I used to drink lemon tea, when I feel of getting into angriness, it reduces rage and calm me down.Suppression of anger and stress can lead to sever illness in the long run like neurotic and heart diseases.Although it is hard but if we know the fact that if we add 'D' in anger it becomes 'Danger' , every one of us know that anger is no good for us and we can control it. I try to look deep inside myself and find that reason of anger is within me and try to rectify it. Whenever I succeed overcoming my mistakes, I find that my anger is gone otherwise I drink a few glasses of water and the anger within me reduces to great extent, at lest it reduce tension. Anger is danger in my age :laugh:
I had heard a lot about water therapy. But this is the first time that I am hearing that water can be used in such a way to control anger. That's quite amusing to me as well as informative.
Even smoking a cigarette or taking a chocolate would do the same. What you need is to divert your mind. Even if you go on a short walk, anger will vanish.
Yes getting out of the scene is the best way to reduce anger especially that of wife's when she is in fowl mood. That even helps save our heads if she decided to throw rolling pins etc at us.
Blood pressure and depression are the best examples of such diseases. So it is okay once in a while to let out steam on the person who has angered you. Keeping it in not only ruins your health but also strains relationships!
It would be good to give the emotions an outlet. Always suppressing them is more likely to harm you (not talking about you, but in a general sense) than anyone else. The outlet of emotions can bring one back to normal faster almost in all cases.
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Getting out of scene is best way to control anger but it is not good to keeping in mind any wrong things. when you are in anger went to some another place and speak out what you has in your mind.
Going to other places work only when you are in fight with someone and you need to avoid him otherwise stay there count up to 10 in normal way drink a glass of water, divert your concentration and there you are.
Fight with words and hands both are equal. Drinking water is also useful.
But it is better to see our opponent before starting a fist fight, it can make us more angry if he gave us a good beating. :evil:
Ahaha. That;s right. A good beating may turn the anger in to helplessness. In one way you can say proudly, " I controlled my anger."
Isn't that one of the best ways of controlling your anger? just try to have it with someone who can do it for you better than you can do for yourself! ;)
Most of us regret our outburst after we cool down ! Many crimes within a home are committed because of uncontrolled anger ...the reason sometimes is not even serious. I had read about a case where a man hit and killed his wife because she was a bad cook..
Now that is something which is abnormal and psychotic to an extent. But most often, people who are prone to anger all the time also know how to limit their outbursts to only yelling or throwing/braking things. But the violence you are alluding to are similar cases BUT coupled with violent, psychotic tendencies! So ideally all who are hot-tempered, psychotic or not, should learn proper anger management skill in time!
This has to be taught right at the beginning when children are young.We see some children going into tantrums and unless they get what they want they keep on and on....The best thing to do is to divert their attention and talk them out of it instead of making them feel frustrated and adamant ..Anger management is very essential for all of us since we can lose our temper for any slight reason and later regret it...
Exactly! Over pampering and giving into their wishes every time to avoid their tantrums is further damaging their skills to accept NO a positive manner! I see such kids everywhere now especially on playgrounds where they are just too excessively aggressive and bullish. I seriously think that there lie the roots of a violent criminal!
I am very sad to say that possessiveness of a diseased kind on the part of a dominant section of our parents in the matter of their wards is endangering their future and that of the society. They are not in control and tragically they won't allow any other to do it. In the process they tend to be violent, irresponsible and intractable!!!
Most of us regret our outburst after we cool down ! Many crimes within a home are committed because of uncontrolled anger ...the reason sometimes is not even serious. I had read about a case where a man hit and killed his wife because she was a bad cook..
Now that is something which is abnormal and psychotic to an extent. But most often, people who are prone to anger all the time also know how to limit their outbursts to only yelling or throwing/braking things. But the violence you are alluding to are similar cases BUT coupled with violent, psychotic tendencies! So ideally all who are hot-tempered, psychotic or not, should learn proper anger management skill in time!
This has to be taught right at the beginning when children are young.We see some children going into tantrums and unless they get what they want they keep on and on....The best thing to do is to divert their attention and talk them out of it instead of making them feel frustrated and adamant ..Anger management is very essential for all of us since we can lose our temper for any slight reason and later regret it...
Exactly! Over pampering and giving into their wishes every time to avoid their tantrums is further damaging their skills to accept NO a positive manner! I see such kids everywhere now especially on playgrounds where they are just too excessively aggressive and bullish. I seriously think that there lie the roots of a violent criminal!
I am very sad to say that possessiveness of a diseased kind on the part of a dominant section of our parents in the matter of their wards is endangering their future and that of the society. They are not in control and tragically they won't allow any other to do it. In the process they tend to be violent, irresponsible and intractable!!!
Most parents feel that they can do what they want with their children > We see this reflected in our films where the mother beats her grown up son and the son accepts it meekly, even kill him when he goes wayward like in Mother India because she has the right to take his life since she gave life to him ! I feel it is a kind of twisted thinking that shows selfishness more than anything else !
Most of us regret our outburst after we cool down ! Many crimes within a home are committed because of uncontrolled anger ...the reason sometimes is not even serious. I had read about a case where a man hit and killed his wife because she was a bad cook..
