Marriage at !8+ years.

It's a common practice among Muslims of Kerala..particularly Malabar. More than 90% Muslim girls got married before 20-21. It's maximum. I think girls should study till 23-24 and after that, she will be mentally prepared to take responsibilities of a married life. Most people think, she just need to learn read and write. Many people won't allow her to go for work. That's the reason.....

Getting married or not should be person's wish but in our culture most of the girls are forced to get married. :evil: Parents mostly in rural area think their daughter to be a burden on their shoulders so they want them to get married as soon as possible but they are wrong as these days girls are equally good as boys there are many families who don't have a boy and their girls take up responsibility of their family and help them financially. :)

Its sad that many of the people are still don't understand it and they see the furure of their daughter only a marriage they hardly care for the dreams their duaghter have seen.This is bad our society should change they at least should give their daughter a chance to fulfill her ambition and let her do what she want to do in life from career point of view. :blink:

Friends in some cases, marriage may take place at very early age but later husband takes the responsibility of the girl and educates her. He allows her to make her career and move forward. He guides her and help her. This is common in Bengalis. However, I have seen that such thing is absent in for states people. They think girls are born to serve them. They mostly push their wife back into the kitchen. I have seen my friends crying because of such harsh and cruel mentality of their parents and in-laws.

Friends in some cases, marriage may take place at very early age but later husband takes the responsibility of the girl and educates her. He allows her to make her career and move forward. He guides her and help her. This is common in Bengalis. However, I have seen that such thing is absent in for states people. They think girls are born to serve them. They mostly push their wife back into the kitchen. I have seen my friends crying because of such harsh and cruel mentality of their parents and in-laws.

Its rare that girls get a chance to study after marriage as they get lots of responsibilities after marriage which they would have never thought of. I personally suggest not to think of studying after marriage but should marry after completing education. :)

Friends in some cases, marriage may take place at very early age but later husband takes the responsibility of the girl and educates her. He allows her to make her career and move forward. He guides her and help her. This is common in Bengalis. However, I have seen that such thing is absent in for states people. They think girls are born to serve them. They mostly push their wife back into the kitchen. I have seen my friends crying because of such harsh and cruel mentality of their parents and in-laws.

It can also happen in poor families of 3 or more daughters. In such families, we can't blame parents, if they conduct the marriage of first child so early. i have seen such cases

Friends in some cases, marriage may take place at very early age but later husband takes the responsibility of the girl and educates her. He allows her to make her career and move forward. He guides her and help her. This is common in Bengalis. However, I have seen that such thing is absent in for states people. They think girls are born to serve them. They mostly push their wife back into the kitchen. I have seen my friends crying because of such harsh and cruel mentality of their parents and in-laws.

Its rare that grils get a chance to study after marriage as they get lots of responsibilities after marriage which they would have never thought of. I personally suggest not to think of studying after marriage but should marry after completing education. :)

My best friend, I have told about her many times. She got married when we were studying 5th semester MCA. .....one year before the completion of course. According to her horoscope, she should be married at 23. Otherwise, it may take more years. Such cases also, we can't blame parents.
One girl, she got married and discontinued her PG studies first year itself...so sad :( . How much difficulty she got an admission for a professional course..... It was her parents' decision only

It is not at all good. Certain age criteria is there for marriage. Marriage after 22 years is too good for girls. Gens it is 26.

It is not at all good. Certain age criteria is there for marriage. Marriage after 22 years is too good for girls. Gens it is 26.

Age of marriage can never be defined though the governement has defined it as 18 years for girls becuase physically at this age girls are developed but that does not mean that they are mentally grown up. Its up to the person some may be mature enough to take up the responsibilities at the age of 18 years and some may not be even at the age of 24 years so we cannot generalise the age for marriage it may differ from person to person similar is the case with the males. :)

It is not at all good. Certain age criteria is there for marriage. Marriage after 22 years is too good for girls. Gens it is 26.

Age of marriage can never be defined though the governement has defined it as 18 years for girls becuase physically at this age girls are developed but that does not mean that they are mentally grown up. Its up to the person some may be mature enough to take up the responsibilities at the age of 18 years and some may not be even at the age of 24 years so we cannot generalise the age for marriage it may differ from person to person similar is the case with the males. :)

Kyaa baat sir ji... laakh take ki baat kahi.. its our maturity that helps us to decide when we are ready for it and not the age... God bless..

It is not at all good. Certain age criteria is there for marriage. Marriage after 22 years is too good for girls. Gens it is 26.

Age of marriage can never be defined though the governement has defined it as 18 years for girls becuase physically at this age girls are developed but that does not mean that they are mentally grown up. Its up to the person some may be mature enough to take up the responsibilities at the age of 18 years and some may not be even at the age of 24 years so we cannot generalise the age for marriage it may differ from person to person similar is the case with the males. :)

Real food of thought :P :woohoo: Wow!!! :woohoo:

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This was not good but what the parents did is justified by social custom. The girls might have mildly opposed but this would not convince parents and village elders.

This thing is not good but this bad things still happening in India I also have seen lot of cases for early marriage.

Friends such incidents are taking place in cities also. People don't give importance to female education. If a girl is class 12 pass, they think it is more than enough.

This was not good but what the parents did is justified by social custom. The girls might have mildly opposed but this would not convince parents and village elders.

My younger cousin got married before me just because she stayed in village and there its like that only. I tried my best to convince my uncle that let her study more she is still a child but it was too difficult to persuade him as he was like she is 18 now and later on it will become difficult to find a groom for her. Moreover even my cousin didn't had any oppositions for the marriage so eventually she got married at 18. :huh:

Actually this depends upon the culture of that place and society. Parents are doing wrong but society should stop this. Those who thing the daughter as a burden can do this.

Actually this depends upon the culture of that place and society. Parents are doing wrong but society should stop this. Those who thing the daughter as a burden can do this.

Parents do according to social customs only. So, if parents are wrong, society is more wrong. where is the question of 'society' stopping this.

Actually this depends upon the culture of that place and society. Parents are doing wrong but society should stop this. Those who thing the daughter as a burden can do this.

Parents do according to social customs only. So, if parents are wrong, society is more wrong. where is the question of 'society' stopping this.

Agreed the major evil is the thinking of the society and its long carried customs. Though the scenario in urban areas is much more open minded now but the rural regions still lie far behind.

Now a days the marriages are making after 18+ only but there are some places still doing child marriages. They also must eradicate from society.

Now a days the marriages are making after 18+ only but there are some places still doing child marriages. They also must eradicate from society.

This thread is not about child marriage. The girls are married at 18+ but even then they need not be married till their education is complete. The girls undergoing graduation and post graduation get 18+ much before completing their education. But parents and relatives give more importance to marriage than completing educfation.

Now a days the marriages are making after 18+ only but there are some places still doing child marriages. They also must eradicate from society.

This thread is not about child marriage. The girls are married at 18+ but even then they need not be married till their education is complete. The girls undergoing graduation and post graduation get 18+ much before completing their education. But parents and relatives give more importance to marriage than completing educfation.

No gulshan ji the society is changed now a days I can see many girls doing jobs. This must increase mostly in our society to have freedom for their education. So in future we can see many talented women in great jobs.