Our responsibilit is to respect, communicate, help, seek guidance and provide necessary facilities to them. Most important is they should not feel neglected.
To my mind to take care of their physical as well as emotional needs at their most vulnerable stages of lives should be the one we have to be particular about.
Recently I was approched by a retired gentleman who asked me about the formalities to bequeathe all his properties to any charitable organization.On inquiry I came to know that it was not a genuine to desire to do it out of any lofty moral drive but to punish his only son and his wife who neglect him and his wife! Just think of his frustration!
Even the pragmatic side of it calls for treating the elders with dignity ,careand respect.None is going to remaing young for ever and sons and daughters are watching our every act!
Chinmoy has given good example of frustration of elders in family. Presently, I am eldest in my entire joint family and so asking for responsibilities to the elders will appear selfish at the moment. While the young should respect and care for the elders, I feel elders should also adjust to the new environment. They should cultivate some hobby and not interfere unnecessarily. One should arrange for financial independence in old age.
I have noticed that some elderly people tend to be possessive in their families which at times creates unnecessary tension and avoidable bitterness in relationships.But that is the way of the advancing age!
I agree with Fathima's views that they should taken care of as children because this phase of life is also known as the second childhood!!We must not be too oversensitive to some of their comments or acts!
Experience of life is most important wealth earned by elders.This is why we must respect and seek guidance from them.
Its not that elders are always senior citizens.They can be two year older to us also like our elder brother.There we can't care too much but can respect and seek guidance.
To speak in a wider sense, our responsibilities are not confined to the four walls of the rooms or only to the elders of our own family but to the elders of our whole society and I think there lies the challenge and we do have some important responsibilities towards them also....
That's a very good point made by Ajay! We must respect the elders of our society. But the point they too have to be conscious of being elders and earn our respect!