Does it make any difference?

sanjeev you are absolutely right. marrying or not marrying is someones personal. But the society is in such a way that if a person is not marrying then they eat that person by different words. They make that person go into depression.not only society even relatives poke with knife like words.

Till studying, no problem.
After that :angry: :angry: :angry:
I have tolerated it more than 1.5 years :sick:

my mother wants me to get married first and then my elder brother.actually it happens mostly with girls and i witnessed few cases like this that if elder sister is not married and younger is getting then people do ask about it and use wrong words.

sanjeev you are absolutely right. marrying or not marrying is someones personal. But the society is in such a way that if a person is not marrying then they eat that person by different words. They make that person go into depression.not only society even relatives poke with knife like words.

Till studying, no problem.
After that :angry: :angry: :angry:
I have tolerated it more than 1.5 years :sick:

my mother wants me to get married first and then my elder brother.actually it happens mostly with girls and i witnessed few cases like this that if elder sister is not married and younger is getting then people do ask about it and use wrong words.

My cousin sisters.....second one got married before the first. Both were arranged marriages

sanjeev you are absolutely right. marrying or not marrying is someones personal. But the society is in such a way that if a person is not marrying then they eat that person by different words. They make that person go into depression.not only society even relatives poke with knife like words.

Till studying, no problem.
After that :angry: :angry: :angry:
I have tolerated it more than 1.5 years :sick:

my mother wants me to get married first and then my elder brother.actually it happens mostly with girls and i witnessed few cases like this that if elder sister is not married and younger is getting then people do ask about it and use wrong words.

My cousin sisters.....second one got married before the first. Both were arranged marriages

may be people their dont mind such things and its good also but here i have seen this that even your relatives and neighbours will ask why your daughter is not getting married i dont know why they have more interest in other's house.

may be people their dont mind such things and its good also but here i have seen this that even your relatives and neighbours will ask why your daughter is not getting married i dont know why they have more interest in other's house.

People want to ask something while they meet. that's the only reason. Also, they will forget both the question and answer in a fraction of seconds :woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo:

Such questions generally arise when you are between thirty and sixty. Below thirty, people take you as a prospective groom and you have value in marriage market. As soon as you marry, your value is zero.

Beyond sixty, people may consider that you are widower. You need not disclose your marital status to everyone. If you are between thirty to sixty, your spouse may be left her home town. Nobody always accompanies husband/ wife.

It is best not to divulge your marital status to all and sundry. I remember that on one occasion, somebody told my parents that he had seen me with my wife at Railway station. He had mistook my fellow lady traveler as my wife.

After 60, people will be more eager to ask "Why you are still a bachelor?". I think so :S

For ladies, above 40

After 60, people will be more eager to ask "Why you are still a bachelor?". I think so :S

For ladies, above 40

This is if you tell everyone everything. Income, age, property and marital status are all personal. Let people guess. Occasionally, if you are spotted with a stranger man/ woman, people may just guess that the other person is your spouse. Let them.

I do not really see it make any difference weather some one is married, widow/widower or unmarried. People are far more self centered to think about such matters.

im not going far in my own house my uncle is not married and he is elder than my father and earlier people used to question about that but now none.

im not going far in my own house my uncle is not married and he is elder than my father and earlier people used to question about that but now none.

That's right and these question are what with which people get irritated.My cousins are unmarried and they don't go anywhere as whenever they go to some relative's place they start asking questions. :evil:

im not going far in my own house my uncle is not married and he is elder than my father and earlier people used to question about that but now none.

That's right and these question are what with which people get irritated.My cousins are unmarried and they don't go anywhere as whenever they go to some relative's place they start asking questions. :evil:

It can be considered as easy tasks too....as they need not find girls for those boys :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

im not going far in my own house my uncle is not married and he is elder than my father and earlier people used to question about that but now none.

