Elederly, property and children!

Again this problem of maltreatment with elders is not new and is on the rise. Looking at the growing numbers old age homes are an indicator of the same. It is very sad that parents suffer misbehavior at the hands of their own children. Parents give unconditional love to their children and few unfortunate ones get ill-treatment from their kins.

It's not always the children who Ill treat their parents. It's the other way round also. Some elderly people are very particular about having their own way even in old age. Some cannot adjust with the younger people's modern life style.some do not tolerate the daughter in law's ways of doing household chores. Some are even create rifts between the family members.
And it's also not true that all the children I'll treat the perents for property. May be in some cases.

It's not always the children who Ill treat their parents. It's the other way round also. Some elderly people are very particular about having their own way even in old age. Some cannot adjust with the younger people's modern life style.some do not tolerate the daughter in law's ways of doing household chores. Some are even create rifts between the family members.
And it's also not true that all the children I'll treat the perents for property. May be in some cases.

Yes, this is yet another facet of the same coin which people usually over look. Very true..at times...infact numerous times...elderly people get away by saying they cannot change at this age and hence the younger generation should make peace with their ways and stay with it. This behavior becomes a bottle neck in the smooth functioning of the family and ultimately breaks.

It's not always the children who Ill treat their parents. It's the other way round also. Some elderly people are very particular about having their own way even in old age. Some cannot adjust with the younger people's modern life style.some do not tolerate the daughter in law's ways of doing household chores. Some are even create rifts between the family members.
And it's also not true that all the children I'll treat the perents for property. May be in some cases.

Yes, this is yet another facet of the same coin which people usually over look. Very true..at times...infact numerous times...elderly people get away by saying they cannot change at this age and hence the younger generation should make peace with their ways and stay with it. This behavior becomes a bottle neck in the smooth functioning of the family and ultimately breaks.

Some old people who are habituated to rise up early in the morning force the entire household to wake up and insist on making their Puja material ready. They cannot adjust with the existing conditions and create a scene.

It is purely depends upon the understanding between the generations. World is not as same as they lived in their young age. If parents believe their children they will never put their parents in old age homes. Young generation also must understand the difficulty that comes in old age. Nowadays no body is ready to walk all people likes to go in vehicle. so we are now suffering from back pain, neck pain etc... We should compare it with the old people and should think how they are suffering now. One real fact behind this is they are very active and have more strength comparing with us. Young generations cannot able to cope up with this one. If older people say anything we are getting anger and shouting them because of not having that much exercise in our day to day life.

It is purely depends upon the understanding between the generations. World is not as same as they lived in their young age. If parents believe their children they will never put their parents in old age homes. Young generation also must understand the difficulty that comes in old age. Nowadays no body is ready to walk all people likes to go in vehicle. so we are now suffering from back pain, neck pain etc... We should compare it with the old people and should think how they are suffering now. One real fact behind this is they are very active and have more strength comparing with us. Young generations cannot able to cope up with this one. If older people say anything we are getting anger and shouting them because of not having that much exercise in our day to day life.

Emancipated elders who accept changes in tune with the times are rare.such elders male or female never pose problems anywhere. They act as guides, mentors and philosophers to the family. They are a big asset.

It is purely depends upon the understanding between the generations. World is not as same as they lived in their young age. If parents believe their children they will never put their parents in old age homes. Young generation also must understand the difficulty that comes in old age. Nowadays no body is ready to walk all people likes to go in vehicle. so we are now suffering from back pain, neck pain etc... We should compare it with the old people and should think how they are suffering now. One real fact behind this is they are very active and have more strength comparing with us. Young generations cannot able to cope up with this one. If older people say anything we are getting anger and shouting them because of not having that much exercise in our day to day life.

Suggestion and advice is best when it comes in bits and one by one..more often than not older generation have to advise on everything and question everything the younger generation plan to do, hence the power struggle happens..and such power struggles have devastated many a families. Everybody can function well if certain amount of breathing space is given to each generation, every member of a family.

It is purely depends upon the understanding between the generations. World is not as same as they lived in their young age. If parents believe their children they will never put their parents in old age homes. Young generation also must understand the difficulty that comes in old age. Nowadays no body is ready to walk all people likes to go in vehicle. so we are now suffering from back pain, neck pain etc... We should compare it with the old people and should think how they are suffering now. One real fact behind this is they are very active and have more strength comparing with us. Young generations cannot able to cope up with this one. If older people say anything we are getting anger and shouting them because of not having that much exercise in our day to day life.

Suggestion and advice is best when it comes in bits and one by one..more often than not older generation have to advise on everything and question everything the younger generation plan to do, hence the power struggle happens..and such power struggles have devastated many a families. Everybody can function well if certain amount of breathing space is given to each generation, every member of a family.

Tolerance, non interference and adjustment by the incumbents of the family will go a long way

Yes some elderly people often tend to forget that their children have grown up to be adults now and they too have their own point of view which can also be right. Some old people believe that they are always right and often tend to thrust their judgement and decisions on the younger generation. One should understand that time is changing and new things and ideas are coming in and not all are wrong. So it is wise for elderly people to also embrace these new changes.

Yes some elderly people often tend to forget that their children have grown up to be adults now and they too have their own point of view which can also be right. Some old people believe that they are always right and often tend to thrust their judgement and decisions on the younger generation. One should understand that time is changing and new things and ideas are coming in and not all are wrong. So it is wise for elderly people to also embrace these new changes.

