convience

I think the way of approach should be given proper attention. You can explain them the pros and cons of the same. Hope they will understand your problem and help them out.

parents cannot fulfill all your desires. They have their limitations and priorities. First, you should shed your stubbornness. You may give convincing arguments to parents for reasonable demands that can be met.

@Gulshan

am not saying that parents should fulfill our desires. But they should let us to try to fulfill the desire.

See i got job in Hyderabad. But for the sake of performing my marriage they didn't let me. In the name of marriage , they kept me in home from 3 years and am becoming mad by not going anywhere and i don't like to burden on my parents. I also have some aims and self respect. But they wont respect my aims and self respect.
I even tried alot to convince them to send me to job.But my dad is not at all agree. he told of he give the permission people will think about him that as he could not perform my marriage so he allowed his daughter to do job.

WE SHOULD TALK TO THEM WITH CALM NOT TRY TO BEHAVE LIKE I INSIST FOR THIS . WE SHOULD EXPLAIN THE BENEFITS OF OUR CHOICE.

i think parent have there own limitation so so fullful needs accordind to that.

@ Isha
as you said i even explained them and even tried to convince them so soft and calmly but they didn't agree at all.

Every parents have some limitation but they try to fulfill the all desires of sons.

I think explaining them things from your point of view with patience and letting them know about your dreams and future aim holds the key...Explain them why you want to do that, what are its positives, what impact it will bring in your carrier will surely going to swing their mind in your favor to a certain percent and the reaming percent will be won in due time...Best of luck!!!

@ Isha
as you said i even explained them and even tried to convince them so soft and calmly but they didn't agree at all.

why don`t you sacrifice aim for your parents to this period??

After getting married explain this to your husband then get a job....

I had misunderstood the issue. It is not a matter of your parents meeting your demand. You have completed education and got a job. So, you have the right to choose your career. When your parents have allowed you to get professional education enabling you to get an employment, it will be illogical to deny the opportunity to seek employment. First convince them and also pressurize through other elders and common friends. If nothing works, take your independent decision and action.

@Isha

Yes, good to get your idea, present am doing that only. but small hope to convince them.

And more over am near to 30 ,thats why i worry to sacrifice the aim. because in India no one will take people for job after 30. So now there is no other go.
thats why am so worried. I dont like to live life without any satisfaction.

This issue is not about fulfilling the desires but is the need of the hour that once parents educate their children, they should give them liberty also to decide about their career since you are harnessed with experience and degree in a particular field.

Still if he is not allowing you to go ahead and chose the career path,he is really becoming stubborn and selfish and taking such decisions under the pressure of the society, the cost of which is being borne by you.

Either put him under the influence of such people who have studied with you and are successful and have come out of the same circumstances as that of yours.I think comparision and relativity will open his eyes which can be a ray of hope for you.If not, go ahead and take a stern step and break the barrier in order to cross through the gate of opportunity.

sarala

I think what gulshaji has told is quiet suited to your situation. We often try not to hurt parents by trying to convience them but time will not wait for us and give us more oppurtunities. Try and try again but only if it is not related to time.If you think after 30 years you are not eligible to get job this is the best time for you to join that job with your own willingness.

@ rajani

Without the support of parents , it is not good to do anything in life

i usually convience my parents by explaining all the expects of what i am wanting and and i assure them that there is nothing harm and trust me thats it and they get convince only few matters are so on which they dont as they have fear in mind that i am a girl and still not so mature enough.