Online friends are friends?

It depends on person to person how he get along with his/her online friends i also know many of the people claiming that they started friendship through net and slowly they become good friends offline also. :) That's OK but what to do with the people whom you trusted online and one day they come out to be a fake person but knowing many things about you?. How to get rid of such situation when this person is after you? :blink:

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

OMG!! The guts of that woman really surprises me!! You know what, you should have posted your experience to warn others, she looks like a smart scammer to me, she may have done it to others as well. That is a lesson for all, never get taken in by beseeching words of others!

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

OMG!! The guts of that woman really surprises me!! You know what, you should have posted your experience to warn others, she looks like a smart scammer to me, she may have done it to others as well. That is a lesson for all, never get taken in by beseeching words of others!

I did circulate the word around , to my friends and known members on that site ...she is very smart and knows her way around only too well !

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

OMG!! The guts of that woman really surprises me!! You know what, you should have posted your experience to warn others, she looks like a smart scammer to me, she may have done it to others as well. That is a lesson for all, never get taken in by beseeching words of others!

I did circulate the word around , to my friends and known members on that site ...she is very smart and knows her way around only too well !

But at least people know how she behaved with you and they too will pass word around, such people cannot fool others for long!

In social networking sites i have more friends i also doubt some times who they are or who is. We can't trustly say online friends are friends in my opinion they are friends for just chatting.

In social networking sites i have more friends i also doubt some times who they are or who is. We can't trustly say online friends are friends in my opinion they are friends for just chatting.

While talking with few online friends,you become close.
But we should keep every step very carefully, when sharing any details.

In social networking sites i have more friends i also doubt some times who they are or who is. We can't trustly say online friends are friends in my opinion they are friends for just chatting.

Actually I never chat with them unless I know there reality. I have many friends who are my online friends but as good as real life ones.

We can't understand much about Online friends than the friends whic hwe met daily.
Some are special one,but they are very few.

Those who get,they could be lucky.

There genuine friends in online friends also. the people who really give good value to friendship will does not have difference in online and offline

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

Yes some friends will be for ever and some freinds will be like a passengers in a train.

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

I know it happens rarely but but it is realy tough to recognise the reality of an online friends.And when we hear such cases our belief on online friends go down. :blink:

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

I know it happens rarely but but it is realy tough to recognise the reality of an online friends.And when we hear such cases our belief on online friends go down. :blink:

NO Sanjeev, you should not let that happen, that is stop believing,. because if you do then it closes your mind and the possibility of finding real friends out there! Such stray cases would be one amongst 50 or 100?? I don't know the statistics here but they are really there as learning lessons on do's and don'ts online.

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

I know it happens rarely but but it is realy tough to recognise the reality of an online friends.And when we hear such cases our belief on online friends go down. :blink:

NO Sanjeev, you should not let that happen, that is stop believing,. because if you do then it closes your mind and the possibility of finding real friends out there! Such stray cases would be one amongst 50 or 100?? I don't know the statistics here but they are really there as learning lessons on do's and don'ts online.

I have few friends online who i don't know personally but they are like my offline friends and i have learnt many things from them and one of those is Sunil he is like a mentor for me. :laugh:

It depends on individual cases.In my own case the people who helped me right at the beginning when I began writing articles have all become good friends.In fact I have met a few of them and have kept up a good rapport and communication.One of them was a British couple who even visited me at Mangalore a few months ago..So, it all depends on circumstances and also similarity in tastes etc...

Well that's really a positive response from you..

So far so good, I have no reason to complain since I have made many friends on line.I don't want too many close friends with whom I can share all my feelings, I have a few and that's more than enough, it is nice to have friends from all categories ..

That's really nice, Usha! and most importantly, what I feel is that the more clear you are about why you are online, also helps a lot. I have mentioned this elsewhere, probably in this same thread, but by showing more maturity and clarity, you attract a similar type of people, which helps a relationship to be what exactly it is meant to be, an intelligent and mature one, where there is equal give and take of ideas!

I totally agree wit that kalyani, no point in branding all online users as unsafe and out to con you.At the same time, once you interact and come to know a person one can proceed cautiously and over a period of time it can develop into a healthy friendship ..

Yes Usha, the key is to being more mature and to be able to make out the difference between genuine ones and phony ones!! Also, I see so many people who bare their souls to one and all, talk about their personal lives quite openly, and try to appear as extremely emotionally sensitive people. I feel that such people basically are out to con others by trying to appear what they MIGHT NOT be in real! And they are the same ones who cry 'wolf' or more precisely, 'con' at the drop of a hat!! :laugh: We see so many of those around!

That reminds of an experience I had on one of the discussion sites.I was friendly with a member who was from India. She used to send me messages on a daily basis about the difficulties she was facing with her hubby and in laws and the financial constraint she had etc etc ...I used to try and advise to the best of my extent.Once she asked me for 10 dollars since she knew I had just got a payout from the site and I transferred it to her paypal account without having any intentions of asking it back...But, the lady now never bothers to message or even post in my discussions nor does she respond to my greetings ! I simply find that outrageous - she is very much there and active on the site and posts and interacts with super confidence ! :ohmy:

That's what i meant to say. Would you say this lady your friend.No! :blink:

There are lots of people like this who are there online just make people fool and take from them whatever advantage they could. :evil:

This may not happen all the time Sanjeev, what I quoted was a stray case! As long as we are cautious , nothing much can go wrong...

I know it happens rarely but but it is realy tough to recognise the reality of an online friends.And when we hear such cases our belief on online friends go down. :blink:

NO Sanjeev, you should not let that happen, that is stop believing,. because if you do then it closes your mind and the possibility of finding real friends out there! Such stray cases would be one amongst 50 or 100?? I don't know the statistics here but they are really there as learning lessons on do's and don'ts online.

I have few friends online who i don't know personally but they are like my offline friends and i have learnt many things from them and one of those is Sunil he is like a mentor for me. :laugh:

See I told you!!! :cheer: :laugh: You would not have got such a good friend had you kept your mind and eyes closed!!