Female staying with parents after marriage

Generally such arrangement is not good but we have to first understand her reasons for doing so, without understanding those reasons and motives we cannot just stay that it is not good!

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

Under certain circumstances, I think a son -in law residing with his in laws is acceptable. I know of a lady who is the only child of her parents. The parents are old now. So both the lady and her husband are staying with them which is convenient for all. There might be many other circumstances where it becomes necessary for the woman to stay in her parental house.

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

Under certain circumstances, I think a son -in law residing with his in laws is acceptable. I know of a lady who is the only child of her parents. The parents are old now. So both the lady and her husband are staying with them which is convenient for all. There might be many other circumstances where it becomes necessary for the woman to stay in her parental house.

Son –in –law living in Father – in – law’s house is not an uncommon practice in the Indian society.

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

Under certain circumstances, I think a son -in law residing with his in laws is acceptable. I know of a lady who is the only child of her parents. The parents are old now. So both the lady and her husband are staying with them which is convenient for all. There might be many other circumstances where it becomes necessary for the woman to stay in her parental house.

True..times have changed a lot now and a son-in-law is as much a son to his in-laws as he is to their parents, same as a woman becomes a daughter of the in-laws' house, so we must first understand the reasons and then judge accordingly!

A man and his wife should stay together. This is what is expected from them. Usually, a man lives with his parents and the wife comes to her in law house. But in some cases, a man may reside in his wife's parents house. In certain circumstances, this may be appropriate. What matters is general well being of family- the man and his wife, parents of both- the husband as well as wife. Whatever suits to them in given circumstances is best.

In this age of single child the difference between daughter and son has almost disappeared, parents are willing to adjust son-in-law with them if the need be and there are cases where daughter-in-laws are not finding it comfortable to stay with in-laws, so it all goes without any problem. Suppose a pair works in the same city where bride's parents live and have big enough accommodation, there is no harm if they can adjust the pair conveniently.

In this age of single child the difference between daughter and son has almost disappeared, parents are willing to adjust son-in-law with them if the need be and there are cases where daughter-in-laws are not finding it comfortable to stay with in-laws, so it all goes without any problem. Suppose a pair works in the same city where bride's parents live and have big enough accommodation, there is no harm if they can adjust the pair conveniently.

Many of the old beliefs were formed according to the then society. Times changed. Beliefs like ‘a son –in –law living in a father-in- law’s house were considered as a ‘prestige’ issues once. They are no more relevant now. Now the stress is on leading a happy life . Many daughters and sons-in-law are feeling the great necessity of bringing their parents to their homes.

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

What’s good and bad for someone is well known to the people involved. Here, its their point of view that counts. Not the bystanders view

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

What’s good and bad for someone is well known to the people involved. Here, its their point of view that counts. Not the bystanders view

In big cities or metro, hardly any one bothers as to how and with whom you live. But when you live in your native village or town surrounded by near relatives, it makes some difference. Suppose that you belong to Meerut and the inlaws and their relatives all live there, 'ghar jamai' may be ridiculed. But if the girls' father is in a city where there are no near relatives, it will make no difference.

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

What’s good and bad for someone is well known to the people involved. Here, its their point of view that counts. Not the bystanders view

In big cities or metro, hardly any one bothers as to how and with whom you live. But when you live in your native village or town surrounded by near relatives, it makes some difference. Suppose that you belong to Meerut and the inlaws and their relatives all live there, 'ghar jamai' may be ridiculed. But if the girls' father is in a city where there are no near relatives, it will make no difference.

In these fast paced days, I don't think people are left with that much time to think and comment on others lives. They have enough problems of their own. Even if they comment who is going to care.

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

What’s good and bad for someone is well known to the people involved. Here, its their point of view that counts. Not the bystanders view

In big cities or metro, hardly any one bothers as to how and with whom you live. But when you live in your native village or town surrounded by near relatives, it makes some difference. Suppose that you belong to Meerut and the inlaws and their relatives all live there, 'ghar jamai' may be ridiculed. But if the girls' father is in a city where there are no near relatives, it will make no difference.

In these fast paced days, I don't think people are left with that much time to think and comment on others lives. They have enough problems of their own. Even if they comment who is going to care.

Yes it is tradition in all most whole world that girls went to husbands house after marriage. But in some conditions boys prefer to stay at his in-laws house. My brother done it and later it was reason for his marriage breakup.

