Mother Nature is now my real mother
This is the story of the journey that begun when you gave birth to me and I took my first breath on this earth although it was much earlier for you to feel my presence within you. You are still my inspiration, my feelings, my achievements, my happiness and my sorrows although you are no more with me. How can I forget you my mom whenever I find myself overjoyed or down with my blues but I have found a way to go sit in my garden, close my eyes and imagine that you are still with me fanning me with your sari when the leaves of trees move or flowers touch me tenderly. I see Mother Nature looking after me after you have left me behind to leave me alone in this vast world full of problems unlimited, but you still are my ray of hope despite all odds of life.
Nothing has changed for me
I still remember the day when you breathed your last in my presence when I was sitting with you in that room in nursing home where you were recovering from your massive heart attack that happened so suddenly which left us in a shocked state. However we never expected you to leave us the day you left because you were talking to me in normal way and even trying our tricks of making me fool by playing puzzles. But how would I know that your last trick was to make me an orphan forever while you started to breath in reverse and left me speechless for hours. Yes, I did not ant to believe that you had gone forever. But nothing has changed except the fact that you are no more with me although I have kept your belongings where they used to be to keep me reminding about you.
Mom and child - The most simple relation
The world has seemed to turned around at almost 360 degrees so has changed the lifestyle, relations, family atmospheres but one relation is still the same, that of mother and child. I am an engineer but never understood the mechanism or components a mother has for her child. The mother is like soul, blood and life for her child who can give her life happily just to keep her offshoot happy and safe. The relation between a mom and child is straight and simple that needs no formalities, no auditing before expression of true feelings but as simple as flowing water of a stream with no impurities or wide spread universe with no end but no end of life as far as you can see.
Mom is your unlimited security
Most of us seen those forts built by kings of olden ages where they emphasized on security most as their kingdom were at the risk of outer attacks, you can compare your mother with those forts who keeps you protected from different dangers which might attack you from time to time. Your mother stands in between those possible dangers and you to keep you safe from all problems those may harm you. You may have grown enough big but trust me you shall find no better shelter than your mothers ‘Anchal’ a perfect umbrella that keeps you protected from problems, small or big of life. By the way, I can still remember the times when my mother would find a solution to all my problems when I was young and unable to find a way out to be exact she could do it even while I had grown big enough and that was so soothing an experience, each time.
I still remember those days when my mother used to ask me to eat even if I was not feeling like eating or maybe I was not hungry or due to food that I did not like to eat but the way mother kept insisting with love and false anger made me unhappy sometimes. Although I remember her today with expectations that someone to use that very tone to make me eat with as much love and force as mom used to do but that is no more possible. Perhaps the growing age helps us forget the relatives who have left us behind but probably relation of mother is the only relation that we cannot forget as long as we are alive. We feel it even more when our mothers are no more with us because that is kind of emptiness no one can ever fill up. I envy with the people whom I see their mothers keeping them under the umbrella of their love and remember my own mother with more emptiness in mind. I try to calm myself down and that perhaps the time I decide to go to either Haridwar or valley of flowers to seek peace of mind.
My suggestions to people who have their mothers with them
Although we all try to keep mothers happy as much as we can but if you are grown up parents try to think as a mother thinks ‘how you can keep your children happy’. Once you know the secret of keeping your children happy you’ll probably know the secret of love to fullest and also learn to keep your mother happier than you ever had done in past. You should learn to show your gratitude in a way that does not look false but right from deep of your heart because she deserves your best attention.
A- You need not keep repeating ‘I love you mom’ to show your love for her but you should express it in your every action in real life. If your mother is dependent on you, you should take special care to see that she is secured financially, medically and physiologically.
B- You should e her best support system instead of gifts etc, which work as secondary and as token of your love but not everything for her.
C- You should look at things as per her desires because looking at problems with your own viewpoint may not solve the matters entirely.
D- Let your spouse should know about your priorities for your mother in certain manner so no misunderstandings popup when these matter most.
E- You may not be with your mother all the time but keep her in center of your thoughts to keep her happy always because your mother is the one who brought you in this world and she needs your best care when she needs it.
Conclusion
Ask any child a simple question ‘whom do you love most or who loves you most?’ it may sound like a simple question but the answer would invariably the same. The words may differ but the meanings would be same ‘mother’. The relation I between a child and mother remains the same, the relation lasts an entire life with no consideration for age.