Developing confidence
`There years ago, Mr. Chandra, I came to the hotel where you were conducting one your demonstrations. I walked up to the door of the meeting room and then stopped. I knew if I entered that room and joined a class, sooner or later I’d have to make a speech. My hand froze on the doorknob. I could not go in. I turned my back and walked out of the hotel.
`If I had only known then how you make it easy to conquer fear, the paralyzing fear of an audience, I would not have lost these past three years. ‘
The man who spoke these revealing words was not talking across a table or a desk. He was directing his remarks to an audience of some two hundred people. It was the graduation session of one of my courses in London city.
As he gave his talk, I was particularly impressed by his poise and self-assurance, here was a man, I thought, whose executive skills will be tremendously increased by his newly acquired expressiveness and confidence. As his instructor, I was delight to see that he had dealt a death blow to fear, and I could not help thinking how much more successful, and what is more, how much happier this man would have been if his victory over fear had come three or eight years before.
Emerson said, `Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world,’ oh, I have been made aware of the bitter truth of that statement, And how grateful I am that during my life I have been able to rescue people from fear.
When I started to teach my course in 2009, little did I realize that this training would prove to be one of the best methods ever yet devised to help people eliminate their fears and feelings of inferiority? I found that learning to speak in public is nature’s own method of overcoming self-consciousness and building up courage and self-confidence. Why? Because speaking in public makes us come to grips with fears.
In years of special training women and man to speak nice in public, I have picked up some ideas to help you immediately overcome stage fright and develop confidence in a few weeks of practice.