Does marriage suit you!

Married life becomes good and easily conveyed by the people who lives under the guidance of their parents. Many responsibilities are taken over by their parents and co-borns. Many a times confusion or quarrels are settled down by the elders of the family. Hence, lonely people finds it more difficult.

Abs. backing of family is the sole criterion for a stronger mentality and elders have seen this world and they have immense capabilities to handle such cases.

How long will the elders stay with the families of their children ? At one time or other families should live their own lives without depending on elders.

In fact , many marriages suffer because of the so called wise old family members' interference >it is best to leave the newlyweds to fend for themselves and learn the ways of life....Give advice and guidance only if and when asked , otherwise leave them alone ...

I am not self centered but marriage still does not suit me :lol: as I was carefree before marriage but after having kids I think my hands have been cut now I have lots of responsibilities which I am taking care of nicely and pray God to give strength to keep on doing this. :)

Responsibilities and duties always make people feel scared. It becomes a nightmare. Be brave and wise. We all know you love your family. :)

Devyani but now responsibilities are no more nightmares for me as I have been used to them. But I must say people who are scared of their responsibilities must not get married till they get mentally prepared for it. :)

If you opt for marriage because everybody is marrying without knowing whether you need or not, it will prove disastrous. Marirage is not binding or mandatory. Don't eat if you are not hungry.

That's true I never thought I will have to be so much responsible after marriage but that's OK if would have known it before marriage :blink: I would not have got such lovely kids.

Married life becomes good and easily conveyed by the people who lives under the guidance of their parents. Many responsibilities are taken over by their parents and co-borns. Many a times confusion or quarrels are settled down by the elders of the family. Hence, lonely people finds it more difficult.

Abs. backing of family is the sole criterion for a stronger mentality and elders have seen this world and they have immense capabilities to handle such cases.

How long will the elders stay with the families of their children ? At one time or other families should live their own lives without depending on elders.

In fact , many marriages suffer because of the so called wise old family members' interference >it is best to leave the newlyweds to fend for themselves and learn the ways of life....Give advice and guidance only if and when asked , otherwise leave them alone ...

yes interference above limit is cause of failure of marriage life. Some elders have habit of punctuating for small things.

Married life becomes good and easily conveyed by the people who lives under the guidance of their parents. Many responsibilities are taken over by their parents and co-borns. Many a times confusion or quarrels are settled down by the elders of the family. Hence, lonely people finds it more difficult.

Abs. backing of family is the sole criterion for a stronger mentality and elders have seen this world and they have immense capabilities to handle such cases.

How long will the elders stay with the families of their children ? At one time or other families should live their own lives without depending on elders.

In fact , many marriages suffer because of the so called wise old family members' interference >it is best to leave the newlyweds to fend for themselves and learn the ways of life....Give advice and guidance only if and when asked , otherwise leave them alone ...

Yes lots of marriages suffer due to old family members but wise couple don't mind it they just listen to their advice but do what they think is better for them. :)

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

Every marriage is unique and so does its relevancy and other forms of relations and it varies from couple to couple. :evil: :evil:

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

No one thinks much about such subtle issues while deciding an arranged marriage which is still the norm in our country and oce you are married being self centered is an issue probably between the couple only ... A marriage runs its course since there are many other far more important issues inter connected with it especially after the children come.

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

A self centered individual cares for himself only and so will neglect the spouse. Hence the individual is not suitable for marriage. Thus being self centered is an issue.

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

No one thinks much about such subtle issues while deciding an arranged marriage which is still the norm in our country and oce you are married being self centered is an issue probably between the couple only ... A marriage runs its course since there are many other far more important issues inter connected with it especially after the children come.

Even a self centered person can become normal with due course of time as it is now reverted to couples to solve all these issues and most of the times, all issues remain between them. :evil: :evil:

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

No one thinks much about such subtle issues while deciding an arranged marriage which is still the norm in our country and oce you are married being self centered is an issue probably between the couple only ... A marriage runs its course since there are many other far more important issues inter connected with it especially after the children come.

Even a self centered person can become normal with due course of time as it is now reverted to couples to solve all these issues and most of the times, all issues remain between them. :evil: :evil:

It needs efforts from both the sides. Some sacrifices and some allowances are a must for harmonious life.

