Group Discussion Contest JUne 19 to June 26

As per my point of view .

Reasons of family breaking are as follows.

1. Due to modern daughter-in-law or bahu who do not want to do more work for all family.

2. Number of persons increased.

3. Service transfer.

4. Money.

5. Jealousy between family members.

6. To avoid responsibility .

Thanks Abid for the timely discussion.

My views are:
1. Lack of understanding between both the persons. When two persons married, both have their own tastes and expectations. Both are from different living lifestyles.

2. Ego and personal emotions. Most common feature amung ladies - don't kill me girls over here ;) , this is just my personal experience.

3. Stress is also causes issues sometimes. Imagine a husband came from office at late night and the wife is expecting household duties like taking care of children etc..

4. Heavy work at home in case of women, I believe they are the most hardworking than men - so above point can be applied here as well.

5. Lack of respect about other person's habits or likes. Common, you cannot expect the other person behave just like you right after the marriage.

And many more reasons which might be different from a couple to other or person to person.

The only remedy is give respect to other person's feelings and habituate the slow going nature instead of bursting out then and there. Surely you will come to know what happens at that point of time. After all it is one of the method followed by our beloved Mahatma Gandhi :) .

In my view reason for breaking in the family are:
(1) It may be possible that Wife does not likes Husband's parents . Wife can't handle the joint family situations. Wife don't like to work for the Husband's parents. In all,wife don't want to adjust in the joint family. If wife don't like to live in the joint family then at some situation disputes and fights my rise.
The remedy to this situation can be only one: Either, the wife need to understand and have to adjust in the joint family and have to tolerate what ever is going on or Husband and wife have to live their family and live separately.
Because to avoid disputes in the family ,its better to live separately.

The basic cause of family break up is incompatibility between husband and wife. Other causes are unwarranted interference of inlaws and others. Use of cell phoneshas facilitated such intervention. Cell phone is villain in many cases. In one case, too much use of cell phone by wife caused break up of relation. Apart from lack of understanding between husband and wife, many wives wish to live only with husband away from her parents in law and other members of her husband's family. Many husbands yield to wife's preeure but they feel frustrated. In extreme cases, the old parents need personal care by their son but the daughter in law is obstacle. A loyal son may break up his marital relation rather. There are often dowry disputes that lead to break up.

The remedy lies in proper understanding of environment in inlaw's family and other circumstances before marriage. Husband and wife are two different individuals and not one soul in two bodies as some times made out. Adjustments to each other takes time. Tolerance of each other and accommodating mutual views and interests is of paramount importance. Counseling is also necessary to enable husband and wife to settle their differences. The job of family counselers is also gaining importance. Both usband and wife should understand that even after break up there is no guarantee that another man or woman will be better than the current spouse. So, it is best to adjust and not break family.

Traditional family where husband is considered bread winner and wife the household manager is slowly vanishing in metropolitan cities and other big cities. The marital relations are more or less formal and lack the warmth. Recently, there was a report that many couples go without sex for several months. This is about couples living seperate from parents/ parents in law.

If the couples do not find time even to talk to each other as they are busy with job and other activities, there is no need why they should marry. Life is all abou relations and time management.

But friends breaking in family is good or bad? As per my point of view some way its good but its bad for persons who dependent on other family members.

So if everyone is independent then breaking is good.

Father's day i dont know why we are celebrating in india.we get father's love daily,weekly, monthly, yearly in short as long as we are with our family all the day's are fathers,mothers,brothers,sisters, every one. then why a perticuler day?
coming to the topic:
reason as per me
1. no understanding between both.
2. frustrated men/women takes out anger at home.
3. there is no trust.
4. having relation with other lady/men
5. the ego ofcouse
6. money and status.
7. domination one on other.
The remedies to stop such ISSUE IS
1.before marriage talk to the person and know him/her ,think "can i live with her/him for my whole life".
2.understanding is very much important for a wife and husband.
3. take him/her like a best friend and share each an every thing. show him/her that after you the rest come's.
4.in marriage there should be compermise an sacrifies
5.no one is big or small in relation. respecting each other is very important.
In india nearly 99% believes GOD. and in all religion we read that pairs are made in heaven. then why we play with our life like this? our sisters, brothers, parents we cant change than why wife? husband?. yes if husband is dead or wife than can find another for him/her. when alive and having children than why to seperate? forgot the promises during marriage? what effect will fall on children? do they dont deserve boths love?. it falls a bad inpact on the coming generation. india is not western country. we have to know this. learn good things from others country but not bad things.