Yes...difference of opinion is expected, also different perspective give us an opprotunity to look at a thing in a new way, but imposing one's views on other is definitely not welcome.

Yes some elderly people often tend to forget that their children have grown up to be adults now and they too have their own point of view which can also be right. Some old people believe that they are always right and often tend to thrust their judgement and decisions on the younger generation. One should understand that time is changing and new things and ideas are coming in and not all are wrong. So it is wise for elderly people to also embrace these new changes.

Yes...difference of opinion is expected, also different perspective give us an opprotunity to look at a thing in a new way, but imposing one's views on other is definitely not welcome.

Wisdom lies in getting in tune with changing times and changing tastes of the people be it in a family or in society. Other wise those who cannot change will look like an odd man out.

Yes some elderly people often tend to forget that their children have grown up to be adults now and they too have their own point of view which can also be right. Some old people believe that they are always right and often tend to thrust their judgement and decisions on the younger generation. One should understand that time is changing and new things and ideas are coming in and not all are wrong. So it is wise for elderly people to also embrace these new changes.

Yes...difference of opinion is expected, also different perspective give us an opprotunity to look at a thing in a new way, but imposing one's views on other is definitely not welcome.

Wisdom lies in getting in tune with changing times and changing tastes of the people be it in a family or in society. Other wise those who cannot change will look like an odd man out.

Yes going with the flow, walking hand in hand with the newer generation is something we should all learn..after all we are all going to get to that point in our lives..better to mend our ways and make peace with ever new changes.

Yes some elderly people often tend to forget that their children have grown up to be adults now and they too have their own point of view which can also be right. Some old people believe that they are always right and often tend to thrust their judgement and decisions on the younger generation. One should understand that time is changing and new things and ideas are coming in and not all are wrong. So it is wise for elderly people to also embrace these new changes.

Yes...difference of opinion is expected, also different perspective give us an opprotunity to look at a thing in a new way, but imposing one's views on other is definitely not welcome.

Wisdom lies in getting in tune with changing times and changing tastes of the people be it in a family or in society. Other wise those who cannot change will look like an odd man out.

Yes going with the flow, walking hand in hand with the newer generation is something we should all learn..after all we are all going to get to that point in our lives..better to mend our ways and make peace with ever new changes.

Sail with the current. Not against it.

Yes with time society as a whole is going to change and so will the mindset of people. So it is always advisable to look into the benefits and positive side of this new generation and not always pointing out the shortcomings.

Yes some elderly people often tend to forget that their children have grown up to be adults now and they too have their own point of view which can also be right. Some old people believe that they are always right and often tend to thrust their judgement and decisions on the younger generation. One should understand that time is changing and new things and ideas are coming in and not all are wrong. So it is wise for elderly people to also embrace these new changes.

Yes...difference of opinion is expected, also different perspective give us an opprotunity to look at a thing in a new way, but imposing one's views on other is definitely not welcome.

Wisdom lies in getting in tune with changing times and changing tastes of the people be it in a family or in society. Other wise those who cannot change will look like an odd man out.

Yes going with the flow, walking hand in hand with the newer generation is something we should all learn..after all we are all going to get to that point in our lives..better to mend our ways and make peace with ever new changes.

Sail with the current. Not against it.

Sailing with the current should be coupled with putting aside ego hassles too..that way both all generations - old, newer and newest can go a long way.

Yes some elderly people often tend to forget that their children have grown up to be adults now and they too have their own point of view which can also be right. Some old people believe that they are always right and often tend to thrust their judgement and decisions on the younger generation. One should understand that time is changing and new things and ideas are coming in and not all are wrong. So it is wise for elderly people to also embrace these new changes.

Yes...difference of opinion is expected, also different perspective give us an opprotunity to look at a thing in a new way, but imposing one's views on other is definitely not welcome.

Wisdom lies in getting in tune with changing times and changing tastes of the people be it in a family or in society. Other wise those who cannot change will look like an odd man out.

Yes going with the flow, walking hand in hand with the newer generation is something we should all learn..after all we are all going to get to that point in our lives..better to mend our ways and make peace with ever new changes.

Sail with the current. Not against it.

Sailing with the current should be coupled with putting aside ego hassles too..that way both all generations - old, newer and newest can go a long way.

Sailing with current itself includes setting aside the Ego attitude.

Elder people also gives the space to live younger generations. Only thing is they want their people will get success in their attempts. Due to so much love having with their child they are interfering in their life. They also know the truth. They also want their generation should live happily in the society. Somethings we cannot understand in young stage while we are growing then only we can understand how the things are matching.

Elder people also gives the space to live younger generations. Only thing is they want their people will get success in their attempts. Due to so much love having with their child they are interfering in their life. They also know the truth. They also want their generation should live happily in the society. Somethings we cannot understand in young stage while we are growing then only we can understand how the things are matching.

What you're trying to say is also true...at times parents forget and cross the line because they are blinded with love for their children..what looks life interference to us now..we may do it ourselves when we get there..

Parents who mingle with younger generation freely like friends and advise the family with their valuable suggestions in time of need are very less in number. Such elderly persons are indispensable and most loved ones in any family.

Some times it may happen in tension that we are shouting on them and it mentally disturb them. They are keeping silent and never speaks any words. One thing we should admit that younger generations are losing their patience immediately when the thing not happened in their favor.