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

No one thinks much about such subtle issues while deciding an arranged marriage which is still the norm in our country and oce you are married being self centered is an issue probably between the couple only ... A marriage runs its course since there are many other far more important issues inter connected with it especially after the children come.

Even a self centered person can become normal with due course of time as it is now reverted to couples to solve all these issues and most of the times, all issues remain between them. :evil: :evil:

It needs efforts from both the sides. Some sacrifices and some allowances are a must for harmonious life.

I have seen many people to interfere between the couples because of which problem becomes more serious. That should not be. Love, sacrifice and harmony comes later.

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

No one thinks much about such subtle issues while deciding an arranged marriage which is still the norm in our country and oce you are married being self centered is an issue probably between the couple only ... A marriage runs its course since there are many other far more important issues inter connected with it especially after the children come.

Even a self centered person can become normal with due course of time as it is now reverted to couples to solve all these issues and most of the times, all issues remain between them. :evil: :evil:

I agree that life is the best teacher ever ! People change with time , age and experience, they become mellow .Marriage is not easy, it comes with a lot of responsibilties and practical difficulties too and before entering into it it is better to do so with your eyes open, that way you do not feel cheated...Even in books and films we see that the end is when the romantic couple get married ! I feel that is just the beginning !

Interesting, but being or not being "self-centered"!!! Is that a criteria? I mean, why should a suitable marriage be decided on the basis of whether someone is self-centered or not? I don't think people here would have really thought of it to decide if marriage suits. - My apologies if I am hurting anyone's sentiments here.

No one thinks much about such subtle issues while deciding an arranged marriage which is still the norm in our country and oce you are married being self centered is an issue probably between the couple only ... A marriage runs its course since there are many other far more important issues inter connected with it especially after the children come.

Even a self centered person can become normal with due course of time as it is now reverted to couples to solve all these issues and most of the times, all issues remain between them. :evil: :evil:

It needs efforts from both the sides. Some sacrifices and some allowances are a must for harmonious life.

I have seen many people to interfere between the couples because of which problem becomes more serious. That should not be. Love, sacrifice and harmony comes later.

With mutual trust, misunderstandings arising out of interfering people's activities, can be sorted out.

With time the relationships evolve within mutual trust and care and the long lasting bond continues, what is the reason for more marriage break ups in western countries? :whistle: :whistle: :whistle: :whistle:

Marriages are breaking up not only in Western countries but here in India as well...you go to any family court and see the number of divorce cases that have been filed and are being heard and you will know....Western countries have always been far ahead of us and we are now catching up with them !

Marriages are breaking up not only in Western countries but here in India as well...you go to any family court and see the number of divorce cases that have been filed and are being heard and you will know....Western countries have always been far ahead of us and we are now catching up with them !

It appears so. Of late the number of divorces in India are skyrocketing. The institution of marriage is in peril.

Marriages are breaking up not only in Western countries but here in India as well...you go to any family court and see the number of divorce cases that have been filed and are being heard and you will know....Western countries have always been far ahead of us and we are now catching up with them !

It appears so. Of late the number of divorces in India are skyrocketing. The institution of marriage is in peril.

So, we are moving west wards, and influenced by their negative sides. :whistle: :whistle:

Marriages are breaking up not only in Western countries but here in India as well...you go to any family court and see the number of divorce cases that have been filed and are being heard and you will know....Western countries have always been far ahead of us and we are now catching up with them !

It appears so. Of late the number of divorces in India are skyrocketing. The institution of marriage is in peril.

So, we are moving west wards, and influenced by their negative sides. :whistle: :whistle:

It's not exactly so. We are unable to adjust to the ever changing present. And additionally we are laying more stress on mundane needs which are temporary. In the process we are setting aside the the advantages of a harmonious marital life which remain with you all along the life.

Delhi ka laddoo, khayege to pastyega, na khayege to bhi pastyaega. Khake postana achha hai!!!

Marriages are breaking up not only in Western countries but here in India as well...you go to any family court and see the number of divorce cases that have been filed and are being heard and you will know....Western countries have always been far ahead of us and we are now catching up with them !

It appears so. Of late the number of divorces in India are skyrocketing. The institution of marriage is in peril.

So, we are moving west wards, and influenced by their negative sides. :whistle: :whistle:

Seperation,multiple marriages,child marriages have been there in our society since centuries so let us not even think of blaming the west ! They have their own negative points and we have plenty more which is far more damaging ...