am i right or am i right

Family disputes now differ from the past. Now the mothers-in-law and not daughers-in law are victims. There is role change. In many cases, father in law and mother in law have to seek redressal from tyranny of the daughter in law. The parents in law are infirm and they need more care in old age. Obviously, the daughter in law finds difficult to adjust in her husband's joint family.

Even where husband and wife live seperate from parents in law, ego problem is cauuse of break. This happens when both are working. The ego issue was well depicted in Hindi movie 'abhimaan' starred by Amitabh and Jaya Bhaduri.

There are some men who have divorced even thrice. This shows utter lack of adjustment with other person. such individuals should better not marry.

It is necessary to carefully understand each other and also family conditions of prtospective couples before marriage. Once marriage takes place, couple must adjust.

Individualist approacgh is more responsible for the break up of families. It is forgotten that marriage is not just a personal issue. This is more a social issue. Family is the basic socuial unit that upbrings future citizens of India. This aspect of family should be widely publicized.

But friends breaking in family is good or bad? As per my point of view some way its good but its bad for persons who dependent on other family members.

So if everyone is independent then breaking is good.

From individualistic point, family breakup does not matter if all are self dependants. As long as the couple are issueless, break up may be no problem. But if some one cannot adjust, marriage does not suit him or her. If you cannot live happily with one person, there is no guarantee that similar problem will not arise with another person.

Real problem in family brak up arises when couple have childre. Then the issue of custody of children and their proper upbringing also arises.

Family is not an individual matter. Family being a basic social unit need be given some seriousness. There should be heavy penalty and discouragement of family break up. We need more family counsellors for reconciling differences in families and preventing break ups.

These days in city there is not problem in family breaking but in villages still big families living together.

I have seen at least 60 people live together without breaking but from some days ago they started fight so breaking may soon .

Same fight issues in other villagers and break required to live all well.

Family breaking is one of the curse.There are many bad or good reasons of it.


Following reason of Family breaking:-

* Misunderstanding

* Money

* Trust

* daughters in family are to be married.

* infidelity


Communication,Sacrifice,understanding is very important to avoid break ups.

One of important is All family members are connected with their heart.

I think if family is combined then there will be more confusion and no one can decide that who perform which responsibility. some one will get more some one less so Independence required everywhere.

how much i know husband wife an child makes a family. braking of family means when husband and wife gets separated. no doubt other members are also considered as family but main family after marriage is husband and wife with children. i wanna know weather what i took this discussion as is right or wrong

when this discussion is telling about father. i ont think my point of discussion was wrong

Dear Sharon

Parent are always attach with family after marriage also. your child can feel family due to you and your husband same we can feel our family with parent ,me ,wife and child.

What a topic for discussion. Though the points I would have liked to highlight have already been covered by Maverick, but still I would put my thoughts in.

Causes Of Family Breaking:

1. Assumption:

We assume our wife, husband, children to behave in a certain pattern. We don't even consider their likes, dislikes, interest, hobbies etc. This causes inner mental stress, and the persons becomes frustrated and this ultimately leads to family breaking

2.Generation Gap:

This is the most common cause of family breaking. Parents are not willing to change according to the new thinking that their children was grown up in and also children don't try to understand their parents point of view. Both parents and children grow rebellious in nature and this leads to fall off.

