Is divorce a solution?

Many factor lead to Divoce.First and most important is Love marriage.Second Forceness of parent.Some parents fix their child marriage in a hurry.They cannot have enough time to know each other.When they know each other then there will be too late........ ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;)

I don't think love marriage is the reason of divorce.I think you need to search some more reasons. :evil: :woohoo:

Many factor lead to Divoce.First and most important is Love marriage.Second Forceness of parent.Some parents fix their child marriage in a hurry.They cannot have enough time to know each other.When they know each other then there will be too late........ ;) ;) ;) ;) ;) ;)

I don't think love marriage is the reason of divorce.I think you need to search some more reasons. :evil: :woohoo:

Divorces happen in both love and arranged marriages. But love marriages are highlighted more. That's the reason!!!!

Difference in ideas is the main reason for divorces....also extra-marital affairs :evil: :evil: :evil:

It is not possible to statistically establish that 'love marriages' are prone to divorce. It's sociological problem and should be treated as such!

It is not possible to statistically establish that 'love marriages' are prone to divorce. It's sociological problem and should be treated as such!

There may be no statistics on divorce for arranged and love marriages separately. However, it goes without saying that the couples opting for love marriage are more individualistic and there is no or little interference by joint family. This individualism also may facilitate divorce. The joint family and near relatives may be in a position to intervene better in case of arranged marriage.

It is not possible to statistically establish that 'love marriages' are prone to divorce. It's sociological problem and should be treated as such!

There may be no statistics on divorce for arranged and love marriages separately. However, it goes without saying that the couples opting for love marriage are more individualistic and there is no or little interference by joint family. This individualism also may facilitate divorce. The joint family and near relatives may be in a position to intervene better in case of arranged marriage.

But can you say, in arranged marriages, close relatives intervene in the matter better if the lady is unemployed???
It only happens in Indian society, I think so...parents believe, even if she has to face a lot of difficulties in her husband's home, it's her duty to tolerate everything. If she is employed, parents may support her for a divorce. Otherwise, they will ask her her to adjust with it even if they know it well, the mistake is with the boy. Very often, they won't even intervene fearing it may make their girl's life more disastrous. Isn't it????

It is not possible to statistically establish that 'love marriages' are prone to divorce. It's sociological problem and should be treated as such!

There may be no statistics on divorce for arranged and love marriages separately. However, it goes without saying that the couples opting for love marriage are more individualistic and there is no or little interference by joint family. This individualism also may facilitate divorce. The joint family and near relatives may be in a position to intervene better in case of arranged marriage.

First the joint families are on their way out and secondly wherever these exist members too are too individualistic and treat the marital affairs of others with greater degree of sensitivity by remaining passive!

Of course the answer is No. The value of our life is even bigger than our thought. We can buy anything with money but not life and other natural. Only one life to handle with care.

Of course the answer is No. The value of our life is even bigger than our thought. We can buy anything with money but not life and other natural. Only one life to handle with care.

Really nice to see such an answer from a youngster!!!
Hai Joseph,
Warm welcome to our group!!

Of course the answer is No. The value of our life is even bigger than our thought. We can buy anything with money but not life and other natural. Only one life to handle with care.

That is so true, but sadly, now everyone has become more individualistic and materialistic which is why such problems are increasing in numbers!

I think the dimension of the problem is too big and complex to answer with a simple 'yes' or 'no'! Joint family system which has reduced itself to relic of the past is not so without reasons. The relative assertiveness of Indian women has a historical background of exploitation not only by males but females also!How can we expect an enlightened educated woman to accept all injustices which their conscience,education and very self-respect do not allow them to! In joint families their lot was far more miserable than what could be imagined.There existed a hierarchical system - the more influential in terms of physical beauty or money would let loose a reign of terror upon the lesser beings!

Very nice answer Joseph.Many new user come and gone might be you remain for longer period to serve this site..........

I think the dimension of the problem is too big and complex to answer with a simple 'yes' or 'no'! Joint family system which has reduced itself to relic of the past is not so without reasons. The relative assertiveness of Indian women has a historical background of exploitation not only by males but females also!How can we expect an enlightened educated woman to accept all injustices which their conscience,education and very self-respect do not allow them to! In joint families their lot was far more miserable than what could be imagined.There existed a hierarchical system - the more influential in terms of physical beauty or money would let loose a reign of terror upon the lesser beings!

Well, I think no one could have described it any better than you have! It is all so true, because of a long history of abuses at the hands of males and females equally in a big family, it is hardly surprising that no one wants a joint family any more, more than anything else, this is the major reason for rise of nuclear families!

Earlier, in our joint families (not seen anywhere now), not father, but uncle has the supreme power. He takes all decisions of the family. Woman always busy in kitchen or with kids. Can't even be seen in front of male members.
For those 5-7 days, they can't even enter the homes,well, kitchen, courtyard, bedroom etc. Separate outhouses for them....separate dress...even separate plates to eat food :angry: :angry:
Still, it can be seen in big joint families. But now, all our nuclear families now, such systems are gradually disappearing.
Why such discrimination for women only???

We must stop divorce in country like Indian.Most of the Divorce case is due to the poor understanding of Both partner.Opposite thinking might bring them at a Door of Divorce........

If divorce is a solution then there wont be any relation ships in families.

We can not stop it totally but can develop some understanding to make things better.

We can council people and stop divorce

We can council people and stop divorce

Counseling can often help to make up relations. But in most cases, couples see it as the last resort. At that time, matter would have become very worse

Yes councelling will help but also they must maintain good relation ship to continue that one.

I feel, when a couple appear for divorce first they should be counciled and then try to make them adjust each other. Mostly court should should see to make them together.