions.

So it means, don't resist change. Take the life as it comes. If you resist you will be left back.

rambabu wrote:

So it means, don't resist change. Take the life as it comes. If you resist you will be left back.

 

For me it means take the changes as per your own requirements. In other words 'take the bull by horn and resist it if it's not doing your own way', never give up. 

Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:

P.S. It happens not only to you, but everyone else. I too have lost many such friends in all these years and so may have others in the forum. To cheer you up, me and a bunch of my close friends in college recently got together after 20 long years and we felt the same connection. We are now enjoying our friendship now even more than we did back then!

 

Very true Kalyani ! In my own case Facebook has really helped me find a few of my old friends who I had completely lost touch with...We have all changed but the old bond keeps us together and we also do not take each other for granted now !

I have such experience in my long govt. career. Transfer is a routine matter in career.  In every farewell, the orators express mixed feelings of happiness and sorrow- happiness as the departing colleague may be getting choice posting or promotion and sorrow because parting is always sad. I personally served at many places. 

In life also, we meet many people good or bad but don';t live together or at some place for ever. This reminds me of an old song- Jeevan ke safar men milate hain raahi bichhhad jaane ko- de jaate hain yaden tanhai me tadpane ko. 

suni51 wrote:

rambabu wrote:

So it means, don't resist change. Take the life as it comes. If you resist you will be left back.

 

For me it means take the changes as per your own requirements. In other words 'take the bull by horn and resist it if it's not doing your own way', never give up. 

 

Bravo!!! Giving up means, you were taken by the life. But brave people like you , make the life dance to their tunes. Kudos.

 

True friendships can withstand physical separation as they are mentally united.Technology now keeps one connected 24x7.

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani wrote:

I have such experience in my long govt. career. Transfer is a routine matter in career.  In every farewell, the orators express mixed feelings of happiness and sorrow- happiness as the departing colleague may be getting choice posting or promotion and sorrow because parting is always sad. I personally served at many places. 

In life also, we meet many people good or bad but don';t live together or at some place for ever. This reminds me of an old song- Jeevan ke safar men milate hain raahi bichhhad jaane ko- de jaate hain yaden tanhai me tadpane ko. 

 

I thank you for two reasons. With one song, you have given the vivid picture depicting MILNA and BICHADNA. 

secondly Aap Ek Mathur Geet yaad Diladiye Hain.

suni51 wrote:

Sanjeev Gupta wrote:

@Rambabu I am not envious but upset temporarily and I know things will get better itself with the time. I agree with kalyani said ''change is permanent''.

 

I do not agree with 'change is permanent'. Had the change been permanent no one would have put their efforts to make it right. In fact change is one thing very much changeable. 

 

No doubt people resist for changes and put their efforts to make things like they want to be but there are still few changes for which we can't do anything but to accept them as it is and try to adapt ourselves with them. And I am not different as I know I can't resist it so I have to accept it.