Now that is something which is abnormal and psychotic to an extent. But most often, people who are prone to anger all the time also know how to limit their outbursts to only yelling or throwing/braking things. But the violence you are alluding to are similar cases BUT coupled with violent, psychotic tendencies! So ideally all who are hot-tempered, psychotic or not, should learn proper anger management skill in time!
This has to be taught right at the beginning when children are young.We see some children going into tantrums and unless they get what they want they keep on and on....The best thing to do is to divert their attention and talk them out of it instead of making them feel frustrated and adamant ..Anger management is very essential for all of us since we can lose our temper for any slight reason and later regret it...
Exactly! Over pampering and giving into their wishes every time to avoid their tantrums is further damaging their skills to accept NO a positive manner! I see such kids everywhere now especially on playgrounds where they are just too excessively aggressive and bullish. I seriously think that there lie the roots of a violent criminal!
I am very sad to say that possessiveness of a diseased kind on the part of a dominant section of our parents in the matter of their wards is endangering their future and that of the society. They are not in control and tragically they won't allow any other to do it. In the process they tend to be violent, irresponsible and intractable!!!
Most parents feel that they can do what they want with their children > We see this reflected in our films where the mother beats her grown up son and the son accepts it meekly, even kill him when he goes wayward like in Mother India because she has the right to take his life since she gave life to him ! I feel it is a kind of twisted thinking that shows selfishness more than anything else !
Beating children- grown up or small- out of anger is bad. Punishment spanking or beating differs. The son must know why mother has to punish him. Not only at home, at school also, punishment if any must not be angrily. There should be certain quantum of punishment- say stated number of cuts on palm or backside with a cane. I remember that the mother (Nargis Dutt) killed her son to prevent him kidnapping a village girl.
Anger is not bad as long as it is controlled and gives you the impetus to work more. Please suggest yours successful anger management tricks. I used to listen songs with head gear when I feel, the para of anger inside of me is rising. What about yours?
It is one of the most artistic and creative way to control anger.Anger is not bad as long as it is controlled and gives you the impetus to work more. Please suggest yours successful anger management tricks. I used to listen songs with head gear when I feel, the para of anger inside of me is rising. What about yours?
I used to draw while I want to control my anger as drawing needs more concentration.
It is one of the most artistic and creative way to control anger.Anger is not bad as long as it is controlled and gives you the impetus to work more. Please suggest yours successful anger management tricks. I used to listen songs with head gear when I feel, the para of anger inside of me is rising. What about yours?
I used to draw while I want to control my anger as drawing needs more concentration.
Many a times arts can take oneself to a completely different path and in this manner the reason of anger forgotten by the person.It is one of the most artistic and creative way to control anger.Anger is not bad as long as it is controlled and gives you the impetus to work more. Please suggest yours successful anger management tricks. I used to listen songs with head gear when I feel, the para of anger inside of me is rising. What about yours?
I used to draw while I want to control my anger as drawing needs more concentration.
Well said Mohan. Drawing and sculpture are the arts that can change your mood. Once you start doing this arts you will get into it. other things will get vanished.
Many a times arts can take oneself to a completely different path and in this manner the reason of anger forgotten by the person.It is one of the most artistic and creative way to control anger.Anger is not bad as long as it is controlled and gives you the impetus to work more. Please suggest yours successful anger management tricks. I used to listen songs with head gear when I feel, the para of anger inside of me is rising. What about yours?
I used to draw while I want to control my anger as drawing needs more concentration.
Well said Mohan. Drawing and sculpture are the arts that can change your mood. Once you start doing this arts you will get into it. other things will get vanished.
Many a times arts can take oneself to a completely different path and in this manner the reason of anger forgotten by the person.It is one of the most artistic and creative way to control anger.Anger is not bad as long as it is controlled and gives you the impetus to work more. Please suggest yours successful anger management tricks. I used to listen songs with head gear when I feel, the para of anger inside of me is rising. What about yours?
I used to draw while I want to control my anger as drawing needs more concentration.
Well said Mohan. Drawing and sculpture are the arts that can change your mood. Once you start doing this arts you will get into it. other things will get vanished.
As for as myself is concerned, drawing not only controls anger, but also it gives me peace of mind and improve my creativity as well.
Many a times arts can take oneself to a completely different path and in this manner the reason of anger forgotten by the person.It is one of the most artistic and creative way to control anger.Anger is not bad as long as it is controlled and gives you the impetus to work more. Please suggest yours successful anger management tricks. I used to listen songs with head gear when I feel, the para of anger inside of me is rising. What about yours?
I used to draw while I want to control my anger as drawing needs more concentration.
Well said Mohan. Drawing and sculpture are the arts that can change your mood. Once you start doing this arts you will get into it. other things will get vanished.
As for as myself is concerned, drawing not only controls anger, but also it gives me peace of mind and improve my creativity as well.
Yes, I believe in doing something close to my heart, when I'm angry. While on drawing and painting, many times or all the times I observed anger melting away without your knowledge. It need not be restricted to drawing alone. Some times i take my guitar out and strum the strings and get immersed in music. It acts like an antidote for my anger.
If one can divert ones mind or channelise it into doing something else like meditation, or simply going for a walk, one can control anger....This comes with practice and for people with short temper is highly recommended.Meditation calms the mind and spending time outdoors also has the same effect..
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