Indian marriage match system irritates alot.

But now not only a boy choose girl but the girl also choose the boy . Parents of girl also more awaken about selection of boy for their girl so that they can see a beautiful future of their girl with the chosen boy so every thing of boy and his family is checked or can say investigated before marriage.

You are right isha today the culture has changed it is not like the old culture.TO marry a girl the parents are taking alot of care on girls future.In some cases they are winning and some cases they are failing.

I think the system is really irritating though it is happening in both cases now-a-days. However to get geniune match such system is unavoidable but some limitation can be implemented.

Today it is quite impossible to get a genuine match to every one.

To me, the marriage negotiation appear very disgusting. These are like business transactions. At worst, these are like animal mating.

yes gulshanji what you told is correct it became like a business taking dowry and staying in life after the finish of dowry again it restarts.

I agree with Gulshanji. The word you have mentioned "animal mating" is justified.
In past, boy and girl were not allowed to see each other or talk to each other. They see each other after marriage. That's why many a times marriage becomes nightmare. I call it a murder.
A black man got married to a fair beautiful girl of much younger age.
Totally absurd.

There are many disadvantages as well as advantages in this traditional way of marriage in India. Some of these can be taken off such as having to show the girl. Instead of this the girl and the boy could meet at a appointed place and meet each other and share their experiences and what they want from their partners.

Another thing is that the girl should also have an equal say in the proceedings of the marriage and to choose her life partner.

Saying this, the trend is now changing for the better in the urban settlements where women and girls are financially strong and have their own views regarding marriage.

On the other hand, Indian marriages are not so bad that they should be taken off altogether. It is also a culture that has made India one of the most culturally forward nations of the world, where still the elders and joint family system enjoy a say in the marriage, where the whole family come together to enjoy a occassion like this.

yes i agree with Gulshan ji. In present days Marriage has become a business transaction issue.this is really worste

but i am not agreed . if everything is not discussed then in case if a drinker marriages with good natured girl then about that girl's future. she will have to live in hell like home . so it is necessary to discuss everything between two families before marriage.

but i am not agreed . if everything is not discussed then in case if a drinker marriages with good natured girl then about that girl's future. she will have to live in hell like home . so it is necessary to discuss everything between two families before marriage.

It is okay to see that the prospective couple are compatible to each other. The matter like drinking habit, character and health, personal like or dislike have to be considered. But the money and other considerations in nature of dowry or business deals are not proper. In a case, a boy would be accepted if he could get prospective bride's brother also married to some one in the groom's relation. This type of negotiation vitiates the sanctity of marriage.

You are right gulshanji every one must take care of their character not the money.

Some of the things are there that need to be discuss between the two families and after that the proper decision can be taken. As gulshanji,discussed in last post,these things should not be there. I have seen 2-3 cases in my building where i live. I was shocked on seen such cases and wonder how could these people do such marraiges. Its really ridiculous !!!

yes, even after negotiation some marriages do not work fine. I think who know what the person says is completely true or not. :dry:

Marraiges are really headache,when you think about the things which can harm you in future of your life. The internal things are very tense and frightening.

I dont know how parent think that they will select a boy for their girl by knowing only about his job, his color, how he look, what is his family baground,how many sisters he has and his start and all blablabla. but they wont think that in future will love will be in between them or not as love cannot be formed by knowing such kind of details.

arranged marriages are just a part of the gambling..how much can a boy and girl know each other in a short span of time.i prefer love marriages..

yes the system is very embarassing and needs to be changed but then to get a perfect match this is the only system that seems correct. else love marriage is an option!!