Does marriage suit you? You must consider this before you choose to marry. We think many times before we buy anything- vegetable to house. But we seldom give marriage a thought. If you are self centered, marriage is not for you.
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In today's local news paper headline, one girl revolted and left her parents's home and sat on the train and two guys talked with her while travelling and then kidnap her and then do ugly works on her and then try to force marriage her at the registrar office when the girl called her parents and she was rescued and two guys , are sent to custody.In big cities, people forceful get their daughters married illegally. What should we call this?This happens in small towns as well as villages too, but the girl never complains and this means, slowly she has accepted this, marriages are made in heaven.
Now there a change is visible. Girls are revolting against forced marriages. In Vizag police department is supporting such cases and seeing that they are getting married. Of course the criteria is both boy and girl should be Majors. If they are not majors, police informs the parents and counsel them all.
Has she revolted against a forced marriage ? Just escaping for no reason from the home will lead to altogether unpleasant results. Recently some boys from an orphanage who wanted to escape were met with similar results.
apparently it is all about her marriage which she is not agreeing with her parents decision, and left her home,In today's local news paper headline, one girl revolted and left her parents's home and sat on the train and two guys talked with her while travelling and then kidnap her and then do ugly works on her and then try to force marriage her at the registrar office when the girl called her parents and she was rescued and two guys , are sent to custody.In big cities, people forceful get their daughters married illegally. What should we call this?This happens in small towns as well as villages too, but the girl never complains and this means, slowly she has accepted this, marriages are made in heaven.
Now there a change is visible. Girls are revolting against forced marriages. In Vizag police department is supporting such cases and seeing that they are getting married. Of course the criteria is both boy and girl should be Majors. If they are not majors, police informs the parents and counsel them all.
Has she revolted against a forced marriage ? Just escaping for no reason from the home will lead to altogether unpleasant results. Recently some boys from an orphanage who wanted to escape were met with similar results.
apparently it is all about her marriage which she is not agreeing with her parents decision, and left her home,In today's local news paper headline, one girl revolted and left her parents's home and sat on the train and two guys talked with her while travelling and then kidnap her and then do ugly works on her and then try to force marriage her at the registrar office when the girl called her parents and she was rescued and two guys , are sent to custody.In big cities, people forceful get their daughters married illegally. What should we call this?This happens in small towns as well as villages too, but the girl never complains and this means, slowly she has accepted this, marriages are made in heaven.
Now there a change is visible. Girls are revolting against forced marriages. In Vizag police department is supporting such cases and seeing that they are getting married. Of course the criteria is both boy and girl should be Majors. If they are not majors, police informs the parents and counsel them all.
Has she revolted against a forced marriage ? Just escaping for no reason from the home will lead to altogether unpleasant results. Recently some boys from an orphanage who wanted to escape were met with similar results.
Revolting and leaving parents is not possible for all girls. Such decisions can be taken by only educated girls. Many people don't educate their girls because they may revolt. It hurts their ego and prestige. Many girls are tortured and raped. These is social evil which exists even today in 21st century.
Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
Does marriage suit you? You must consider this before you choose to marry. We think many times before we buy anything- vegetable to house. But we seldom give marriage a thought. If you are self centered, marriage is not for you.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html
I was self centered but my wife turned me into a caring and loving one. I give it to her. But there are times when I want to keep to myself and she knows it. Likewise I always see to it that I do not do anything that offends her or make her feel bad. But I repeat, a small Nonk jhonk makes life sweet.
Does marriage suit you? You must consider this before you choose to marry. We think many times before we buy anything- vegetable to house. But we seldom give marriage a thought. If you are self centered, marriage is not for you.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html
I was self centered but my wife turned me into a caring and loving one. I give it to her. But there are times when I want to keep to myself and she knows it. Likewise I always see to it that I do not do anything that offends her or make her feel bad. But I repeat, a small Nonk jhonk makes life sweet.
That's the simple secret of Marital Bliss. This is the Mantra religiously followed by all those who are enjoying the fruits of marital bliss.
There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Friends I have come across many highly qualified people who are uncultured or villager. Education can make you wise but culture and manners are taught at home. Moreover the friend circles are too bad. Bad enough for the spouse to tolerate. These leads to separation.
