Should live in ralations be accepted ?

Such type of relationships are not entirely new to India!! We do have age-old traditions of Devdasis and nagarvadhus!! Also, until recently, it was considered quite honorable and manly to have a second concubine along with a lawfully wedded wife! Then why such a hue and cry over a live-in relationship?? At least in this, the man and woman are faithful to each other even if they are not married!!

@Kalyani

As long as the partners remain faithful to each other we don't have any problems but the arrangement on its face looks very loose and fragile unless it's structured on a legal form.

Kalyani- There is no problem with live in relations in metropolitan and big cities as nobody bothers even about the next door neighbor. The problem is more in villages. However, it is better to go through a simple wedding ceremony and marriage registration. Recently, I saw a court decision according to which children out of live in relation may inherit their parents property but have no title to grandparents'.

I agree with Gulshan,the legal implications have been highlighted very well by him.

@Gulshan, Chinmoy, I totally agree with what you both say! But where the question of being faithful to one other is raised, the relationship being legalised formally does not ensure total faith to each other! With couples spending increasingly more time apart from each other, there is in fact a rising trend of affairs outside marriage!

where the children's wellbeing and other issues are considered, I too agree that live-in relationship is not very beneficial!

Agreed! No law can ever take care of that.

It all depends on one's thinking and commenting and controlling such relationships is of no use.

I was pained to see that the spelling of 'relation' is wrong and nobody even pointed it out. There were also some other errors. I request members to point out any glaring mistake in spelling or grammar whenever they find. Today I edited and corrected the post.

Now you can edit it Gulshan.I think you put it like that even after seeing it to be visible to all.

Marriage is a bonding by society and law which shows the duties and responsibilities related to a couple . But live in relationships should not be accepted as this only give growth to cheating and violation of social code of living. B) B) B) B)

I don't think it is a matter of acceptance or non acceptance by others.If two persons decide to live together i suppose there is no law which can separate them.The right question probably should have been "Whether such a relationship is good for social infrastructure or not?" My answer to this will be that it varies from place to place. for a society like ours(Indian)I think this is not an ideal relationship because we worship tradition and even if the partners in a live-in relationship are pleased to get separated at some point in time, probably many eyebrows will be raised.In other places where marriage lines are not regarded as concrete as in our circumstances or to say it the other way where the marriage is not as a sacred thing as in our society, perhaps a live in relationship may flourish.

RAJESH CHANDRA PANDEY wrote:
[quote]I don't think it is a matter of acceptance or non acceptance by others.If two persons decide to live together i suppose there is no law which can separate them.The right question probably should have been "Whether such a relationship is good for social infrastructure or not?" My answer to this will be that it varies from place to place. for a society like ours(Indian)I think this is not an ideal relationship because we worship tradition and even if the partners in a live-in relationship are pleased to get separated at some point in time, probably many eyebrows will be raised.In other places where marriage lines are not regarded as concrete as in our circumstances or to say it the other way where the marriage is not as a sacred thing as in our society, perhaps a live in relationship may flourish.[/quote]


Marriage ritual is only one time affair whereas the relations are life long. The rituals really do not matter if the couple are understanding. In olden times, people rarely moved to far off places and it was totally necessary to conform to social requirements. These days, everyone is busy with his own affairs and nobody bothers if a man and woman living together had married or not.

It is however necessary to perform formal marriage either according to religion or special marriage for avoiding disputes on succession and other matters arising from marriage at any future date. Simple marriage without incurring wasteful expenditure is all that is needed.

There is no choice than to accept it in today's society. But it is a wrong step to discuss about it as it would worsify the social evil.