How to deal with people who interfere too much into our personal matters?

People who care for us might often interfere into our lives. They do so out of concern. But often we come across people who are very critical, judgmental and always tries to put us down. That irritates me the most. How to deal with them without being rude?

Those who interfere uninvited and pull our leg, should be kept at bay. Still, if they are after you, without any hesitation, express your discontent with a harsh tone. You have nothing to lose but a bad element.

People who care for us might often interfere into our lives. They do so out of concern. But often we come across people who are very critical, judgmental and always tries to put us down. That irritates me the most. How to deal with them without being rude?

I only bother about my own people who care about me. On the other side people who make me down or make unwanted interfere into my matter, I just neglect or make distance from such person.

It depends wholly on us how we conduct ourselves - people take on liberties only when they feel they can do so or you too are dong so with others.It is a two way thing - you get what you give, if you are the kind who dont interfere in ther peoples matters they leave you alone.But if they still do, then they need to be politely told to mind their own business ...

I do not think that it always depends on how we conduct ourselves. A person's behavior towards others is also related to his or her own personality and not always on how others are treating him or her. They certainly do not understand the difference between giving advice and interfering. They take politeness as weakness. I think dealing with such kind of people is difficult.

I do not think that it always depends on how we conduct ourselves. A person's behavior towards others is also related to his or her own personality and not always on how others are treating him or her. They certainly do not understand the difference between giving advice and interfering. They take politeness as weakness. I think dealing with such kind of people is difficult.

Actually their opinion hardly matters , whether they think you are weak by being polite only shows their own lack of manners...However, when you are firm on issues people normal think twice on taking advantage of you and your affairs, thats my experience !

Yes I agree. Sometimes we need to confront them so that they will understand where to draw the line.

People who care for us might often interfere into our lives. They do so out of concern. But often we come across people who are very critical, judgmental and always tries to put us down. That irritates me the most. How to deal with them without being rude?

It depends upon situations, as in case of newly married girl, at her in laws house, there could be many interferances from her mother in law and sister in laws, at that time it is better to be quiet and watching the situation in new environment is always good.

People who care for us might often interfere into our lives. They do so out of concern. But often we come across people who are very critical, judgmental and always tries to put us down. That irritates me the most. How to deal with them without being rude?

It depends upon situations, as in case of newly married girl, at her in laws house, there could be many interferances from her mother in law and sister in laws, at that time it is better to be quiet and watching the situation in new environment is always good.

This situation is more to do with adjustments and also some necessary compromises which are essential in life so that we are able to maintain relationships in their right perspective....

There is no single or permanent solution for this one, people who love you and care for you will keep interfering in your affairs, trying to judge you no matter what you do. Only thing is to keep ignoring and doing your own thing, this works a lot, once they realise their words are unheeded, they will probably stop doing so or limit their attacks. Some times you really have to speak your mind out and let them know in a firm tone that their advices, as they prefer to call it, are really not needed and that you will ask for it when you really need it. That will send a message that you are an adult and perfectly capable of thinking for yourself!

Yes some situations need to be handled carefully and tactfully so that we can prove our points without hurting or offending the others.

Yes some situations need to be handled carefully and tactfully so that we can prove our points without hurting or offending the others.

Yes, most cases it works but when it doesn't and it happens just too many times, one really should speak out!

Yes some situations need to be handled carefully and tactfully so that we can prove our points without hurting or offending the others.

Yes, most cases it works but when it doesn't and it happens just too many times, one really should speak out!

There are times esp when you are stressed , when you find even the most well meaning advse or query annoying but later feel bad about it. In my own case , my mother is very particular about time and if I happen to tell her I have to do something the next day, she will start cautioning me the next morning the moment I wake up - You have to go or do a certain thing ! It is nice that she is so caring and anxious that I must not miss but sometimes it becomes too much and I tell her please tell me once and I will bear it in mind...LOL, my brother is short tempered and he explodes at times when this happens with him , of course later we feel bad , but such a thing can easily happen in life ...

Yes some situations need to be handled carefully and tactfully so that we can prove our points without hurting or offending the others.

Yes, most cases it works but when it doesn't and it happens just too many times, one really should speak out!

There are times esp when you are stressed , when you find even the most well meaning advse or query annoying but later feel bad about it. In my own case , my mother is very particular about time and if I happen to tell her I have to do something the next day, she will start cautioning me the next morning the moment I wake up - You have to go or do a certain thing ! It is nice that she is so caring and anxious that I must not miss but sometimes it becomes too much and I tell her please tell me once and I will bear it in mind...LOL, my brother is short tempered and he explodes at times when this happens with him , of course later we feel bad , but such a thing can easily happen in life ...

LOL...it happens a lot with me too, my mother too likes to keep reminding of things especially where my son is concerned and sometimes I too burst out and tell her that I am a grown woman and I can take care of him as well as she cared for us! Later on, I do say sorry for the outburst, but she just keeps forgetting that I really am a grown up person! :whistle:

Yes some situations need to be handled carefully and tactfully so that we can prove our points without hurting or offending the others.

Yes, most cases it works but when it doesn't and it happens just too many times, one really should speak out!

There are times esp when you are stressed , when you find even the most well meaning advse or query annoying but later feel bad about it. In my own case , my mother is very particular about time and if I happen to tell her I have to do something the next day, she will start cautioning me the next morning the moment I wake up - You have to go or do a certain thing ! It is nice that she is so caring and anxious that I must not miss but sometimes it becomes too much and I tell her please tell me once and I will bear it in mind...LOL, my brother is short tempered and he explodes at times when this happens with him , of course later we feel bad , but such a thing can easily happen in life ...

LOL...it happens a lot with me too, my mother too likes to keep reminding of things especially where my son is concerned and sometimes I too burst out and tell her that I am a grown woman and I can take care of him as well as she cared for us! Later on, I do say sorry for the outburst, but she just keeps forgetting that I really am a grown up person! :whistle:

It is the same with me where my children are concerned, and I am sure I must be aannoying them with my anxiety about their well being etc etc .. So basically an outsider should be extra careful while meddling or criticising anyone because it can be termed as unwanted interference ..

It's the person's discrimination that comes in to picture.who is in the middle of the action. Whatever, the person does, whether the person uses diplomacy or courtesy, the other person should know that sufferer means business.

It is the level of knowledge that becomes ignorance of situation as most of times illiterate people think otherwise than what literate thinks and that creates confusion and interference into personal matters.

Even educated and knowledgeable people break the barriers of decency and enter the Privacy of others unabashedly.

We need be courteous to all. There are all types of people. some have the tendency to interfere in every matter. This is not their fault. It is best to listen to everybody but do what suits you more.

We need be courteous to all. There are all types of people. some have the tendency to interfere in every matter. This is not their fault. It is best to listen to everybody but do what suits you more.

Too much of interference will be an impediment to your own regular work schedule and blocks your progress. Such interference should be stopped with courtesy also. In spite of this, if the people continue to interfere, then there is nothing wrong in taking a harsh step.

We need be courteous to all. There are all types of people. some have the tendency to interfere in every matter. This is not their fault. It is best to listen to everybody but do what suits you more.

Too much of interference will be an impediment to your own regular work schedule and blocks your progress. Such interference should be stopped with courtesy also. In spite of this, if the people continue to interfere, then there is nothing wrong in taking a harsh step.

If you just listen and don't argue but take your own decision, you save much of time and energy and also maintain relation. Also such persons will know in due course that you only listen but don't follow the advice, they will stop interfering.