There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Friends I have come across many highly qualified people who are uncultured or villager. Education can make you wise but culture and manners are taught at home. Moreover the friend circles are too bad. Bad enough for the spouse to tolerate. These leads to separation.
Parental upbringing which is where the real education starts should be very careful and cautious.. Of course friends and other influences will certainly play a role. But, with all these bad influences one can be emancipated to such a level that they should develop a strong individuality of their own. This will lead to happiness in family and in their marital relations.
I used a wronged word, it would not be mannerism but etiquette, etiquette of a learned person is different from that of illiterate, and so as language as this can create space, within themselves, so it is better to patch these relationships differences arising out of it.There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Does marriage suit you? You must consider this before you choose to marry. We think many times before we buy anything- vegetable to house. But we seldom give marriage a thought. If you are self centered, marriage is not for you.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/seth-adam-smith/marriage-isnt-for-you_b_4209837.html
I was self centered but my wife turned me into a caring and loving one. I give it to her. But there are times when I want to keep to myself and she knows it. Likewise I always see to it that I do not do anything that offends her or make her feel bad. But I repeat, a small Nonk jhonk makes life sweet.
That's the simple secret of Marital Bliss. This is the Mantra religiously followed by all those who are enjoying the fruits of marital bliss.
I should say we all need our own space to breath rather than someone breathing right on our neck, all the time. That makes married life even better. we all should have a personality of our own. We are no mirrors for each other where one of us can see his/her own image.
I used a wronged word, it would not be mannerism but etiquette, etiquette of a learned person is different from that of illiterate, and so as language as this can create space, within themselves, so it is better to patch these relationships differences arising out of it.There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Even one can be etiquette with out education. Education doesn't mean university degrees. I have seen many Adivasis behaving impeccably without education. Such education leads to emancipation, which in turn will keep alive the marital bliss.
The culture of tribal are completely different, as here in Odisha, during my education time few years back, I have done one project of Linguistics and Phonetics of Odia tribals for six months, under Hyderabad University, I came across some of them while doing this project, and tribal have more respect for their ladies, and ladies choose their men, and men give dowry to parents of ladies, a completely different environment, cannot be compared with ours lives where it is completely opposite. Tribal after marriage, their father will ask their son to built home and they will stay separately, it is a completely different world.I used a wronged word, it would not be mannerism but etiquette, etiquette of a learned person is different from that of illiterate, and so as language as this can create space, within themselves, so it is better to patch these relationships differences arising out of it.There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Even one can be etiquette with out education. Education doesn't mean university degrees. I have seen many Adivasis behaving impeccably without education. Such education leads to emancipation, which in turn will keep alive the marital bliss.
The culture of tribal are completely different, as here in Odisha, during my education time few years back, I have done one project of Linguistics and Phonetics of Odia tribals for six months, under Hyderabad University, I came across some of them while doing this project, and tribal have more respect for their ladies, and ladies choose their men, and men give dowry to parents of ladies, a completely different environment, cannot be compared with ours lives where it is completely opposite. Tribal after marriage, their father will ask their son to built home and they will stay separately, it is a completely different world.I used a wronged word, it would not be mannerism but etiquette, etiquette of a learned person is different from that of illiterate, and so as language as this can create space, within themselves, so it is better to patch these relationships differences arising out of it.There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Even one can be etiquette with out education. Education doesn't mean university degrees. I have seen many Adivasis behaving impeccably without education. Such education leads to emancipation, which in turn will keep alive the marital bliss.
I lived and moved with them for years when I was in Odisha. What I wanted to emphasize is Good culture is not an exclusive domain of a few,. If an Adsivasi can be exemplary in his bevaviour and etiquette why not we, who claim that we are highly civilized ?
It is an absolute statement, but the truth is that, in India, in north and east, is male dominated and south is female dominated, as I have seen respect to ladies in Chennai but not so much delhi,The culture of tribal are completely different, as here in Odisha, during my education time few years back, I have done one project of Linguistics and Phonetics of Odia tribals for six months, under Hyderabad University, I came across some of them while doing this project, and tribal have more respect for their ladies, and ladies choose their men, and men give dowry to parents of ladies, a completely different environment, cannot be compared with ours lives where it is completely opposite. Tribal after marriage, their father will ask their son to built home and they will stay separately, it is a completely different world.I used a wronged word, it would not be mannerism but etiquette, etiquette of a learned person is different from that of illiterate, and so as language as this can create space, within themselves, so it is better to patch these relationships differences arising out of it.There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Even one can be etiquette with out education. Education doesn't mean university degrees. I have seen many Adivasis behaving impeccably without education. Such education leads to emancipation, which in turn will keep alive the marital bliss.
