Anger is the word that most of us are trying to control in our day-to-day life. How to overcome that?. Here,comes an article i read regarding some useful tips to control anger.
http://www.howtothinkpositive.net/6-basic-steps-towards-overcoming-anger/
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suni51 wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:It means diverting your attention towards some other thing is also a way of controlling anger.
Yes sir. Thats also a good idea to control our anger. But sometimes, if we are not reacting to the person who was making us anger, makes the situation more worse. Because he/she may get much anger than before , as we are not reacting to that person. So, diverting ourselves to something else may help us in certain situation, but not always. Its better to leave the place than diverting ourself to something else i think.
Allow him to prattle. But don't pay any heed. Behave as if he's not in the place. Silence is the best form of punishment.
Yes sir. Sometimes, silence is the best punishment. It kills than anything else.
If you go on responding the person who is an angry mood, more exchanges will further worsen the situation. It's not good for both.
I agree. Then only the quarrel will come to an end. Otherwise there is no end.
Bringing the quarrel or exchange of heated arguments is in our hands.The idea is not prolong the issue without leaving a bad taste in our mouth.
As long one has reasonable points responding to person in front of him there is no way a discussion will have heated exchanges.
Yes it also happens sometimes. But eventhough we have valid points to tell, there are people who dont accept that the fault is with in them and they keep on arguing. With such people, its better to leave the place will be a good decision. So that, atleast we can avoid head ache.
geetha wrote:suni51 wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:It means diverting your attention towards some other thing is also a way of controlling anger.
Yes sir. Thats also a good idea to control our anger. But sometimes, if we are not reacting to the person who was making us anger, makes the situation more worse. Because he/she may get much anger than before , as we are not reacting to that person. So, diverting ourselves to something else may help us in certain situation, but not always. Its better to leave the place than diverting ourself to something else i think.
Allow him to prattle. But don't pay any heed. Behave as if he's not in the place. Silence is the best form of punishment.
Yes sir. Sometimes, silence is the best punishment. It kills than anything else.
If you go on responding the person who is an angry mood, more exchanges will further worsen the situation. It's not good for both.
I agree. Then only the quarrel will come to an end. Otherwise there is no end.
Bringing the quarrel or exchange of heated arguments is in our hands.The idea is not prolong the issue without leaving a bad taste in our mouth.
As long one has reasonable points responding to person in front of him there is no way a discussion will have heated exchanges.
Yes it also happens sometimes. But eventhough we have valid points to tell, there are people who dont accept that the fault is with in them and they keep on arguing. With such people, its better to leave the place will be a good decision. So that, atleast we can avoid head ache.
For your own good, it's better to to leave the spot from the nearest exit.
Mousumi Ghosh wrote:Although it is good to distract oneself to cool off the anger, at times I feel it is necessary to vent out as well. This will not bottle up hatred and we will feel much relieved. But the best thing is to distract oneself or leave the place until your anger subsides.
It all depends on the persons involved i the discussions. If people are magnanimous and broadhearted to grasp the relevance of valid points, there is no problem.
rambabu wrote:Mousumi Ghosh wrote:Although it is good to distract oneself to cool off the anger, at times I feel it is necessary to vent out as well. This will not bottle up hatred and we will feel much relieved. But the best thing is to distract oneself or leave the place until your anger subsides.
It all depends on the persons involved i the discussions. If people are magnanimous and broadhearted to grasp the relevance of valid points, there is no problem.
Agree sir. It depends on people. But nowadays people dont have patience to listen to others and get their points. They stand with their own points and argue they are only correct. If people ready to hear others view, there wont be any problem.
geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Mousumi Ghosh wrote:Although it is good to distract oneself to cool off the anger, at times I feel it is necessary to vent out as well. This will not bottle up hatred and we will feel much relieved. But the best thing is to distract oneself or leave the place until your anger subsides.
It all depends on the persons involved i the discussions. If people are magnanimous and broadhearted to grasp the relevance of valid points, there is no problem.
Agree sir. It depends on people. But nowadays people dont have patience to listen to others and get their points. They stand with their own points and argue they are only correct. If people ready to hear others view, there wont be any problem.
Dogmatism will not pay anyone. Wisdom lies ileaving both the speaker and his dogmatism and go straight away towards a coffee cafe and have a cup of steaming coffee.
rambabu wrote:Mousumi Ghosh wrote:Although it is good to distract oneself to cool off the anger, at times I feel it is necessary to vent out as well. This will not bottle up hatred and we will feel much relieved. But the best thing is to distract oneself or leave the place until your anger subsides.