That's right and these question are what with which people get irritated.My cousins are unmarried and they don't go anywhere as whenever they go to some relative's place they start asking questions. :evil:

It can be considered as easy tasks too....as they need not find girls for those boys :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

But they are girls and they are over 50 years of age. They are in to good government job. :)

im not going far in my own house my uncle is not married and he is elder than my father and earlier people used to question about that but now none.

That's right and these question are what with which people get irritated.My cousins are unmarried and they don't go anywhere as whenever they go to some relative's place they start asking questions. :evil:

It can be considered as easy tasks too....as they need not find girls for those boys :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

But they are girls and they are over 50 years of age. They are in to good government job. :)

I am saying about bachelors going to relatives......
They will have girls almost their age. Isn't it?

im not going far in my own house my uncle is not married and he is elder than my father and earlier people used to question about that but now none.

That's right and these question are what with which people get irritated.My cousins are unmarried and they don't go anywhere as whenever they go to some relative's place they start asking questions. :evil:

It can be considered as easy tasks too....as they need not find girls for those boys :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

But they are girls and they are over 50 years of age. They are in to good government job. :)

I am saying about bachelors going to relatives......
They will have girls almost their age. Isn't it?

but what if they are not interseted.. :unsure: :unsure:

Fortunately I do not know any one with chronic bachelorhood. All are married who are over thirty.

It is their choice of not marrying why we should not give respect them. When he is a pm means all will definitely respect him.

It is a personal choice to get married or not. But our culture is different . If someone doesnt get married at particular age that means there is a problem in that person and whole family will start forcing him for marraige. Once that person gets married then again family force for having kids within a yr..

This is more true if you are in joint family especially rural area. In fact, most are married. There are very few who choose not to marry. There are always exceptions. If somebody does not feel like marrying, he should not. An unwilling person will satisfy neither himself nor his spouse.

Moreover, the unmarried devote themselves more to social/ religious activities and work for society. They thus gain more respect. But there is also possibility of unmarried indulging in drunkenness, gambling and other anti social activities in absence of family responsibility.

It is a personal choice to get married or not. But our culture is different . If someone doesnt get married at particular age that means there is a problem in that person and whole family will start forcing him for marraige. Once that person gets married then again family force for having kids within a yr..

This is more true if you are in joint family especially rural area. In fact, most are married. There are very few who choose not to marry. There are always exceptions. If somebody does not feel like marrying, he should not. An unwilling person will satisfy neither himself nor his spouse.

Moreover, the unmarried devote themselves more to social/ religious activities and work for society. They thus gain more respect. But there is also possibility of unmarried indulging in drunkenness, gambling and other anti social activities in absence of family responsibility.

Yet everyone feel.....if a irresponsible person is got married (even with some force), he will change and will do his family responsibilities, save money rather than spending on friends and drugs etc....Isn't it?
Actually, in most of the cases, it has proved to be right. So elders are right also :P :P :P

It is a personal choice to get married or not. But our culture is different . If someone doesnt get married at particular age that means there is a problem in that person and whole family will start forcing him for marraige. Once that person gets married then again family force for having kids within a yr..

This is more true if you are in joint family especially rural area. In fact, most are married. There are very few who choose not to marry. There are always exceptions. If somebody does not feel like marrying, he should not. An unwilling person will satisfy neither himself nor his spouse.

Moreover, the unmarried devote themselves more to social/ religious activities and work for society. They thus gain more respect. But there is also possibility of unmarried indulging in drunkenness, gambling and other anti social activities in absence of family responsibility.

Yet everyone feel.....if a irresponsible person is got married (even with some force), he will change and will do his family responsibilities, save money rather than spending on friends and drugs etc....Isn't it?
Actually, in most of the cases, it has proved to be right. So elders are right also :P :P :P

yes sandhya di you are cent-percent right.if even irresponsible person is forced to marry and he gets too then he start realizing his responsibilities and even start taking them seriously.

So marriages are giving good responsible citizens to the country. ha ha ha. Isn't it?