I lived and moved with them for years when I was in Odisha. What I wanted to emphasize is Good culture is not an exclusive domain of a few,. If an Adsivasi can be exemplary in his bevaviour and etiquette why not we, who claim that we are highly civilized ?
The culture of tribal are completely different, as here in Odisha, during my education time few years back, I have done one project of Linguistics and Phonetics of Odia tribals for six months, under Hyderabad University, I came across some of them while doing this project, and tribal have more respect for their ladies, and ladies choose their men, and men give dowry to parents of ladies, a completely different environment, cannot be compared with ours lives where it is completely opposite. Tribal after marriage, their father will ask their son to built home and they will stay separately, it is a completely different world.I used a wronged word, it would not be mannerism but etiquette, etiquette of a learned person is different from that of illiterate, and so as language as this can create space, within themselves, so it is better to patch these relationships differences arising out of it.There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Even one can be etiquette with out education. Education doesn't mean university degrees. I have seen many Adivasis behaving impeccably without education. Such education leads to emancipation, which in turn will keep alive the marital bliss.
I lived and moved with them for years when I was in Odisha. What I wanted to emphasize is Good culture is not an exclusive domain of a few,. If an Adsivasi can be exemplary in his bevaviour and etiquette why not we, who claim that we are highly civilized ?
There is a difference in between Adivasis and us, they are simple and away from some of the rude manners we so-called civilized people said to have. I too have seen all the Orissa right from Mayurbhanj to Bhubneshwar and Kalahandi to Sundargarh. They are not aware of the modern tricks of the trade but you cannot blame them for being lesser civilians. Their way of married lives are entirely different although have blemishes of their own.
The culture of tribal are completely different, as here in Odisha, during my education time few years back, I have done one project of Linguistics and Phonetics of Odia tribals for six months, under Hyderabad University, I came across some of them while doing this project, and tribal have more respect for their ladies, and ladies choose their men, and men give dowry to parents of ladies, a completely different environment, cannot be compared with ours lives where it is completely opposite. Tribal after marriage, their father will ask their son to built home and they will stay separately, it is a completely different world.I used a wronged word, it would not be mannerism but etiquette, etiquette of a learned person is different from that of illiterate, and so as language as this can create space, within themselves, so it is better to patch these relationships differences arising out of it.There are occasions when highly educated girl married to almost illiterate but with good earning person, perhaps the mannerisms differ from each other due to this, and this can create a sense of separation, but it is better to think twice and thrice before taking decisions.Is there any relationships between education and revolt, I do not think so, it all depends upon family background and environment.
There need not be. But education certainly helps.
Education has relationship with revolt. If a girl is educated, she can very well understand her good and bad. She can become independent and do some job. Building career is important. I have mentioned it before. If such don't have any source of income, she can't leave her family which is providing her food. If she is illiterate, she may get trapped in human trafficking scandals. Many educated girls get trapped in this. However before revolting a girl needs to think in better way. This makes her life quite serious.
They are not mannerisms. They speak about one's mindset that took deep roots in the society. Education and emancipation to some extent will sort out such beliefs.
Even one can be etiquette with out education. Education doesn't mean university degrees. I have seen many Adivasis behaving impeccably without education. Such education leads to emancipation, which in turn will keep alive the marital bliss.
I lived and moved with them for years when I was in Odisha. What I wanted to emphasize is Good culture is not an exclusive domain of a few,. If an Adsivasi can be exemplary in his bevaviour and etiquette why not we, who claim that we are highly civilized ?
There is a difference in between Adivasis and us, they are simple and away from some of the rude manners we so-called civilized people said to have. I too have see all the Orissa right from Mayurbhanj to Bhubneshwar and Kalahandi to Sundargarh. They are not aware of the modern tricks of the trade but you cannot blame them for being lesser civilians. Their way of married lives are entirely different although have blemishes of their own.
Despite blemishes, they are able to maintain the marital relations in tact. Broken families is a word strange to them.
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