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

What’s good and bad for someone is well known to the people involved. Here, its their point of view that counts. Not the bystanders view

In big cities or metro, hardly any one bothers as to how and with whom you live. But when you live in your native village or town surrounded by near relatives, it makes some difference. Suppose that you belong to Meerut and the inlaws and their relatives all live there, 'ghar jamai' may be ridiculed. But if the girls' father is in a city where there are no near relatives, it will make no difference.

In these fast paced days, I don't think people are left with that much time to think and comment on others lives. They have enough problems of their own. Even if they comment who is going to care.

Yes it is tradition in all most whole world that girls went to husbands house after marriage. But in some conditions boys prefer to stay at his in-laws house. My brother done it and later it was reason for his marriage breakup.

Staying with in-laws led to break up ? Sad. I know some cases, where son –in- law has been ill treated.

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

What’s good and bad for someone is well known to the people involved. Here, its their point of view that counts. Not the bystanders view

In big cities or metro, hardly any one bothers as to how and with whom you live. But when you live in your native village or town surrounded by near relatives, it makes some difference. Suppose that you belong to Meerut and the inlaws and their relatives all live there, 'ghar jamai' may be ridiculed. But if the girls' father is in a city where there are no near relatives, it will make no difference.

In these fast paced days, I don't think people are left with that much time to think and comment on others lives. They have enough problems of their own. Even if they comment who is going to care.

Yes it is tradition in all most whole world that girls went to husbands house after marriage. But in some conditions boys prefer to stay at his in-laws house. My brother done it and later it was reason for his marriage breakup.

Staying with in-laws led to break up ? Sad. I know some cases, where son –in- law has been ill treated.

In most of cases son-in-law is not respected by in-laws. It is proverb for "Bahin ke Ghar Bhai Kuta, Sas Ke Ghar Janwai Kuta"

After marriage a female should go to in laws house, but when a male comes to stay in his in laws house, society will not accept this......

When you talk about society who do you mean? your family or friends , neighbors or community? Do they come for your help or assistance when you are down and out? Once you are firm and are sure of what you are doing noone will have the guts to openly say or do anything and what people say or do behind your back is really not worth bothering about...
As far as a girl staying with her parents after her marriage, it is left to the couple to decide and do what is best for them...

What’s good and bad for someone is well known to the people involved. Here, its their point of view that counts. Not the bystanders view

It all depends on convenience...My aunt lives with her daughter beacuse her daughter needs her help in looking after her teenaged sons who have a better understanding with their grand mother. Similarly her son lives at his mother in law's house because she has no one else with her, my aunt's daughter in law being her only daughter. which makes sense ! What others say is of the least importance here or rather has absolutely no relevance ..

It depends on the circumstances but normally females stay with their parents after marriage when they have some serious troubles in the marriage or they need support of their parents.

It depends on the circumstances but normally females stay with their parents after marriage when they have some serious troubles in the marriage or they need support of their parents.

No doubt, women stay routinely with their in laws otherwise their husbands aretagged as Ghar Jamai. There are exceptional circumstances when women may stay in their parents' house. It is more a matter of convenience these days as the joint family system is not so prevalent. Usually women stay with their husbands only - away from own parents or parents in law.

It depends on the circumstances but normally females stay with their parents after marriage when they have some serious troubles in the marriage or they need support of their parents.

No doubt, women stay routinely with their in laws otherwise their husbands aretagged as Ghar Jamai. There are exceptional circumstances when women may stay in their parents' house. It is more a matter of convenience these days as the joint family system is not so prevalent. Usually women stay with their husbands only - away from own parents or parents in law.

Yes its very exceptional when husband too stays with her wife at her parents house but sometimes it happens in the case when both wife and husband are working and they need someone to take care of their kids. :blink:

It depends on the circumstances but normally females stay with their parents after marriage when they have some serious troubles in the marriage or they need support of their parents.

No doubt, women stay routinely with their in laws otherwise their husbands aretagged as Ghar Jamai. There are exceptional circumstances when women may stay in their parents' house. It is more a matter of convenience these days as the joint family system is not so prevalent. Usually women stay with their husbands only - away from own parents or parents in law.

Yes its very exceptional when husband too stays with her wife at her parents house but sometimes it happens in the case when both wife and husband are working and they need someone to take care of their kids. :blink:

Some times it so happens that hubby goes out in connection of his job and wife feels comfortable staying with her mother in place of in-laws. She feels more at home with her mother taking care of her as well her child with esser responsibilities compared to staying with mother-in-law..