Marriage without dowry

I am a Punjabi but we do not follow this trnd, because we have decided against dowry in any case. I am father of a married daughter and spent lavishly with every thing possible yet paid no cash apart from a tilak of Groom and his close relatives.

No no... In our family too no one gave cash to Groom Parents,this system is not there.But Bride's parents do give Dowry according to their wish,so that in society the respect is retained.This has become common.

Punjabi ya de dil vaadde honde ne... Ki kanede ho tusi Sunil paji?

Koi shak? Me te kenna chaddo beyan diyan gallan te karo kamm di gall. We never let any one enter in to our household who talks about money in cash. Te giftan jinni marzi lelo. Golli kidee te gehne kide? :laugh: :laugh:

Absolutely Correct Sirji.My mother is just next to me and I read your last line
Golli kidee te gehne kide? and had to ask my mother because she is PAKKI PUNJABAN. to know the meaning. :laugh: :laugh:

Yes this is quoted as a joke only but not in actual meaning by Punjabi while in funny mood. Convey my regards to your mom.

I am a Punjabi but we do not follow this trnd, because we have decided against dowry in any case. I am father of a married daughter and spent lavishly with every thing possible yet paid no cash apart from a tilak of Groom and his close relatives.

No no... In our family too no one gave cash to Groom Parents,this system is not there.But Bride's parents do give Dowry according to their wish,so that in society the respect is retained.This has become common.

Punjabi ya de dil vaadde honde ne... Ki kanede ho tusi Sunil paji?

Koi shak? Me te kenna chaddo beyan diyan gallan te karo kamm di gall. We never let any one enter in to our household who talks about money in cash. Te giftan jinni marzi lelo. Golli kidee te gehne kide? :laugh: :laugh:

Absolutely Correct Sirji.My mother is just next to me and I read your last line
Golli kidee te gehne kide? and had to ask my mother because she is PAKKI PUNJABAN. to know the meaning. :laugh: :laugh:

Yes this is quoted as a joke only but not in actual meaning by Punjabi while in funny mood. Convey my regards to your mom.

Yes,she explained the meaning of it. I have already Conveyed.

I am a Punjabi but we do not follow this trnd, because we have decided against dowry in any case. I am father of a married daughter and spent lavishly with every thing possible yet paid no cash apart from a tilak of Groom and his close relatives.

No no... In our family too no one gave cash to Groom Parents,this system is not there.But Bride's parents do give Dowry according to their wish,so that in society the respect is retained.This has become common.

Punjabi ya de dil vaadde honde ne... Ki kanede ho tusi Sunil paji?

Koi shak? Me te kenna chaddo beyan diyan gallan te karo kamm di gall. We never let any one enter in to our household who talks about money in cash. Te giftan jinni marzi lelo. Golli kidee te gehne kide? :laugh: :laugh:

Absolutely Correct Sirji.My mother is just next to me and I read your last line
Golli kidee te gehne kide? and had to ask my mother because she is PAKKI PUNJABAN. to know the meaning. :laugh: :laugh:

Yes this is quoted as a joke only but not in actual meaning by Punjabi while in funny mood. Convey my regards to your mom.

Yes,she explained the meaning of it. I have already Conveyed.

Thanks a lot a karma for you as well. Phulo te falo... :laugh: :laugh:

Sarala there is some other countries which are very near to us they will kidnap the girl and rape her after marriage her.

I am also against dowry system. Some of them didn't take it. But i will say that it is the responsibility of the parents to give something to them if it is a boy or girl. But buying dowry forcely is wrong.

You are right parents of boys and girls always want to present gifts to their children at marriage time, this way they show their love and blessings.

Having dowry as a gift is not a wrong thing. But it should not demanded

I am also against dowry system. Some of them didn't take it. But i will say that it is the responsibility of the parents to give something to them if it is a boy or girl. But buying dowry forcely is wrong.

Yes, making the girl's future settled, helping her is really good. What they can give, it's OK. But bride groom's family should agree with it.
You are from southern Kerala, my neighbour. You know it better. How many families are made dowry 'not a serious' one???
I think among Kottayam Christians, it's not a big thing. They make girls well educated. Except them, all others are the same :angry: :angry:

Having dowry as a gift is not a wrong thing. But it should not demanded

I am not in favor of dealing people who demand dowry, they should be shown the door.

Even me too sunil ji, i already decided that if i have a son or daughter, i won't give dowry and i won't take dowry. If they want dowry then they should not demand, how much i want to give as gift to my daugter and son in law i give and i won't take dowry from daugter in law too.

B) Kerala is one of the most literate state but there is no change in the tradition.

In some parts of India Dowry is still asked from the parts of the bride. In some places they fix how much cash they have to give,what things they have to give,how much they have to spend for food and lightings.These is really bad they know it but they still do it. :evil: I don't know why?. :blink:

yes, in most of the marriages the guy parents demand money for making marraige and then they demand dowry . this is really bad. they wont even think how the girl parents provide them the money

And in many of the cases brides are burnt if they don't bring dowry with them or they are not treated well at their in laws house. :evil:

Where do you live SJ sir, in most such cases all relatives of grooms are enjoying free boarding and lodging behind the bars and paying heavy penalties in shape of cash and jail. :blink:

Even me too sunil ji, i already decided that if i have a son or daughter, i won't give dowry and i won't take dowry. If they want dowry then they should not demand, how much i want to give as gift to my daugter and son in law i give and i won't take dowry from daugter in law too.

I would have done the same way if my kid is a boy. But she is a girl. So, sometimes, we need to adjust to the society. Whatever my parents have given me, it's for her.
I have already told my husband, "I won't allow marriage for her, on a contract written, to pay a certain amount after 1 or 2 years of her marriage. whatever I have I will give her, no problem. But will never make promise that I will give her this amount of money after 1-2 or even 5 years of marriage. Search a boy according to that asset only. In case, we are not able to give her that money, they will make her life a hell!!! They won't count what they have got. But will take into notice, only that amount to be given. "

He didn't reply yet :P :P :P :P :P
I won't allow such a marriage if am alive :angry: :angry: :angry:
He should be rich in character, not in money or job!!!! I always pray so!!!

Wow nice decision sandhya and it is good for both of you.

Thats great to know sandhya your opinion and you are exactly right. I too think like this only

But in our country you can find less than 10 % men giving respect to women.

You are exactly right arjun. Not 10% also.less that men are not here