It all depends on the persons involved i the discussions. If people are magnanimous and broadhearted to grasp the relevance of valid points, there is no problem.
It depends on people and the content of discusion, if it can be solved once and for all by showing anger once, it is okay, but it should not be postponed for later and pave way for another heated discussion.
rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
I agree with you. Silence speaks. Silence also breaks the barriers of misunderstanding.
rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
I agree with you. Silence speaks. Silence also breaks the barriers of misunderstanding.
Silence is the best remedy for most of the problems happening in day-to-day life. But in some situations, we must speak. Otherwise, silence will be taken for granted and also it will like we are accepting that fault is on our side.
geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
I agree with you. Silence speaks. Silence also breaks the barriers of misunderstanding.
Silence is the best remedy for most of the problems happening in day-to-day life. But in some situations, we must speak. Otherwise, silence will be taken for granted and also it will like we are accepting that fault is on our side.
True. But here we have to exercise our discrimination. Where to be silent and where not.
rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
I agree with you. Silence speaks. Silence also breaks the barriers of misunderstanding.
Silence is the best remedy for most of the problems happening in day-to-day life. But in some situations, we must speak. Otherwise, silence will be taken for granted and also it will like we are accepting that fault is on our side.
True. But here we have to exercise our discrimination. Where to be silent and where not.
Yes. If one learnt that strategy there wont be any kind of unnecessary talks between people.
geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
I agree with you. Silence speaks. Silence also breaks the barriers of misunderstanding.
Silence is the best remedy for most of the problems happening in day-to-day life. But in some situations, we must speak. Otherwise, silence will be taken for granted and also it will like we are accepting that fault is on our side.
True. But here we have to exercise our discrimination. Where to be silent and where not.
Yes. If one learnt that strategy there wont be any kind of unnecessary talks between people.
Wisdom lies in acting according to the situation. It's always desirable to avoid unsavory situations.
rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
I agree with you. Silence speaks. Silence also breaks the barriers of misunderstanding.
Silence is the best remedy for most of the problems happening in day-to-day life. But in some situations, we must speak. Otherwise, silence will be taken for granted and also it will like we are accepting that fault is on our side.
True. But here we have to exercise our discrimination. Where to be silent and where not.
Yes. If one learnt that strategy there wont be any kind of unnecessary talks between people.
Wisdom lies in acting according to the situation. It's always desirable to avoid unsavory situations.
Yes. Wisdom lies on how we react to the situation. Sometimes silence is also an act of wisdom. But people usually misunderstood that silent people are coward and they are afraid to face the situation. This misconception should change from the minds of the people.Actually silent people are more stronger than people who are arguing.
geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:geetha wrote:rambabu wrote:Most of the discussions and arguements that lead to heated rxchages are due to not understanding the other's point of view. TV debates make an excellent example.
Misunderstanding is the base for all the problems. But if anyone maintains silence, it can be easily solved.
I agree with you. Silence speaks. Silence also breaks the barriers of misunderstanding.
Silence is the best remedy for most of the problems happening in day-to-day life. But in some situations, we must speak. Otherwise, silence will be taken for granted and also it will like we are accepting that fault is on our side.
True. But here we have to exercise our discrimination. Where to be silent and where not.
Yes. If one learnt that strategy there wont be any kind of unnecessary talks between people.
Wisdom lies in acting according to the situation. It's always desirable to avoid unsavory situations.
Yes. Wisdom lies on how we react to the situation. Sometimes silence is also an act of wisdom. But people usually misunderstood that silent people are coward and they are afraid to face the situation. This misconception should change from the minds of the people.Actually silent people are more stronger than people who are arguing.
Let people think in any way they like. We have our principles and we will not depart from our ideals and beliefs.
Silent people are not coward they are keeping silent because they don't want to make the issue further more a complicated one. Some people thought that while they are in angry mood the scold everybody and simply say that i will not keep anything in my heart and exhibit it immediately. But they forget that the words they used will never cure the wounded hearts.
Dwarakanathan wrote:Silent people are not coward they are keeping silent because they don't want to make the issue further more a complicated one. Some people thought that while they are in angry mood the scold everybody and simply say that i will not keep anything in my heart and exhibit it immediately. But they forget that the words they used will never cure the wounded hearts.
Yes. Words once said cannot be taken back. It will last forever. So, people should be careful while speaking. Otherwise, any strong relationship will be broken with in few seconds. Words rule everything. It has all the power to change any situation to either positive (or) negative depends on how we are handling it.
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