3. Autocratic rule in family

Most Indian families have autocratic rule where the head of the family makes decision for all the members in the family. He only decides whether his wife would work or not, which course would his child take, what profession would his child choose etc. The other family members have no role in the decision making. The decision are just imposed on them and they can't even protest. This stresses them out and the best option they see is to part ways with the family.


Remedies:

1. Respect individuality:

Always respect individuality. Give your family member their personal space. This will automatically ensure that they will respect your private space too and will also have respect for you.

2. Have a democratic environment in family:

Have a democratic environment in family. Ask family members for their inputs and opinions in decisions. This will make them feel important too and whatever decision is taken, they will honour them.

3. Adaptability:

One must change with the changing times but yea, never compromise on your core values and principles. Values and principles are timeless, change the rest of things.


I am sure if these are implemented by family, it will reduce family breaking.

Relation between husbands and wives play an important role in building and breaking up of families. Let's take a quip recap of some of the vital reasons why a family breaks up and at the same time try to find out the remedies for the same:

1) Financial independence - It is a fact that the ratios of working women in our society are increasing and in a way they have that self respect, dignity and the letter "I" in them. There are many examples in our day to day life where husbands fail to understand this simple calculation and the end result is break-up.

* Remedy - Husbands should give the space to their wives the space to emphasize their point in their day to day activities and treat them as important as they think of themselves. Try to change the "I" factor into "We" and see the difference altogether.

2) Drinking alcohol - The mere consumption of alcohol or any other drugs on a regular basis and creating an atmosphere of chaos, menace and terror is another vital reason for family breakups.

* Remedy - Give this habit of drinking as early as possible if not for yourself but for the of your partner or family or get ready to wash your hands from a well balanced family life.

3) Physical abuse - There are numerous examples you might have come across in your day to day lives where a family broke up by the physical assault or abuse by the husbands towards their wives.

* Remedy - In differences will be there as far as husband and wife relationship is concerned but there is always a proper an appropriate way of solving these differences and there is no need to physically abuse your partner. The best way I believe is to have face to face and one to one chat where one needs to give equal opportunity to their partners to speak.

4) Extra-marital affairs - No wife or husband in this world could bear this when it comes about extra-marital affairs regarding their partners and this is another emerging trend now-a-days of family breakups.

* Remedy - Stay away from this and as far as possible try to build healthy affairs with your friends and colleagues and you will be happy to see that your partner even approve this kind of relationships.

5) Poor communication - Finally, as of now, the most important point or factor in marriage breakups is simply poor communication or lack of proper communication. Poor communications arises from in differences between the partners or husband and wives and lack of interaction between each other.

* Remedy - For heaven's shake think about the good qualities about your partner when he/she had been so much good to you and at least for the sake of those good times try to communicate and by doing so you not only be able to sort your differences out but boost up your relationship and make things easier for yourselves...

This is just my point of view to the topic.

According to me the family break up is mainly due to the misunderstanding and few other stuffs.

When a female gets married and moves to a new surrounding it takes time to get adjusted because before marriage she was free and she had her own rules and regulations and all freedom given by their parents. After getting married she is forced or no other go to get herself adapted to new surroundings and as a result there will be a huge pressure and burden on them.

Moreover the aged person will belong to late 80's and they demand or ask the young ones to behave properly. For example: She should eat only after her husband finished eating or should wear only traditional dresses and few other things.

As a result they are cornered and as they are also human beings they explode or show their anger one day and as a result it leads to family break up.

The remedy is try to be patience and also keep in mind that the other person is also human being and not your slave.

It is impossible to truly know the reason for why any particular marriage may break up. There might be numerable reasons that eventually lead to that point. The "what happens behind closed doors" philosophy is put in play here.

But invariably (disregarding any of the serious issues like dowry harrassment or infidelity) the main reason for breaking up is the low threshold of tolerance these days. Couples are so set in their lifestyle, that they are not willing to make the neccessary concessions to adjust to living with a partner. And with the stigma of divorce becoming lessor day by day, it acts as a ready escape route and removes all the pressure on a couple to make that effort to adjust.