Should live in ralations be accepted ?

An issue to be discussed in serious.So I am not able to put some comment on this serious matter.

Lubna KP. Matter is definitely serious. But you can think. The issue is- living as married couple without formal marriage- is it ok- can we accept it- what will be position ocf children. Just think slowly and you will get some thoughts. As a citizen, you should also spare some thoughts. I think now you may give your views. You may take your own time.

I am completely in opposition of this act. I think there shouldn't be any live in relations.
These type of relations are spoiling the mentality of youth and also effecting their lives, though it is at its height at few places.
I think this should be banned.

I agree with you to a great extent. When a man and woman decide to live together, they should have no problem in going through a small ceremony in temple, mosque or church or in a civil court. But we should not streightway ban the relation. If the couple have some children also, they should not be penalized. such couples can be required to go through wedding ceremony even after they have lived in for a few years. he ceremonies should however be inexpensive

I dont know how to comment in this topic but some time infavour of this and some time I am against of this.
This is there own and personal decision but it will harm our society

There is a large flow of population from villages to cities and the metropolitan cities. Any couple living as man and wife are deemed to be husband and wife- married or not. Nobody verifies the fact of marriage ceremony. If a man and a woman come to me and ask for some room on rent, I cannot ask them to show their marriage certificate. I have to accept them as married couple. This is the reason for growing live in relations. at many places, people do not rent accommodation to single men or women. So they have no option but to present themselves as married and begin living together as if they are married. Such relation gives rise to live in relations. Many times, these are stronger than formal marriage. If a couple have lived together for a considerable period, say five years, their relation should be accepted.

The Supreme court has ruled that anything that is immoral need not be an offence. In a case pertaining to a Tamilnadu actress' expression of views regarding live in relations and premarital sex, the apex court has held that there is nothing unlawful about live in relations as well as premarital sex. No body can be punished by law for expressing views favoring premarital sex and live in relations.

While the Apex Court has cleared the air about the legal aspect the moral one still remains and in our country marriage customs and traditions are too strong to allow this werstern concept to be accepted and accorded social recognition and that to a great extent explains why this kind of loose relations is evidently confined to the upper stratum of our society.The common would always frown upon this.

What does 'soubhagya das' want to say out of his following post...?

"soubhagya das: I dont know how to comment in this topic but some time infavour of this and some time I am against of this.
This is there own and personal decision but it will harm our society"

India is a country who has supported relations between humans of the same gender.

I would not wonder if one day live-on relations are legally and socially accepted in India.

Harish- Extra marital relations and live in relations are certainly not acceptable in the society and these are considered immoral. However all immoral activities are not illegal. The apex court has only ruled that no body can be punished for extra marital relations, live in relations or airing views favoring these.

@Gulshan

You are right and domains of legality and morality are different. If I steal to feed a starveling, my action may be morally right but legally it stands at an altogether different plane. Now coming to the main topic,every educated person needs to have an open mind on concepts which originate outside our shores.I,for one,never believe whatever comes from the west is good for us.We need to filtrate these before we accept and absorb them keeping Indian realities in mind.Sexual promiscuity can never be good for any society.And live-in relationship should be viewed in this light and as I have pointed out earlier that its limited acceptance and acceptability are a clear proof of Indian psyche rejecting this.

The Apex Court judge during proceedings in the case of South Indian actress- Khushboo- referred to Radha and Krishna. In today's agra based newspaper, dainik jagran, the item is on front page. The devotees at mathura/ Vrindavan are unhappy at mention of Radha and Krishna in the context of live in relation. It may be stated that Radha and Krishna are worshiped. Krishna and Radha were childhood friends only and by no way their relation can be considered as live in relation.

Now I understood the topic of discussion.This is a serious issue that may destroy our Indian Culture.So it should not be allowed.

Yes, live in relation should not be accepted by Indian society.Cultural invasion is a severe problem.Beware of it.

Live in relation is not accepted by most of Indians- especially those in small towns and villages. The only issue is whether this should be considered illegal and punished. although bad, this is not illegal and courts will not interfere.

Live in relationship is quite common in western countries like US. However, the question here is about its acceptability.
To be acceptable anything in this world should have higher advantages and lesser disadvantages.

Advantages in this case are in the favour of the two individuals who are into such relationship.

Whereas disadvantage is for the offspring who are result of such relationships. The biggest disadvantage to the offsprings is the psychological harassment during their growing years.

Now it depends on the individuals how to convert the disadvantages into advantages and move forward.

As in the case of pre marital sex this also may be allowed by law.But we have to keep away ourselves.

The trend of live in relation is confined to metropolitan and big cities. The people do not actually belong to these places and locals do not know them. Nobody will inquire about marital status. If you find any couple together, you will assume that they are married. Thus, the couples can live together without formal marriage without any one noticing them. However, I do not know why these couples should just maintain live in relation if they like each other and intend to live together permanently. Only a small and simple wedding ceremony and registration is required.

Yes gulshan... the law says that the customs of the male are to be followed...... the female changing her surname itself says this!!!!