Being susceptible to flattery !

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

Yes....
I have commented in Chinmayjee's thread, "How to distinguish flattery from admiration?"......
We need to say 1000 words to make him happy, if it's just flattery while true admiration not need even a single word at all!!! Just a look or 1 word can do that job well ...... :) :) :) :)

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

Yes....
I have commented in Chinmayjee's thread, "How to distinguish flattery from admiration?"......
We need to say 1000 words to make him happy, if it's just flattery while true admiration not need even a single word at all!!! Just a look or 1 word can do that job well ...... :) :) :) :)

chinmoy Mikherjee is our topmost member. He has the rare distinction of excelling in quantitative and qualitative terms both. His posts are informative, logical, humorous and educative. This is as for as quality goes. He has also earned more than one lakh points. This goes to establish that he is No one in quantitative terms also.

We miss him since long. I hope he would at least occasionally appear on the site. We miss him like Gopis in Gokul.

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

Yes....
I have commented in Chinmayjee's thread, "How to distinguish flattery from admiration?"......
We need to say 1000 words to make him happy, if it's just flattery while true admiration not need even a single word at all!!! Just a look or 1 word can do that job well ...... :) :) :) :)

chinmoy Mikherjee is our topmost member. He has the rare distinction of excelling in quantitative and qualitative terms both. His posts are informative, logical, humorous and educative. This is as for as quality goes. He has also earned more than one lakh points. This goes to establish that he is No one in quantitative terms also.

We miss him since long. I hope he would at least occasionally appear on the site. We miss him like Gopis in Gokul.

Ha ha ha...
I think.....your admiration has really worked out.....
Seeing your comment, Moon has come out of his grahan after a long period :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
So, am thanking you also :) :)

I really liked this sentence...."We miss him like Gopis in Gokul. " :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

So true!! This just proves that flattery comes only out of selfish motives.

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

Yes....
I have commented in Chinmayjee's thread, "How to distinguish flattery from admiration?"......
We need to say 1000 words to make him happy, if it's just flattery while true admiration not need even a single word at all!!! Just a look or 1 word can do that job well ...... :) :) :) :)

chinmoy Mikherjee is our topmost member. He has the rare distinction of excelling in quantitative and qualitative terms both. His posts are informative, logical, humorous and educative. This is as for as quality goes. He has also earned more than one lakh points. This goes to establish that he is No one in quantitative terms also.

We miss him since long. I hope he would at least occasionally appear on the site. We miss him like Gopis in Gokul.

DITTO!!! and this is all sincere admiration, not flattery!!! :) :laugh:

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

We can very easily make out who is flattering and who is appreciating

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

Oh yeah, That was a great effort but he is too smart, he knows it well.

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

But your flattery worked sir.....Kanha returned back to his gopis :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Not seen after that ...
So, I think, you have to try once more :woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo:

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

A genuine compliment given with an open heart does wonders to a persons ego especially when the person is need of it, like for example , a student who is otherwise performing badly, does even a little better ,needs to be encouraged...

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

A genuine compliment given with an open heart does wonders to a persons ego especially when the person is need of it, like for example , a student who is otherwise performing badly, does even a little better ,needs to be encouraged...

Usha, you have put it perfectly well, but for a student who needs encouragement, I think we can call that motivation instead of flattery. And another thing that I feel is that a person who has quite high self-esteem, does not get swayed by any false flattery, because he knows his own deltas and positives and also accepts them well.

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

He is too smart to consider flattery as a motivation to keep him here!!

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

He is too smart to consider flattery as a motivation to keep him here!!

Yet we can try ;)

But I think, we should learn a little to flatter also, to keep him here....ha ha

Is my last sentence comparing ourselves to Gopis eagerly waiting for Kanha (Chinmoy) not enough flattery.

He is too smart to consider flattery as a motivation to keep him here!!

Yet we can try ;)

Try try! I have told you before too that flattery does not work on him!!! :laugh:

Many people flatter others because they have some motive. I hate flattery. I generally avoid people who do so. Compliment is good. I like that if I have really done something great.

Kanha was moody, this was his own decision and come and dance with Gopis while the gopis though this was their's choice, in fact Kanha had them dancing to hhis tunes. Kanha has bigger works to do. ;) He comes when he feels like.

I notice that most people are very miserly with their compliments when it is deserving, however flattery flows freely since there is no substance to it.. :)

I agree. People feel jealous of those who deserve compliments. Hence they are miserly in giving compliments. But flattery flows from some selfish motive.

A genuine compliment given with an open heart does wonders to a persons ego especially when the person is need of it, like for example , a student who is otherwise performing badly, does even a little better ,needs to be encouraged...

Usha, you have put it perfectly well, but for a student who needs encouragement, I think we can call that motivation instead of flattery. And another thing that I feel is that a person who has quite high self-esteem, does not get swayed by any false flattery, because he knows his own deltas and positives and also accepts them well.

True ! I think we need to strive to rise above that , where you don;t get swayed by flattery and are able to accept and appreciate genuine praise or compliment also well meant criticism !